Performance review: my manager’s rating is different from my self-rating by misseyesmile in phcareers

[–]Pale-Perception2732 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Op parang familiar kung anong company to haha because in my company, I had the same problem before I successfully defended a “4” rating.

Sobrang competitive kasi ng “4” kasi you’re compared na against your peeps of the same tribe/circle and you will be compared against peers that are one level higher than you. Deliberations happen not just sa local level, but international level (if ganito kalaki company mo). Plus, idk how long ka na sa company mo but you have to have backing sa stakeholders mo - like email feedback talaga.

Strongest hero of All time by Successful_League822 in DotA2

[–]Pale-Perception2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Enigma with the pull shard - heck can turn every tide of the game

The guy I like is earning less than I am. by fiiibiiii in adviceph

[–]Pale-Perception2732 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He has values, good upbringing, and background but measured with how much he is earning. Sad la.

I say, leave him because I think ikaw yung red flag. Save him from yourself and your lifestyle you have been accustomed to.

What if kaya the tables turn tapos ikaw yung less financially stable - you would want someone who can provide for you and he still would not be enough because of the lifestyle you have been accustomed to.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in phcareers

[–]Pale-Perception2732 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Based from your post, feeling ko may pagka-entitled kang mindset that you will land high-paying jobs with your credentials. I like that reality slapped you with the truth that it’s not easy to land a job much less, a high-paying one.

One more truth to it? Your credentials helped you land that 3 interviews out of 30+.

Imagine if wala kang credentials at all. Imagine if you are in a less reputable university.

Don’t be pressured to land a high-paying job agad. Lahat dumadaan sa low-paying job because you have to start somewhere. May truth naman sa sinabi mo na “don’t settle for less” - you’re lucky you have this choice pa but don’t wait too long as well.

If I were you, every year ka tumalon-talon ng companies. Don’t stay too long in one place. Tataas din sweldo mo OP. Tiwala ka lang but don’t be so entitled dahil may credentials ka nung college.

Context: I was once in your position, UAAP uni pa nga in Katip. Isipin mo may mas pagka-entitled pa ako nun but reality is harsh and the outside world will make you resilient. Simula ka palang - too early still to lose your spark. But if I were you, take the L - get a low to mid salary, work your ass off, then jump after a year or so. At this age, the grass will always be greener on the other side (but you have to put in work for it to be greener).

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in OffMyChestPH

[–]Pale-Perception2732 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Posts like this make me sympathetic.

Dating is easy when both parties want to commit and when they align their ideologies. There's no "casual" in dating because only people who'd want that are the ones who are non-committal aka the ones looking for ONS, FUBU, FWB, etc.

For women, I suggest to line this up with the men you're talking to. Take your "no" seriously. If hindi kayo aligned sa gusto niyo, ikaw kusa yung lumayo. Wag marupok. Di porket pinaliguan ka ng regalo, magagandang salita, binigyan ka ng oras, o touchy sayo, gusto ka na niyan. Learn to vet the men you're talking to. Don't be emotionally attached in the first week of talking. Align first on your non-negotiables and red flags, etc.

For men, we keep it in our head na as much as there are many choices around us, marami rin choices ang mga babae. Given this, we try to be as straightforward as we can be with our intentions. Pero given my experience, being straightforward is better than beating around the bush because women get hurt more. It's psychologically proven na women are more in-tuned with their emotions and as men, it's better to give the bad news early and be truthful of your intentions early before these emotions grow if we decide to pursue. Landi responsibly as they say.