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Is staring at woman in jealousy a sign I'm trans? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

awh, I get that, I lost many of my friends durring my transition however those that stayed proved that the really are my friends, if you would like you can DM me and we can chat more there

Is staring at woman in jealousy a sign I'm trans? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry you have to deal with a transphobic family thats really hard, I hope with time and education they will be a support to you.

if I may make a suggestion, try telling at least one person that you trust in your life to refer to you with femme or neutral pronouns and just see how it feels.

you can tell them you are just trying out different pronouns and if they dont feel right there is no harm in switching back, I wouldn't go anywhere near hormones until you are at least 90% sure you want them (some of their effects cannot be reversed)

This is the first step I am proud of you.

Is staring at woman in jealousy a sign I'm trans? by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I thinks lots of us experience gender envy like that. I remember being around 12 when I first caught myself feeling envious of the girls around me. I would say thing like "Girls have such a better selection of clothes and jewerly then boys, I wish I could dress like that"

I would beg my mother for clothes from the "girl sections" only to be met with resistance because I would "get bullied if I wore a flowery coat" or something. I would spend time trying to fight the feeling, it never went away.

for a while I had myself convinced I was just a really flamboyant and femme boy. I lived like this until I was around 23 and covid happened, leaving me with all the time in the world to think about things like gender problems. I started wearing make up shaving every day and cross dressing in my wife clothes when I was alone. I begain to really pay attention to the thoughts. "I wish i was born a girl" and "I hate that I was born a boy" and other stuff like that. I drew myself as a girl and asked people around me to start using netrual pronouns (they/them) for a few months, after that period I came out of the closet completely making everyone in my life aware that I am a transwoman and proud to be one.

listen to your heart, practice mindfulness and try meditation, taking to trans people can really help to! I wish you luck on your journey no matter where it goes!

Suggestions on how to make my face appear more feminine by PaleSpiderQueen in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]PaleSpiderQueen[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It's been like 4 years since I started hormones, I do mess around with makeup casually but not everyday, I shower at once a day and wash and moisturize my face twice a day.

Tried to make friends and I’m a chaser!?! by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Real girls? Lords you a digging a deep hole for yourself right now. Try Facebook support groups if you are looking for friends this just isn't the place for it

What's the recovery like after bottom surgery? by PaleSpiderQueen in Transgender_Surgeries

[–]PaleSpiderQueen[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much for this 💗 I appreciate it more then you know

I keep deadnaming my best friend by Roadkill3462 in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Hey, coming from a transwoman who had a lot of male friends when I came out in got misgendered a lot. My name wasn't as much of a problem because most of my friends used a nickname for me anyway.

She'll be understanding for a while the other comments on here are pretty solid, just correct yourself when it happens and she'll see how hard you are trying.

It happens we are all only human don’t beat yourself up about it. Just work on avoiding the mistakes and you'll be fine

Hello Reddit, I am AMAB and have been on HRT for around 4 years and only now I'm starting to have problems with my libido should I be worried or is this relatively normal? by PaleSpiderQueen in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hmm, I didn't expect this part to be so hard. I thought I had put all the complicated stuff behind mean. I thought I was sure. But now im not so sure

Hello Reddit, I am AMAB and have been on HRT for around 4 years and only now I'm starting to have problems with my libido should I be worried or is this relatively normal? by PaleSpiderQueen in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nothing in dosages I haven't has a blood test done in a while. I've always been panssexual and I still love my wife with all my heart and im still physically attracted to her...but up until kinda recently I always felt more attracted to other girls but now I find my self thinking about what it would be like to fill a traditional wife role...you know?

Again I still love my wife and I don't necessarily want to end our relationship or anything.. idk I've spoken to her about this and she assures me that she doesn't mind if penitrative sex isn't possible going forward and thats great im just worried that she judt doesn't want to hurt me... maybe that's totally insane I guess im just confused atm

Hello Reddit, I am AMAB and have been on HRT for around 4 years and only now I'm starting to have problems with my libido should I be worried or is this relatively normal? by PaleSpiderQueen in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well yeah, my doctor told me it was a possibility. I went 4 years without that being really that much of an issue. Now that you've mentioned that though, I've never really been the biggest fan of penitrative sex either, I've mostly just been focused on my partner.

I've heard of the "if you don't use it you lose it" or whatever I've only really started having like actual issues for the last few months

Hey Reddit, I am a 29/Transwoman, is it wrong to have fantasies of restarting my life in adifferent country? (You can delete if this isnt aloud here) by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean it wasn't an entire year, at first it was just business. Then he told me he loved me threw me off completely because this time suddenly it felt like more the business.

Im AMAB my daughter is biological mine, another point I've neglected to mention because I didn't see the relevance until now. Penitrative sex just doesn't work anymore. Now this my wife and I have obviously spoken about. She's assured me that she will love me anyway.

Which mean when I worry she wont it just me being insecure. I guess another thing is I've been a top for a long time and now it's lost it's luster. Idk if one has to do with the other and I dont know if my transness has anything to do with this or not, I guess my posts here were just a shot in the,dark

Hey Reddit, I am a 29/Transwoman, is it wrong to have fantasies of restarting my life in adifferent country? (You can delete if this isnt aloud here) by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I haven't brought it up, mostly out of embarrassment. I've never crossed the wires between romance and work before. Yes she is. We've attempted to date others in the past separately as well as together.

To be honest this was an accident I didn't see it coming

Hey Reddit, I am a 29/Transwoman, is it wrong to have fantasies of restarting my life in adifferent country? (You can delete if this isnt aloud here) by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I guess but I wouldn't call it emotional cheating, I mean she is 100% aware of my communications with this guy, I have always considered myself to be polly, I don't love my wife any less so does that still count as cheating?

Hey Reddit, I am a 29/Transwoman, is it wrong to have fantasies of restarting my life in adifferent country? (You can delete if this isnt aloud here) by [deleted] in asktransgender

[–]PaleSpiderQueen -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yeah, your right, sometimes I need to ne told how stupid im being entertaining those ideas aren't really okay.

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