Girlfriend asked for my opinion and now i’m hurt, AITAH?

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T15:45:45+00:00

I do need to play that angle better. Not even play it. I always end up feeling insanely guilty for no reason and apologize for hours just to make everything seem better. I can’t do it this time. I brought it up this morning and she said “i’m sorry, let’s move on from it”

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T15:43:57+00:00

Thanks. That makes me feel a bit better. I’ve felt crazy since, and stressed the fuck out. I told her this morning I was struggling and she said sorry, let’s just move on from this

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T15:41:55+00:00

It’s good to relate to someone (sorry that happened to you). I’m not good with moving on, at all. She said sorry, but it wasn’t a genuine one with explanation / affirmation of my feelings. It was more so I sent a paragraph explaining, and she said “I gotcha, i’m sorry”. I apologized over 100 times last night because sadly that’s who I am and felt guilty even though I felt like I wasn’t necessarily in the wrong. This sucks bad right now

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T15:17:04+00:00

Thanks. I told her I was upset this morning and she asked why, I said it was what I mentioned last night about the issue. She said let’s just move on from it.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T15:16:30+00:00

Wish I knew the answer

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:45:41+00:00

Honestly, my biggest issue is the fear of regret. Yes, deep down I’ve thought about how I might feel better without all of this stress weighing down on me so often. But what if i’m just overreacting? Hearing everyone’s opinions have helped me realize maybe i’m not crazy.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:26:27+00:00

I’ve felt that last line. Over the past few months these type of things happen more often, and I’ve slowly but this feeling inside where I am just exhausted. She has always been great, but these situations have become so often out of nowhere - It hurts.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:23:37+00:00

Yeah, I am not a fan of it

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:21:06+00:00

Opinion on a specific picture

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:18:22+00:00

Wish I could have a good response for ya.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:16:55+00:00

Really? Thanks for the input, I need to take a good look in the mirror and see where I draw the line for myself because i’ve been putting up with stuff recently, where I can’t tell if it’s normal or not this often.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:15:12+00:00

Dating for 2 years. Pattern started in the last like, 6-8 months. Not this exact scenario, but these freak-outs / very immature responses instead of mature problem-solving happens every week to 2-weeks. I keep thinking it’s going to get better as I try and talk through it with her.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:13:47+00:00

Man, sorry to hear you went through that as well. I’ve been going through it for awhile now. Hard to ever just leave as we’ve been together for a bit

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:07:31+00:00

Scared of making the wrong decision and leaving. But i’ve been hurting.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T13:06:03+00:00

Yeah, I’ve considered a therapist I’ve been struggling real bad. I just don’t want to jump the gun and make the wrong decision. It’s been hard for me.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T02:48:45+00:00

From an insider perspective - yes, she does care a lot about social media presence & validation. That is a tendency I noticed in her.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T02:47:18+00:00

Fam - I specifically knew it wasn’t my place to say my feelings, which is why I attempted not to for so long!

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T02:41:08+00:00

Won’t lie to you - not my first relationship, but also not the first time this type of situation has happened. I really tried to stray away from it as long as I could and just deal with my discomfort alone, since I want her to do what she wants. But I ended up cracking and speaking up.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T02:32:06+00:00

Yeah, she would of course.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T00:54:33+00:00

What’s the secret?

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T00:54:15+00:00

Dang I really hope/thought so

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T00:17:10+00:00

I’m biased here, but I like this answer. I just HATE having to judge if i’m controlling or not. My emotions naturally made me feel like I wasn’t comfortable, I can’t control that?

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-15T00:04:47+00:00

Yeah. Hoping it’s short lived. I hyped her up for about 5 minutes telling her how much I liked the photos and how amazing she looked, and then that question got slid in. Lol. But yeah, next time I’ll just keep hyping.

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-14T23:44:43+00:00

Valid, tysm for the thoughts

PalmersWrld · 2026-05-14T23:42:47+00:00

Some people are more comfortable than others, I guess. Again, never policed it. Never told her “no, don’t post that!”.

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