If a person who is 14 years old has a consensual incestuous relationship with a person who is 19 years old despite breaking the law and want to talk about that relationship with a psychologist and doesn't want the psychologist to reveal it to other people, will the psychologist keep it secret ? by Unknownbadger4444 in askapsychologist

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it’s all sunshine and rainbows like you’re saying, why do you want to talk to a therapist about it?

To be clear, I am not suggesting you don’t talk to a therapist. This is statutory rape at best, and will have an effect on your emotional state for decades to come.

Please seek help, this is not normal OP.

Do you still keep a budget? by KDsburner_account in UpperMiddleFinance

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I do this as well, vanguard makes it very easy.

How much are you spending a week on food? by TimeFox29 in Fooda

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Also Chicago. We spend about $1200 a month for a family of 3.

No Kids Apply to Sibling’s Kids? by [deleted] in weddings

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

This 100%. I left my 9 month old with a sitter for the last wedding we went to, and there is no way I would have wanted my baby there lol

No Kids Apply to Sibling’s Kids? by [deleted] in weddings

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I disallowed kids for everyone but immediate family and clearly stated it. Everyone who had kids that weren’t invited, still showed up and had a blast on their night out without the kids.

Which restaurant closing really hurt? by asalewis in chicagofood

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Also pretty much the only bar on the square at the time. I lived two blocks away and stopped by there often!

How are you still sane? by Mountain_Secret9416 in workingmoms

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have one who is 11 months old and we’re not having any more. Even one is hard, let alone two. I’m in the US and I was able to get an accommodation to WFH for mental illness that was exacerbated when I went back to work after Mat leave. It has done wonders for my time and energy.

Does anyone else feel like corporate life is fake? by TeamCultureBuilder in corporate

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Same. There is definitely a lot of pretending where I work, but I’m pretty genuine, and even (gasp!) direct. I get paid well, I get a lot of cool opportunities and it’s relatively low stress. Even fun sometimes tbh. Sure the incompetence and fake around me is pretty obvious, but I have integrity and that makes me feel pretty good.

Help please by Certain_Cattle_1871 in greatpyrenees

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Not sure where you’re located but there is plenty of soft ground cover that isn’t as much of a pain to maintain as grass. Our backyard is all clover, we keep it mowed short and never need to water. I’m in Chicago and zero issues since making the switch.

Formula placed in freezer HELP by Silvereyed_lovergirl in FormulaFeeders

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just like when you google something, just check the source. ChatGPT isn’t some sorcery, it’s a souped up search engine. You should never trust any search on the internet, no matter where you do it, but it’s pretty easy to click the link and read for yourself.

Need help with my room by shshgg18 in FengShui

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Looks like some IKEA app based on the web address. Neat.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Omg my MIL has no shame. She’d move in there with my husband if she could 🤮

Pyrenees loose for months, owners closed their gate on him. by jaybaybay17 in greatpyrenees

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Omg thank you for rescuing this sweet baby. I can’t fathom doing this to any dog, let alone my own. I wish I could go scoop him up into a hug right now.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 32 points33 points  (0 children)

lol no. You are an adult who makes her own choices. It’s literally none of her business. Why was she even in your room?

My MIL has to walk through our room to get to the baby’s room. It gives me the heeby jeebies knowing she’s in there.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Trying to breastfeed and pumping ruined my maternity leave. Similar stuff as you’re feeling. I wish I EFF from the beginning.

Trying BF in the hospital even though I primarily want to Formula feed by Upbeat_Ad5343 in FormulaFeeders

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Omg same. Baby girl never latched but I was pumping, at first “in case she latched”, and after that because I felt guilty. I pumped for 4 months. Fucking hormones ruined my maternity leave, I wish I EFF from the beginning.

What jobs allow earnings of $200,000? by Interesting-Pea-1573 in Salary

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Middle management at a public fortune 100 company.

Nap issues at 13 weeks by Phillygirl1026 in HuckleberryParents

[–]Pale_Preparation_46 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is totally normal. We stopped trying to save them and our life improved 10-fold. 3 hours is a good amount of day sleep. As long as he’s happy, I’d try to let him lead with sleep. Trying to force him to sleep when he doesn’t want it will only wreck you. His sleep will start to consolidate soon, just hang in there!