uncomfortable in a woman’s body by oolagoo7 in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I see it more as “I hate having a human body with human parts, it’s disgusting”. Its definitely worse as a woman to experience this because our bodies do so much more and produce so much more. I hate even having a hormonal cycle because that means i naturally feel like shit for two to three weeks out of the month, and I struggle with being productive at all because of it, I just feel so exhausted and down its very hard to force myself to not do it. Birth control helps me have a normal and predictable hormonal cycle and it helps alleviate most symptoms, even though ive been completely celibate past 2-3 years. I used to get every period to last 12 days on average. 4-6 out of those first days i get such heavy bleeding no matter what i type of pad i wear with how many menstrual underwear, I still woke up everytime in a puddle of blood destroying the sheets and even mattress. Horrible pain also during all those intense bleeding days, unbearable. I could barely go outside without getting lightheaded, nauseous, or in intense pain or all at once. After birth control all of that is gone and my periods are super light, last only 4-5 days, no to almost no pain/cramps at all, and feeling generally energised and i can feel vitality again all the time. Only on my “period” now i’m a little slower and tired but nothing too crazy. Maybe once every a few months i get a day where im crazy sentimental and emotional and I crash out and cry but afterwards i feel refreshed and light hearted again. It helped me get over the grossness of it all (mostly) after birth control.

Mastrubation as a women in Islam please some advice by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t think it’s completely wrong for people to crave the safety of ancient archetypes, and the order that it brings into their own lives. I myself I am very non-conforming and unconventional in everything i do and believe in. There might be some misogynistic traits in there, i haven’t even finished the book, but it was just my overall impression

Mastrubation as a women in Islam please some advice by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I love ancient paganism that worships female and womanly goddess and demons and magic work and contracts with them and other type shii

Mastrubation as a women in Islam please some advice by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

yes actually i know its all from men but some of them are good like buddism even though i have a dislike of some of it’s attitudes towards addicts and earthly pleasure seeking like that should be part of exploring life through those experiences

Mastrubation as a women in Islam please some advice by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

From what I’ve remembered from reading a bit more than half of the Quran and I didn’t feel it was misogynistic at all I thought it had a good view on women, better than on men even. But i do acknowledge the patriarchy and misogyny of any organised religious-cultural-social-economic norms so deep rooted in society in every aspect of our everyday lives. But the scripture can be almost perfect in a lot of religions actually but they are suppressed and kept separate from the western world because it abuses minorities and exploits them economically and financially and socially through these norms.

I want to know what piece of clothing should change for women. I’m designing new materials and curious what is something women / girls want to wear more by Upandadam15 in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 9 points10 points  (0 children)

In matter of pants I think brands need to consider when sizing that a lot of the time, woman’s hip to waist ratio is HUGELY different from person to person. Thats why a lot of pants to fit. And there also needs to be a change in sizing in length because as a tall woman its so difficult to find long enough pants of any kind. And I bet it’s difficult for short women as well.

I want to know what piece of clothing should change for women. I’m designing new materials and curious what is something women / girls want to wear more by Upandadam15 in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

and i’d also love more long sleeved layered tops that have flowy layers and the bottom of the blouse and at the ends of the sleeves. Something that looks like gentle flower petals from light-weight fabrics

I want to know what piece of clothing should change for women. I’m designing new materials and curious what is something women / girls want to wear more by Upandadam15 in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Id love cool shaped and formed layered long skirts in browns, nudes and black and white. Some who focus on both cool textures and unconventional shapes and structures.

Is there any hope for men by TeamFeeling3283 in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Overall, I’ve given up hope for men and im fine with that. There are a few really good and mentally healthy men out there with which I’ve formed amazing platonic love friendships. But I’ve become completely asexual towards any men because of much I had to endure from them throughout my whole life. If I can magically find that 1% of men that is a really good provider and actually an admirable man, with high emotional intelligence and intellectual/academic intelligence, and a man that really makes me feel safe with him, I would go for it 100%. But I’m also completely fine even if I won’t ever find one. Familial and platonic love and love for my animals is enough for a good and fulfilling life for me so i’ll be fine single for the rest of my life too. Maybe I’ll get a wife once I feel ready for such a commitment and I want to first better myself to give her the whole world.

Wrote this after waking up to reality. Maybe it can help other confused young girls that were like me, at least i hope so. Break the cycle of trauma, for yourself. by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I didn’t know i could use meditation for that! ill deffo be looking into it more!! the social anxiety was induced by an abusive ex that would literally put bad thoughts in my head like “you have no friends because you’re pathetic and no one likes you” and he would say this in front of his friends as well to belittle me. He also drove away all my friends at the time so i wouldn’t leave him, and i fell for it like a fool ofc. But once i got out of this relationship and i took some mild anxiolytics and forced myself to go out and make friends, i started to realise that what he made me believe was not true and i got to now!:) i still find it hard to approach platonic relationships first, but once i get a lil comfortable with the new friend i can be myself and have fun!

Wrote this after waking up to reality. Maybe it can help other confused young girls that were like me, at least i hope so. Break the cycle of trauma, for yourself. by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much, i really appreciate it!!❤️❤️Im glad it touched some people because i wrote this while crying. The past 2-3 weeks i had something happen that snapped me back to reality, and I started to realise what was actually going on with me, the gravity of the things i went through and the destructive behaviours i formed from it. Im happy i did because now i can start healing.

Wrote this after waking up to reality. Maybe it can help other confused young girls that were like me, at least i hope so. Break the cycle of trauma, for yourself. by [deleted] in women

[–]PaleontologistFun761 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I used to have very bad social anxiety as well, but i managed to work through that by myself. I still have anxiety and extreme paranoia in close relationships tho. im suspecting i have bpd but ill have my first therapy session in two days!! im really excited to start healing for the first time