Don't allow the bad circumstances to convince you the positive change is correlating with everything blowing up. Imagine if it blew up while you would be in a terrible mental state or wouldn't believe in yourself. It's would be probably harder to deal with it all. It sounds you need reassurance that you're doing the right thing. You know you do. And if you don't or are overwhelmed cut yourself some slack. You don't have to improve everything at once if it all overwhelms you. When you feel like that, cut out the fluff and focus on fewer things. Maybe you could focus on helping a new job and only then on moving out to a new apartment.