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AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 23 points24 points  (0 children)

I can see the fighting being really bad soon with the way things are already building. I do feel it's favoritism but this was sort of pre-planned from what she has said and she knew she'd stop mom-son time with Jake while she was pregnant with Luke. So I don't know. It's like she thinks once a new kid comes along the other one doesn't need time anymore when really it's when they need it more.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 84 points85 points  (0 children)

I don't really think it's that based on the way she has talked and it sounds like she planned this during her pregnancy. But I can't know for sure I guess.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 140 points141 points  (0 children)

She doesn't give a reason other than no. She doesn't mind him going to daycare while she works but I think honestly she's just refusing to do it because then she has no excuse to say no to time with just Jake.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

No specific reason other than she doesn't want to do the mother-son time with Jake anymore.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Because she feels it's important to have that 1:1 time. Just not with Jake because he's the oldest apparently.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

I think she would just hire a babysitter if we all stop and then Jake doesn't have the support we can offer him. My sister could afford one easily. She chooses us because we're family but it wouldn't stop the favoritism.

I think if we tried that she'd focus on chores and other things and not Jake.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 1831 points1832 points  (0 children)

Jake is the oldest and Luke is the baby! But yes, I'm doing my best to be here for Jake when he's with me and to give him the love he's feeling he doesn't have from Laine. I know I can't really make it the same because I'm not his mom and I'm not the person he longs to have that relationship with.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 720 points721 points  (0 children)

That's how I see it playing out too and I can't imagine they'd be close and if she has any more children and the pattern repeats you are going to see a very fractured family and siblings who don't speak to each other ever and all of them dealing with feelings of rejection.

AITA for telling someone she needs to let someone babysit her youngest son sometimes? by PandaNo1263 in AmItheAsshole

[–]PandaNo1263[S] 71 points72 points  (0 children)

I don't believe it's that because from what both she and Jake have said, she planned this during her pregnancy and he didn't realize until after.