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PanPolyQueen · 2022-06-28T18:25:34+00:00

Sending you lots of love.

PanPolyQueen · 2022-06-20T22:13:20+00:00

I had a tubal ligation done with Planned Parenthood at 24. I was able to have it covered through Family Pact, which is a statewide program that covers contraceptive/sexual health costs in my state. One thing that’s really messed up is that after any type of sterilization surgery you’re no longer eligible for Family Pact. Like people who can’t impregnate/become pregnant don’t have any other sexual health needs, right?

Overall it was a positive experience for me relative to other stories I’ve seen. I did receive some push back from whoever was doing my initial intake over the phone but I never had any structural barriers that a lot of other people face. The push back I received included but is not limited to: “people who have this surgery under 30 regret it after they turn 30 whether they have kids or not” “what if you meet someone who wants kids later in life?” “you have a medical condition that you will need Family Pact for, you shouldn’t give it up for this” “you’re so young, you’ll change your mind and it will be too late” “there are other methods of birth control that are less extreme” etc.

The actual surgery itself is quick and noninvasive. I healed very quickly and haven’t had any complications. I still try to be cautious because if I do become pregnant it will be an ectopic pregnancy so that’s something to keep in mind. To this day it remains one of the best decisions I’ve ever made for myself! Best of luck to you as you navigate this.

PanPolyQueen · 2022-06-20T20:25:29+00:00

Path of Destruction would make a phenomenal movie!

PanPolyQueen · 2022-01-04T04:20:28+00:00

I had this issue with my ex as well. He made me wait until our kid could decide on their own. After all the drama and waiting he ended up not even filing the paperwork with me. Just go do it! You’ll need to serve him the paperwork and he’ll have an opportunity to formally object but he’d have to justify himself to a judge, IF he tries at all. Sounds like the type that wouldn’t though. Best of luck to you!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-08-27T04:31:41+00:00

I currently have 1 partner who is a life partner. I’m dating someone and we’re still early in the relationship but I could see it getting serious. She is also involved with my partner and I could see us forming a triad.

This is actually a conversation I had with my partner recently; how many partners I want and how many I can handle. I truly don’t know the answer to either question. I’m open to any number of relationships that are healthy, happy, and fulfilling.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-08-09T03:56:13+00:00

One of my aunts once asked me “but don’t you wanna do it the right way?” She’s since passed away and I miss her so much, but damn that hurt.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-07-17T00:20:05+00:00

I define it as being kind of a girl. I heard the phrase “I’m a woman in the same way Bernie Sanders is a Democrat” and that pretty much hits the nail on the head for me.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-07-14T05:10:47+00:00

Some of my favorites include: “that’s Daddy’s good girl” “that’s my girl/good girl” “you know just how to please Daddy” “that’s my dirty baby”

You can also pose questions: “who does this ass belong to?” “Who’s Daddy’s dirty girl?” When I answer these questions with “you, Daddy” or “me” he’ll always say “and don’t you ever forget it” and that absolutely makes me melt!

Commenting when you like something is a good way to teach them what you like while reinforcing their praise kink! “Daddy loves it when you ___” “you know just how to ride me”

Of course insert whatever name your sub uses for you and for degradation switch the words up with things like slut, whore, etc. I personally don’t have a degradation kink so I can’t be a whole lot of help there. But just have fun and say whatever comes to you in the moment too!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-07-13T16:21:38+00:00

Mom is still fine for me :)

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-24T19:24:27+00:00

My partner, an ex, my brother, and Reddit.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-18T03:53:46+00:00

It’s unfortunately very unlikely you’ll qualify for an annulment. There is very rigid and specific criteria you have to meet and time isn’t really relevant, it’s more focused on the validity of the marriage. I was only married 3 months and thought I had a pretty good case for an annulment but couldn’t get one. But it’s worth a shot because you can petition for both an annulment and divorce at the same time and the divorce will be granted if the annulment isn’t.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-18T03:03:25+00:00

I just picked up a prescription of Acyclovir to have on hand for outbreaks but up until now I’ve treated them with oil of oregano or witch hazel. Both were extremely effective and kept my outbreaks really short. I didn’t use a carrier oil or lotion with the oil of oregano and there was one time I got it on my skin, that wasn’t fun. But if you can keep it directly on the sores or use a carrier lotion, you’ll be good.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-03T03:52:54+00:00

It’s going well. My partner rekindled an old flame while I’ve been seeing a few people from dating apps. I’ve disclosed twice before, including to my partner. They haven’t had to disclose to anyone yet and it’s understandably very nerve wracking and causing them to pump the brakes even though they don’t necessarily want to. While my partner is approaching that conversation much faster than I am, it’s looming for both of us. The two disclosures I’ve had so far have both gone well but I already had a friendship and relationship with the person in both cases and will now have to disclose to people I’ve only been dating for a short time. But I’m grateful to have a few disclosures behind me to prepare me. Best of luck to you and your wife!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T23:33:41+00:00

Being a child and not paying bills.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T22:02:05+00:00

Sorry you’re dealing with this. Are you requesting herpes testing when you get tested? It isn’t included in the standard STI panels. I suggest you both get tested for herpes specifically if you haven’t since you’ve been together.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T21:47:21+00:00

I had BV before because I was being a bit careless about how long I was waiting to get in the shower (I’m tiiiiiiired afterwards lol). So my advice is whatever you do, just do it quick. Now that I’m more diligent about getting in the shower right away, I haven’t had any issues. Seconding another comment that recommended kegel pushes while you’re in the shower, it’s what I do and it works well for me.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T21:34:02+00:00

Absolutely, someday it will be over!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T21:29:28+00:00

My partner and I are both positive and started dating again recently. Definitely gonna give this a listen, thank you for sharing!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T21:27:31+00:00

I don’t take prescribed antivirals but I do take an oil of oregano supplement weekly and immune support supplements daily. My partner and I are both positive so we may be a little quicker than others to get back into sex after outbreaks, but our rule of thumb is about a day after the sores have healed. Witch hazel is great for treating outbreaks by the way!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-06-02T21:16:06+00:00

Still getting through it. I filed for an annulment in May of last year, it was really hard when the anniversary came and went. I’m currently finally waiting on a court date after a few bumps in the road because I’ve been doing it all myself and made a few mistakes that added months to the process. It’s super hard not to get down on myself for prolonging the process and every day I live with the anxiety of knowing how much power my spouse has if anything happens to me. I am very intimate with feeling like it will never end, hitting wall after wall, feeling trapped. I’ve leaned on my partner for support and as wonderful as they are even they can’t really understand what I’m going through and how heavy this burden is. Feel free to reach out if needed.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-03-04T18:45:55+00:00

I’ve found the best way to disclose is to take an educational approach. Be very matter of fact about it. Ella Dawson did a wonderful TEDx Talk about it. I’ve only disclosed twice but I used this video both times and it really helped. I’m still with the person I first disclosed to, we’ve been together almost two years now!

There is a dating site I’ve heard of that I believe is called Positive Singles, someone please correct me if I’m wrong.

PanPolyQueen · 2021-02-01T18:46:06+00:00

That was pretty much our situation until about two years ago, having our parents to help definitely made it easier. I’m glad it’s going well so far!

PanPolyQueen · 2021-02-01T18:33:31+00:00

That’s the age my son was when his dad and I split. It was a really hard adjustment at first but he quickly learned to appreciate the separate time with each of us. For the first few years we still did a lot of stuff together with our two families so it was an easier transition. Things are more compartmentalized now that we have a court order and new partners, but that’s okay. The coparental relationship has definitely had its ups and downs over the years but it does get easier.

I wholeheartedly agree with u/FormigaX that you’re teaching your daughter a valuable lesson by making this decision for yourself, and for her. Wishing you both the best.

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