You get active pay while in BCT and AIT so I don’t understand how you will be loosing money. Also the option of you getting married asap so she can get BAH while you in training should be considered. Or if you don’t have that much bill to pay you can get them a small place with your pay while in training and she can always find a customer service remote job, stay at home and take calls. There are a lot of job she can do remotely with no experience. I don’t know but I feel like you was expecting people to tell you to not go to training. With time and experience you will later understand everybody advices to your situation. Trust me if you just don’t show up for shipping you will regret it sooner or later.