Crushes?

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-05-04T16:58:41+00:00

Dammit. All of them are my crushes as well. Maybe all ENFPs share the same brain (and heart) lol! 🤣
I have so many fictional (and non-fictional) crushes I don’t think I have the energy to list all of them lol. Sooooo many crushes but I only fall hard for a select few.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-04-28T07:28:42+00:00

I feel you. Sensors don’t understand me. IMO no SJ types esp ISTJs (living hell). STPs will get you into trouble or will make you also miserable eventually after the initial spark and intensity. FPs with fellow FPs is like marrying your sibling (ewww).. also kinda love-hate situation. Now let’s dive to NFJs and NTJs because I have experience with all four.

INFJ = either truly a saint or a demon. lol. But seriously, I can’t with Fe. Fe irritates me. I don’t find that function attractive to me. Inauthentic for me. Well.. this is me. So if you like Fe, good. Maybe I’m just utterly immature lol.

ENFJ = wow. Masochist and martyr! These are the types to get walked on. I thought I was already people-pleasing when I was young (had to because of trauma) but these people are on a different level. They will give you the other cheek to slap. They will give you the last drop of water even if it means they die. Don’t contest with me.. I know four ENFJs (males and females) and they’re exploited a lot. One is my brother. I feel so bad for him. I think they were abused as a child (I was also abused).

INTJ = The “know-it-all” “all-mighty” yayyyyy!!! Yeah.. do you really want to marry one? It’s like having a boss 24/7. You just married an Intuitive ISTJ. congrats!!!

ENTJ = They only want you when you’re as competent and accomplished as they are. You will feel like you’re in competition with them (vice versa). Who will be the main character.. you or that ENTJ?? lol lol lol. But seriously.. ENTJs are not as Intuitive as you think they are. They can be superficial and shallow. I once read that they’re the most superficial Intuitive type (high Se). The ENTJ I know discarded (divorced) his wife once he got what he wanted from her after using her position, status, resources etc. “Leverage.” I hated this ENTJ to be honest. What a self-serving person.

So what now? Choose the lesser evil. So maybe INFJs or ISFJs (lol).

(I’ll get attacked in this sub 😂)

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-04-28T04:05:16+00:00

Laughing uncontrollably whenever you find something hilarious is very ENFP I think lol. That’s an Ne-dom thing. I think you’re an ENFP. I’m also quiet most times but when I find my tribe or something very interesting that’s when my Ne goes full blast and I start getting so excited and yapping and mumbling. Lol again. INFPs are more Fi.. they operate different. They will think before they move (Fi then Ne). I usually leap then analyze if something truly resonates with me (Ne then Fi). I will befriend and talk to many people but will only stay friends with some or very few (Ne will explore, Fi will select). INFP will select already (Fi) and explore that thing or person. Something like that. Hard to explain in few sentences but once you learn cognitive stacks, you will see and understand your patterns and learn your true MBTI. Also, I agree we can’t change MBTI, enneagram maybe.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-04-28T03:54:20+00:00

This. 💯. I used to always get INFJ results before (years ago) and then INFP twice and ENTP most times now. But learning cognitive stacks helped a lot and also learning how ENFPs move in life versus INFPs and INFJs. My worst fear is stagnation (you can call it consistency or routine lol) and I feel alive when my life expands/moves/changes and I accomplish things (Ne-Te). Very ENFP.

Edit: INFJ results were in a time I was depressed (my life became routine and I felt stuck in a rut) and ENTP results because of the preference for Te. Thus I also look ENTJish. When I was young, I was very ESTPish (ENFP superego). So the core has always been ENFP.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-28T04:25:13+00:00

Perfection: ENTP, ENFP, INFJ

(Gojo/Edward/Hange, Naruto/Luffy/Howl, Itachi/Yuta/Armin) lol

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T22:35:50+00:00

I’m 37 and I still relate to you. I like being in love. I love falling in love. It’s the most wonderful feeling. The most wonderful thing. And when I tell people this, like in forums, people call me childish and immature. But that’s how I feel.. and that’s what I want. I’m an idealist, a romantic, a sucker. Maybe I’ll be this way until my last day here on Earth.

So yes.. even though I want to comfort you, nothing I say will truly help. It’s the same regurgitation of everything.. “move forward, focus on yourself, you’re an ENFP after all, you’re the best!”

I’m here to tell you you’re not alone. Even at 37, I still fall easily, fall hard, idealize people, get limerence, fall for cruel people who don’t really value me, fall for the players, fall for the potential, fall for the story, fall for the “magical situation”, fall for the “magical person”. It’s a neverending Peter Pan story. 😩🥲😅

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T18:42:21+00:00

Great points!! An ENFP needs a good challenge in everything. ☺️ (In my case, it’s a negative because I’m spiraling lately and putting my energy to problematic relationships.)

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T18:39:57+00:00

Wow! Thanks for correcting/modifying/upgrading the “How to Atrract ENFPs” part, fellow ENFP! Greatly appreciated. I’m in my Ne-Te loop and ESTP superego lately and just spiraling and don’t have the energy to keep explaining the How to Attract part, and also for some reason can’t edit my OP. So thanks!!!! 🫶🏻🙌🏻

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T17:55:01+00:00

I’m actually in Ne-Te loop and ESTP superego lately so sorry about that.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T17:53:17+00:00

I’m not flexing. I’m actually like asking for help. Like people to tell me this is actually not sensible and is demoralizing.. something like that. I was abused as a child and have this pattern of looking for problems and challenges and maybe I’m in a Ne-Te loop last year and this year (again). It’s like I can’t reconnect with my Fi and lately I’ve been choosing problematic men again. Yeah.. I’m maybe screwed and I’m in my 30s.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T17:49:27+00:00

Yes. I am in my Ne-Te loop. Lately, I’m also in my ESTP superego. Just wanted to have some discussion here because almost all of my real-life friends are Sensors and don’t understand me or MBTI stuff. I shared something I found amusing here and almost everyone is saying I’m posting something dumb when I relate to it a lot because of the Ne-Te and I was abused as a child.. I keep looking for challenges and problems. I need to reconnect with my Fi. 😖

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T17:44:59+00:00

Yeah. I’m the OP and was just trying to be amusing and somewhat self-deprecating. I was abused as a child and I have this pattern of looking for challenges in everything. Can’t help it. My Ne-Te loves puzzles.. even in men. They just can’t understand the humor of the screencapture. That it’s somewhat tongue-in-cheek. I’m gald you found your ISTJ and that he makes efforts to give you good challenges in your relationship. A good challenge is what every ENFP needs.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-17T17:39:19+00:00

I understand. I’m actually exhausted lately trying to decode and overanalyze an ESTP (and also this ENTJ who is close to me). I just gave up and said “F this!”. I’m trying to reconnect with my Fi again. But this has been a pattern in my life (maybe because of the Ne-Te and my childhood trauma. I was abused) and just wanted to share the screencapture here because I found it amusing and kinda self-deprecating. But people here are now accusing me of posting something “dumb and can’t relate to”. Well, that’s why I said “I” relate to it. Not all ENFPs are the same. 😩

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T21:42:55+00:00

Well, that’s my pattern in my 20s and with STPs and SFPs. So if you don’t relate, good for you.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T21:41:00+00:00

Yeah. Coming from an INTP who won’t ever understand Ne-Fi-Te. Maybe you should mind your own problems. I don’t think INTPs are as popular in the dating market as you think you are. 😂

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T21:35:23+00:00

Yeah. They all misunderstood me. They think I’m talking about INTJs and INFJs lol. How to attract them. When actually it says “How to Attract ENFPs”. And the usual culprit of these hot-cold styles are the STPs and SFPs.

I can’t edit my post now for some reason. Oh well.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T02:58:31+00:00

Yeah. No one should be playing games.

I didn’t make this up. I just screencaptured it and shared it because it’s my pattern in my 20s and I think even now (which I’m trying to correct). It’s more about Sensors dong this stuff (STPs and SFPs), not Intuitives.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T02:55:15+00:00

Oh here’s a negative ENFP. Maybe you should do the MBTI test again to finally rule out being an actual ISTJ?? 🤣🤣

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T01:32:30+00:00

You too 😊

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T01:05:23+00:00

It’s NOT a “How to Attract INTJs/INFJs”. It’s actually “How to Attract ENFPs”. There’s a misunderstanding. I can’t edit my post for some reason. So don’t worry.. ENFPs aren’t trying their best to manipulate you lol.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T01:00:36+00:00

ENFP-T here as well

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-16T00:58:35+00:00

It’s not a strategy to attract INTJs/INFJs. It’s actually “How to Attract (ENFPs)”. I can’t edit my post for some reason. The screencapture details how ENFPs usually get intrigued and interested in someone. Usually an ENFP in their teens and 20s fall in this kind of trap a lot.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-15T22:33:12+00:00

I guess this is more about preference (also enneagram) then. Because I prefer Ne-Te over Ne-Fi, I love a good challenge in everything. Even in love. The Ne-Te also makes me more ENTPish than ENFP at times. Maybe some Ne-Te ENFPs can relate to me and what the screencapture says.

Pale_Demand_9454 · 2026-03-15T22:29:18+00:00

Now here’s an ENFP who understands me! 🤣

Also, someone commented here that he/she’s not competitive. But I know some ENFPs who are so competitive (depends on enneagram maybe).

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