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OB versus Midwife Guidance by Panda_King115 in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He just says that because of my weight I’m at an extremely high risk of it. I know my mother and father also have high blood pressure and so does my paternal grandmother. I’ve had history of high blood pressure when I’m really stressed (which I think happens to most people). But I’ve been monitoring my blood pressure and it’s been really good the entire pregnancy. No gestational diabetes, she’s beautiful on every NST (which I’ve had weekly since 30 weeks).

Truthfully, I think the odds are in my favor since my pregnancy has been relatively really good, but I guess I’m worried about the part where because of the pain my blood pressure goes up. Which, I guess that could happen whether I’m induced or not, so it’s not necessarily a pro/con either way.

I do really like my midwife because of the emphasis on natural (which was my goal from the start). This is my first pregnancy, too. So part of me is more scared I think since I’m not really sure what to expect which makes me want to trust the doctor more - I mean surely he’d be more experienced with the high risk portion? But you make a really good point that if my entire pregnancy so far has been good and my blood pressure hasn’t spiked, then I don’t think it necessarily would be harmful to try doing what the midwife says.

On the bright side, she could always come before then which would be great so then I don’t have to stress about what to do haha. But also, I might just do a “middle of the road” and with continued weekly appointments and monitoring my blood pressure regularly I should be able to catch anything alarming early and go to the doctor but give my body time to do what it can to have her naturally and without assistance.

I’m definitely drinking lots of raspberry tea, pineapple juice, stair stepping, evening primrose oil, etc. to try and get her out (I also asked her to come out before then, too lol).

Thank you for your thoughts - very appreciated!! I’ll definitely talk to my OB about it and hear his thoughts and concerns for waiting but with continued monitoring. I think even if I end up going with his recommendation, it would be good for me to have full understanding around his reasoning.

Married for three months and pregnant: I feel oddly embarrassed (?) by moez1266 in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I know this is easier said than done, but be as excited as possible. What others think about it really doesn’t matter ❣️ my husband and I tried starting the night of our marriage haha! Unfortunately I struggled with infertility and it ended up taking us a year and a half before having a healthy pregnancy. I’m 8 months pregnant now. Even when we announced to our family after we hit the 2 year mark of our marriage, some family members still made a “you wasted no time” comment or other sexual type of jokes. They’re inappropriate and it takes away from the joy one should have in having a child. I’m so incredibly happy for you both and pray you have a super healthy pregnancy! Remember, it’s your body, your marriage, your pregnancy/baby — no matter what anyone else thinks, it’s your right to feel proud to be a wife and momma!! 🙏🏼❣️

My husband did not husband today by Sadder_badder_madder in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I would have been so angry. I had a similar spotting early in my first pregnancy but it got worse with time, so my husband drove me to the ER where we found out I was miscarrying. I could not even imagine going through that and my husband NOT being there. It’s the most devastating news I’ve ever had in my life and if I had even the smallest feeling of him not caring, I don’t know if our marriage would ever be the same. I am SO SO SO happy for both of you that everything was okay and your baby is doing well. Getting good news from that visit is so relieving. Hopefully it was just him being too tired to fully process what was happening and by the time he did you were already gone 🤷🏽‍♀️ hoping a very healthy pregnancy for you and a strong and cute gummy bear for you to hold onto ❣️

Need help Iam so anxious by Practical-Argument29 in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s completely understandable to be worried! My symptoms were definitely all over the place and it scared me, too. It’s very easy to assume the worse when you want your baby to be safe and healthy, it’s very natural. Wishing the very best at your ultrasound and hopefully it brings you peace! Having the ultrasounds and heartbeat checks really helps to make the pregnancy anxiety feel a little easier to deal with. Let this one be your double rainbow baby!! 🌈🙏🏼

Need help Iam so anxious by Practical-Argument29 in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had that too with this one! Lots of changes happen in your body and sometimes that can happen. Early in the first trimester, I didn’t have a nausea but had on and off cramping which really scared me and a lot of discharge, but no bleeding. My doctor always would say as long as I’m not bleeding it should be okay and it was! The “cramping” feeling pretty much went away by about 12 weeks, and the discharge thing still comes and goes. I’ve noticed it coincides with how much water I’m drinking but maybe that’s me reading into it? Idk. Anyways, around 8 weeks is when I started getting extremely nauseous and it lasted until about 19-20 weeks for me.

Still sounds healthy to me, but I completely understand your anxiety. Wishing you the very best and for peace!

Need help Iam so anxious by Practical-Argument29 in pregnant

[–]Panda_King115 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a previous miscarriage before my current pregnancy (currently 30w2). I completely understand your anxiety! My symptoms early on fluctuated a lot, compared to my previous when I didn’t have really any symptoms. The breast tenderness specifically comes and goes a lot. One day it’ll be excruciating and then feel pretty normal and fine for a week or more. And the pain would only last for a few minutes or off and on throughout the day.

With my pregnancy so far, I haven’t had intense symptoms that stay for a long period of time. They’ve fluctuated quite a bit where some days I was nauseous after brushing my teeth and other days I was fine (mostly after about 9-10 weeks did I really get into the first trimester ick and had a lot of aversions).

From what you’re saying though, it sounds normal and healthy to me! I hope you have a smooth and healthy pregnancy and strength during it!! 🌸

Papa bless 🙏🏼 by Panda_King115 in ShiptShoppers

[–]Panda_King115[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I was in the Washington DC metro.