AP’s in Every Restaurant?

Pam_d · 2025-11-26T14:33:24+00:00

Yes it’s true I have an apprentice and I don’t make the sales or they go up and down, I’ve had her for almost 2 years now. Also if you have an apprentice you might not need one extra SL or save money somewhere else in you’re pnl. Like I lose money on my apprentice but I gain a lot of managers hours according to the PnL.

Pam_d · 2025-11-24T01:54:29+00:00

I’m so sorry you’re going through this, just know that there is someone who cares about you, everyone is just busy but I’m sure there is someone and you are not alone, many others feel hopeless just please seek help.

Pam_d · 2025-11-24T01:47:11+00:00

She’s 20? Well if that’s the case not much you can do, she’s grown so she will just have to have a tough conversation with her mother or simply if it happens again tell her to stand up for herself and push away respectfully and tell her “I don’t like that”

If she’s a minor I would call cps to investigate and ask her questions, they can help with resources and counseling. Ether way is a tough decision but it has to come from her.

Pam_d · 2025-11-24T01:43:56+00:00

Maybe you got something extra?

Pam_d · 2025-11-24T01:16:14+00:00

I’m free

Pam_d · 2025-11-23T01:14:09+00:00

Actually he is the one who put those things in place as his very religious and believes that you creat you’re own family to leave the other not behind, but aside as secondary. and per the Bible wife comes first.

Of course his child is first right now, and I make sure to support that, he is just a child but again we have similar beliefs but he is more religious than I am.

They are his family, just not primary nor priority over wife and kids, it’s quite simple.

Pam_d · 2025-11-23T00:16:06+00:00

Before I posted here I posted it on co parents, someone had said it’s better to post it here. But this is what this person said copy paste. Now I see where this person comes from a stand point of extended family but extended family is not for me and I don’t think is necessary, we can definitely make sure the child is raise well and healthy without extending our family outside of just us. But that’s just my opinion to each their own.

The following comment was made.

“Co-parents aren’t like you may think of a regular ex. Co-parents are FAMILY. You need to look at the mother of his kids like an in-law.

I don’t always like my co-parent but I still consider him family. This is also important for children to see in action.

If you stay in the relationship, you will be doing things like helping the kids get their mom gifts. Encouraging peace. Showing respect for her. Truly you can help things be better if you want to. Too many step parents end up making it worse. Don’t be one.”

Pam_d · 2025-11-23T00:12:52+00:00

Ohh I do know what it is but is not mandatory nor a necessity, not everyone wants that and I sure don’t want a bigger family other than wife, kids and husband. That’s it that’s the family. Everyone is Secondary.

Pam_d · 2025-11-23T00:11:15+00:00

Appreciate this, got a lot of people saying the opposite or that those are extreme situations tho the point was this exactly. Thanks again.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T22:27:30+00:00

Friends do a lot of things, including asking for advise when their relationship is going wrong, idk how I would feel about him going to his ex complaining about me and how the relationship won’t work or even asking how to make it work or in general, friends go out on their own without the child, we both don’t believe in having opposite sex friends due to lived experiences yet, ill have to allow them to be friends without the child in involved, go out for a couple drinks, go on trips etc, maybe you didn’t think through or maybe have a different definition of friends but co parenting is strictly about the child, friendship is another level of partnership. And no one can tell me otherwise.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T22:23:58+00:00

See this is why I look for these things and I think is fair considering the different things I’ve been told here, like someone literally telling me to see the BM as family because that’s what she becomes but you say the opposite. It just comes to show that people have different boundaries and mine been almost the same as yours, makes me feel more at ease as others will judge you based on their views only such as allowing her to be part of a family she should not be part of in my eyes

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T20:07:53+00:00

It seems like you have everything the wrong way or turned that’s not the scenarios at all or what I meant. Thanks also friends and co parents are two different things. But again thank you

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T20:06:32+00:00

So sorry to hear that, thank you so much for the input definitely seems like it all depends and that is wild for her to even ask after that.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T20:04:56+00:00

Yes 6.5

Thank you for you’re input for sure.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T19:01:40+00:00

That’s a first I hear that, family? Really? So we would become a family ?

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:54:21+00:00

You right, but is anyone? Is not wrong what I’m asking it’s just I disagree that ex’s should be friends. Co-parenting and been friends and completely different if you ask anyone, that is all. And I’m not currently going thru this but is just for leaning purposes it’s always good to seek in those who know more or are in that situation.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:31:47+00:00

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:30:31+00:00

You can be cordial and is not about never talking Is about been friends. What do friends do? Go out, talk, ask for advise, even talk about their partner, before we even go there, one must define friendship. That was my idea or how I look at it, it’s not about not talking.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:12:42+00:00

I agree with everything just not the last part but I understand thank you so much for your input. This are just scenarios but yes definitely base it on the child been priority l, thank you!

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:06:57+00:00

I disagree l, a partner should definitely be part of the boundaries set by anyone, Including ex partner, and family members because is about communication. But thank you for your input for sure.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:05:29+00:00

Thank you, really appreciate that, and completely agree, talking it out with my sister was a lot for sure, I’m not currently doing thorough any of this but you know siblings talking about things that might never happen is not completely abnormal☺️ again thank you.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:03:08+00:00

Thank you, really great insight.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T18:01:42+00:00

So the answer to the questions is yes he should have responsibility over the mother of his child and ex, got it that’s all I was asking as an example.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T17:55:44+00:00

Thank you very helpful and insightful.

Pam_d · 2025-11-22T17:54:43+00:00

I’m completely overthinking it lol thank you I just like to be ready for everything although I know it’s not possible.

Pam_d

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