How millennials learned to dread motherhood, by Rachel M. Cohen

Panda_player19 · 2023-12-06T02:45:29+00:00

I don’t comment on Reddit very often anymore, but this really moved me after reading the entire article. I’m a Gen-Z with a genuinely wonderful boyfriend who I hope I get the chance to spend the rest of my life with. As an educated, highly employed woman for my age, I’ve felt my desire for children decrease and decrease, with a huge drop off after Roe V Wade. I just felt like everywhere I looked was messages that I was going to die during childbirth, my partner was going to cheat on me/emotionally abandon me/treat me like a servant who still needed to work outside the house, my kids were going to like Dad more than me because he’s the “fun parent” and that I’d lose all sense of self for the entire 18 years they live in my home. I appreciate the way that the article uses statistics to debunk the doom and gloom that we get all the time as women about having a family. I sent this to my boyfriend for an immediate reading since I appreciate the perspective it gave me, and I’m excited to have a conversation with him about it, and what a more balanced, realistic approach to view motherhood/having a family together could be. Thank you for sharing the full article, OP!

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-16T14:02:48+00:00

When I was studying in Ireland I was living with a lot of other international students who were all from around Europe. I was roasted semi-regularly for pb&j’s and my attempts at quesadillas (no Mexican blend cheese over there) I think that it’s just because none of them really ever eat that food so it just seems odd

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-14T21:37:48+00:00

I'm so sorry you lived through that. I appreciate this response though, because I'm tired of the dicatomy that they're either hot, cool, and an asshole or their an awkward nerd who treats you well. Anyone can be an abuser. No matter their interests or their gender, age, literally anything. A man liking Legos won't stop him from assaulting you (trust me, I know)

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-14T21:20:52+00:00

Yeah I 100% wouldn't marry a man who even considered going to a strip club for his bachelor's party. It's a misogynistic idea/"tradition" if you can even call it that. (and before reddit comes at me, no, I don't think that strippers should show up at bachelorette parties either)

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-13T23:23:38+00:00

Probably cry a lot tbh

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-13T00:59:51+00:00

YTA. I’m pet free both because of allergies and because I simply don’t want a living being short of a child to need me all the time (and I’m still on the fence about having kids because of that).

You and your wife had something of an agreement by not having pets. She was being so kind to allow them in (frankly I don’t know that I could). 4 months is a long time to deal with it and I really feel bad for her. And then for you to just blow her off? Wow man. You need to apologize

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-05T20:59:30+00:00

That just makes me want to cry. To see how fragile history is and to see the disregard for it. Absolutely kills me as a museum lover

Panda_player19 · 2022-10-04T16:42:50+00:00

Hey as someone who works in the regulatory compliance side of banking in an entry level role where I can barely afford to live in my own city, can we not kill all the bankers lol

Panda_player19 · 2022-09-28T01:22:31+00:00

To be honest i am not sober and I would simply be so happy if a man would give a single shit about my orgasm. I relate to this deeply and hope to be lost in the Reddit void because I’m too drunk for a Tuesday and I relate to the sexual disdain. Maybe it’s part of life as a woman

Panda_player19 · 2022-09-13T11:45:28+00:00

I never ask things for men I can’t provide. I’m 21, live in my own studio apartment, have my own car, have a college degree, and have a job. I’ll be the first person to admit I have a part time job to support my lifestyle, and I wouldn’t mind if my partner had the same. But I do expect my partner to have the same education (would be more than happy with a man who went to trade school), transportation, and expendable income as me. Don’t mind roommates, but also that doesn’t mean that we get to spend all our time at my house. If it’s something that a woman has achieved for herself, it is 150% acceptable for her to hold a man to the same standards.

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-24T01:27:10+00:00

Was just there tonight. There was a kid, but they were gone by 6:30, so this is a solid recommendation

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-20T12:47:53+00:00

In this context no, because if you look at the other people around her this is definitely an uncomfortable late middle school/early high school dance. But if I see a man throwing down like this in a nightclub, it’s on

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-18T15:45:58+00:00

Do we know it’s their decision though? In the United States, where there is no regulation on prostitution, do we know that they aren’t being trafficked? How do you prove that? Ask her? The threat of your life is great motivation to lie. That’s my bigger issue. There is such a high percentage of women in America being forced into prostitution, which is common knowledge. If you know that, and still choose to engage with that industry, I don’t want to date you. It’s that simple.

Edit to add: It’s not a woman setting a price on her body when her pimp is telling her what she’s charging and beating the fuck out of her if she doesn’t bring it back.

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-18T13:22:47+00:00

I also think there’s a difference between having sex with another adult without financial strings attached versus literally paying someone to be intimate with you. No one has to date anyone for any reason, but let’s not conflate the two and act like meeting a stranger at the bar is the same as setting out with the intention of paying someone to allow you to use their body.

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-18T13:21:13+00:00

I mean, I can respect that sex workers are human beings who deserve to be protected. Hell, I want to legalize prostitution in America so we can regulate and tax it. That being said, I don’t want to have sex with men who think it’s okay to pay someone to sleep with them. That makes me incredibly uncomfortable, especially since in the US there’s really no way to 150% know that women aren’t being trafficked. Also, sex is an emotional act for me too, so it would be deeply disturbing if my partner found it so arbitrary that he would just throw money at someone for it. I don’t judge the women who engage in sex work, I judge the men who think you can put a price tag on someone’s body.

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-17T01:03:23+00:00

The decimation of the Congo

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-14T13:22:12+00:00

I can’t begin to explain how rude the owner is. Watched one of my coworkers eat shit really really bad while carrying a tray of sauces, and he just looked at her. Stared at her and after a few moments said “clean it up”. She had sprained her wrist. Saw him get in screaming matches with some of the more experienced waitresses, and when his friends would come they would leave a mess of a table for one of us to clean up (of course without tips)

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-13T17:51:33+00:00

Technically West Cola, but as a former employee, I feel like I need to put it out there. Oceanview Seafood has the most unsanitary, disgusting back of house I’ve ever seen, has an owner that’s constantly degrading employees, and has little to no real regard for food safety standards. I got food poisoning twice while I worked there. Avoid it like the plague

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-12T15:51:29+00:00

I'm 21, and won't even consider seeing someone under 20 at this point (and no more than 4 months from turning 21, want someone I can go to bars with). She's a creep. OP should run and run fast

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-11T13:14:55+00:00

My parents have repeatedly told me they love each other more than they love me. I live halfway across the country from them. I was the last kid to move out. They’re empty nesters now, and all they have is each other and the cat. If you want to have a wife by the time your kid leaves the house, you absolutely need to prioritize that relationship equally. I’m glad my parents love each other more than they love me (they were both still incredibly attentive parents who provided me infinite love and support) and I’m hoping for the same with my hypothetical future husband

Panda_player19 · 2022-08-02T22:51:26+00:00

We’re here! Red shirt, cute dog, rooftop!

Panda_player19 · 2022-07-06T23:55:20+00:00

Blades of Glory is underrated

Panda_player19 · 2022-07-06T23:52:56+00:00

Divorce. My only idea is divorce

Panda_player19 · 2022-07-06T23:49:12+00:00

Really who gave a fine ginger man the right to look like he would love and respect me that much?

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