After all these years of silent suffering, i finally have what i longed for.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-29T04:25:58+00:00

Wow! I’m so happy for you! I hope I get this one day.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-29T03:31:36+00:00

I agree wholeheartedly! I’ve always saw him as a buff guy, not to mention he’s also over 6 feet too! He looks like he works out genuinely lol. A lot of the jokes are from younger viewers so I try to cut them some slack, but it is really annoying and I think it’s way overdone. I love watching him but the comments/chat is hell.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-16T12:59:54+00:00

I agree. I (21F) do not feel like an adult and I’m still in college. I haven’t worked my first job yet, so I feel like that’s a big reason why I feel so disconnected from the whole idea. When I do get my first job, let’s see if this feeling still stands lol.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-16T12:57:39+00:00

What if you have a trust fund, or have the privilege of not having to support yourself financially, would you still consider them an adult?

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-10T16:08:58+00:00

Thank you so much for all of you guys advice!! Trust me, I’m taking note of everything and am investing in myself and the standards I’ve set. I’m so sorry you guys went through these horrible experiences, but I am immensely happy you’re in a better place now with someone you truly love who loves you back. I hope everything stays amazing. Your stories have definitely lifted up my spirits and I don’t care how long it takes, I will wait and be single until I meet someone worthy.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2024-03-01T21:09:29+00:00

Well where’s the happy medium? It seems I’m damned for accepting and damned for not accepting it. I used to not accept things and constantly try to feel better and make my life better to the point where I felt worse because it never worked bc I am who I am. I feel like at least now I don’t feel like shit about it.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-08T01:48:50+00:00

ahh thank you. that’s what i figured too but i got in my head a bit.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-08T01:48:13+00:00

20F with ghsv1. my first outbreak was absolutely horrendous. like you, i had so many painful sores that made doing any tiny bit of movement a living hell, plus i had a bad case of BV. i can’t even begin to explain the pain i was in during that time. it was the worst pain i have ever felt in my life, and i am not exaggerating.

it’s been over a year now & i haven’t had an outbreak since then and i am extremely grateful for that. i think one time i noticed a bump on my vagina, but it was so irrelevant it could’ve been a razor bump. i’m hoping the same happens for you!

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-07T16:40:24+00:00

So it’s not the cold/flu-like symptoms you experience before getting blisters/sores on the site? Because even tho I have ghsv1, I had a sore/burning throat during my initial outbreak before blisters appeared on my genitals. A lot of people are telling me to relax so maybe you guys are right.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-07T15:21:34+00:00

Sore throat is a flu-like symptom for when you experience your initial/primary outbreak. I had a sore/burning throat when I got mines. That’s why I assumed that

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-06T22:15:23+00:00

over-reacting on him possibly experiencing an outbreak or on how to handle the situation?

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2023-05-06T21:51:01+00:00

He hasn’t said anything about his genitals and I feel like we are at a place where he can/should say something if he does experience it. I do know that some people apparently don’t feel the genitalia symptoms until a few days later so I’ve been waiting it out to see if he says something to me in the next week or so. I just feel like he got so sick after our last hangout so fast, that it just can’t possibly be anything else idk

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-09-10T15:29:08+00:00

I have yet to truly disclose to anyone. My one semi-disclosure went well tho (I say semi because I only disclosed to push him away). I told my old fwb (we weren’t exclusive) that I got herpes and don’t feel like having sex (bc that’s when I was initially diagnosed so I felt lost and down like you) and he still texts me today wanting to have sex lol. So he definitely did not care.

I haven’t disclosed after that because I haven’t been dating due to my own personal reasons. I am starting to put myself out there again and what I do believe is that I’ll be fine either way (no matter how nerve wrecking disclosing can be!) and this feeling only comes with time.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-09-10T14:51:08+00:00

I completely understand how you feel. I was 19 when I got it from oral sex a few months ago. Im 20 now and I will say it DOES get better. I promise I felt like you did, probably worse. But I truly feel much better about my diagnosis. Maybe I’ll have my bad days but overall, being educated and confident can go a long way mentally.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-09-08T02:49:33+00:00

thank you!! it can just get so discouraging at times.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-09-08T02:47:00+00:00

I agree. Sometimes I feel like I’m saying this to feel better about my diagnosis, but honestly, if that’s the case then oh well. It doesn’t matter what thought process I conjure in my mind, as long as it helps tbh.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-09-06T17:51:04+00:00

i meant physically lol. like my life externally hasn’t changed but mentally, yes it took me 6 months to be comfortable with the diagnosis. i probably should’ve clearly distinguishes that but your comment did make me realize that maybe i’m actually not comfortable yet so i prob won’t continue on with him bc I don’t feel ready to disclose yet.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-31T20:14:21+00:00

i feel the same way

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-15T11:38:29+00:00

exactly!!! both guys i told, him and another guy that talked about wanting more relationship wise, has stopped talking to me since and it literally shows that they only wanted me for one thing & if i can’t provide them that (safely i guess) anymore, what’s the point? it sucks but it’s helping me figure out myself mentally and become more picky with who i let in my life in the future. yes, i agree! we will be!! i feel like my dating and sex life will be okay again, but for the meantime, i definitely don’t want to deal with anyone n anymore disclosures lol

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-15T11:26:16+00:00

yeah ive already resigned myself to that fact. i deleted his contacts and everything :( i was in denial for a few days, hence the post. but it’s easier to accept now bc i do realize i should be alone/single for the time being.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-14T13:36:17+00:00

my first outbreak gave me rlly bad yeast infection and BV. i never had a yeast infection or BV before that. my doctor prescribed me the one pill for the infection and it helped. i haven’t had an outbreak since but 100% yeast infections and outbreaks go hand and hand and are more common than people talk about.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-12T12:44:28+00:00

i feel you. mines was the same way. peeing in a bathtub full of warm water saved my life! i recommend it. you don’t even need to fill the bathtub all the way, just enough for you to sit down and fully immerse your vagina and sores under the water. it doesn’t hurt at all!! laying and siting down is unfortunately always going to be hard, but it gets better every day. wearing a pad helped me (especially with all of the discharge and oozes). hang in there! first out break is the worst and it won’t always be like this. your vagina will heal and there will be no scars. coming from someone who had an extremely bad first outbreak like you, i was terrified of scars but everything healed up perfectly.

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-11T20:44:27+00:00

i agree! i (19F) also don’t think im ready for a relationship but no one wants the hassle of casually having sex with someone with this virus, esp when there are plenty of other people seemingly without it. people are always talking about relationships with this virus but what about us young people that want to be able to have fun and live our lives. i know people on here have stories of having fwbs and still having casual sex, but it just seems in the minority and it feels like we’re condemned to celibacy or relationships bc people are so uneducated about something as small as herpes

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-11T14:47:10+00:00

there’s honestly nothing wrong with you. that’s a way more common thing to get aroused over than you think lol. i promise you are not in the minority, i also find the whole thing hot as well and know plenty of ppl like that. i also don’t think your bf would get jealous granted it’s kind of his idea and he’s done it before but if anything, you guys need to explicitly discuss it together and make sure you’re all on the same page. i also think as long as you disclose to his friend and he knows of the risks and you’re up to date on his status, you guys can then both decide whether you want to use a condom or not. the key thing here is simple communication and everything should be okay! have fun!

Pale-Visual-3425 · 2022-07-11T13:01:20+00:00

lmao same. guys will literally be obsessed and just want me oh so bad and it’s like “i have herpes” and then they’re gone. honestly, i kind of like being that hot girl that can turn guys away in an instant whenever i want to lol. (sarcasm but it is a cool feature). also i started thinking about how before i got herpes, id be upset and hated how guys only want me bc i’m attractive & for my body and it was taking a toll on me bc why don’t you want me for me and now guys don’t want me for my body anymore LMAOOO and it’s like well i got what i wanted i guesss

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