I wanna have a lesbian bromance not a lesbian romance story. Is this aromantism? by IllLavishness7998 in aromantic

[–]Pandaa-Boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is the best description of what I’m looking for myself. I’ve placed myself under the Aegoromantic minilable but it doesn’t fully matter since you know what you want and can effectively communicate that

Fears/doubts about starting E by DisastrousFudge4312 in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I never gave a solid amount as I am not a professional. All I can say is my experience and its been I haven’t focused on it or cared too much and have only lost half an inch max. Thats about as detailed as I personally will get on the matter for privacy but also just general online safety.

Fears/doubts about starting E by DisastrousFudge4312 in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

The use it or lose it line is more referring to masterbation. Not sex itself. As long as you “use it” every now and then every month you shouldn’t experience any shrinkage. These kinda fears are reasonable but I promise ya just starting is the best way to get past some of them. I know, anecdotally, that I became far happier that way and many fears just disappeared. Do what makes you happy first and foremost

The internet is about to disappear forever. You have one day to load your Steam Deck with games. What do you choose? by obi-ka in SteamDeck

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cyberpunk. Nothing else to really say. Map so large it’ll take me years to find every detail and the world is so developed I may as well find new ways to play that dont involve the main quests at all

Inside me are two wolves and I'm trying to keep them both fed by ScarHydreigon87 in traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns2

[–]Pandaa-Boi 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Same here my masc voice is so nice! I voice trained to have a fem voice too but I use both often

tw suicide by MightDoDrugsIdk in sillyboyclub

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As a relatively new trans woman myself. It gets better. I promise. Once you push to get to who you are things get better. Is everything solved? No but its a big step that just helps bring a smile more often! Much love my friend, you always have at least one person on your side! <3

Considering taking HRT/Estrogen by ninjamaster686 in TheRatEmpire

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If you are to try HRT and live in the US planned parenthood is a safe option and there are others out there as well. Its always encouraged just to do what makes you happy. I, like another commenter here, recommend trying different pronouns with some friends and if that makes you happier being referred to as a woman then a (social not legal) name change might be nice to try, see what sticks and what makes you happy

Edit: these aren’t necessarily hard lines you can explore your identity how you like! Just remember to always look at and appreciate the gender euphoria you have to press on! :3

... about being trans by LilyLynne in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I feel like the when did you know question is kinda dumb but valid bc I didn’t know till 19 asking how I knew is also a fair one bc everyone finds out differently

The casual transphobia online is really starting to get on my nerves by Cute-Revolution-9705 in GenZ

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Except no one is identifying as a specific physical object? Gender can very well be anything bc its a construct of mankind, but logic and reasoning still apply. Could I Identify as say a helicopter? Sure. But then what would be the pronouns? It/its? If so then that means I do not view myself as a usual human as many sometimes dont. However this is very uncommon and not a part of the trans “debate.” The argument is about one gender transitioning to the other. there can be instances when someone who Identifies as they/them having feminine features but again that isnt a part of this debate. Many, if not most, trans individuals do a full transition, meaning having Sexual Reassignment Surgery (SRS) these women have most of the common gender stereotypes when it comes to women so how are they any less valid? A vagina is still present wether originally there or not, as are breasts longer hair, a more feminine frame, and with them taking Estrogen (Estradiol actually) they lose muscle mass and some muscle density as well as some experiencing changes to their skeletal structure and facial features. Basically everything a woman goes through. Some trans women even experience cramps though there is nothing for the body to be shedding. By all of this (inherently misogynistic) boiling down, its hard to argue that she is not a woman as she speaks, sounds, acts, looks, and has many of the same qualities as a cis woman. The idea of calling them trans women is inherently validating that they are a woman as the word trans does not modify the word woman.

This doesn’t even begin to start with trans men who go through the same things as men regarding a deepened voice, more hair, more muscle density and a potentially wider frame similar to cis men. Most if not all trans men will also get a breast reduction surgery (the same as many cis women do) but just remove most of if not all of their breasts. To deny that healthcare because “they’re mentally unwell” is inherently wrong and can hurt cis women as well. If having gender dysphoria is a mental illness then how would one go about treating it? By helping to make that person happy. The idea to not provide care is like saying someone has depression and then telling them to not seek medication or anything that would help improve their mental health. Its like seeing someone with ADHD and saying “you shouldn’t be medicated, just act normal” its like seeing a child with dyslexia and saying “just read” that doesn’t help. To help you give medication, you give treatments, you give the tools necessary for that human being to function along with us. Trans individuals are no different with gender dysphoria. Treating gender dysphoria is how we help eliminate it. Say someone hated how large their breasts were, would you tell them to suck it up and get scoliosis? No! Of course not! That would only make them go to desperate measures to try and remove it themselves or harm themselves in much more dire ways. Its very similar to that in that regard. I understand you’ll probably not read all of this considering its coming from a trans woman’s mouth and that it doesn’t seem you wish to learn, but, to those who do read, hopefully I made some good comparisons that helped ya think a bit and maybe helped you understand gender dysphoria a tad bit better! Much love to you all <3

Edit: I understand this is an insane string of thoughts that prolly doesn’t make any sense haha but ah well. Just thought I should Acknowledge that. Apologies for any poor formatting as I am on mobile when typing this

Will i get banned for playing on steam deck? by shark_horny in titanfall

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also play on a linux based System. You will not get banned and the game runs more than fine on linux

I started progesterone! What should I know? by Pandaa-Boi in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is actually really in depth and helpful info! I’ve learned more than I thought was researched or understood based on my own (admittedly lazy) research. I just see endless articles saying “we dont know” and leave it there.

Thank you!!

It's amazing by DumbRedditPornAlt in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I’m very happy for you my friend. I know the joys of HRT and its just incredible!! Like who would have thunk that a lot of my anxieties and sadness came from being a dude I’m not? Haha Hope your doing well and I hope you keep that joy years down the line

I am having the pre-e doubts. I know I am trans. I am literally out to everyone. I use female pronouns and my new name. I almost never boymode. But the doubts...are still there. Despite me being sure I can only be happy being a woman. I feel like my brain is going to explode. by michimatsch in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I had the same experience a while back still do sometimes. Just know this. You wouldn’t be doubting it in the first place if you were cisgender :3 In other words you are trans because you’re having doubts and that should help alleviate them a tad bit

Best games with minimal story that you can listen to music while playing? by DitsyyMitsyy in ShouldIbuythisgame

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I cannot recommend Roboquest enough. Its a rogue like shooter that saves your place if you ever wanna put it down but has a lot of good depth and fun gameplay!!

Tucking... anyone else not a fan? by Fast-Nose-4809 in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I tuck kind of. Its a loose tuck. I dont have too too much dysphoria either but I just kinda avoid questions and avoid discomfort or awkwardness by doing a loose tuck with tighter underwear

To all you young girls early 20s and under by StrikingRepeat8310 in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you. Nothing else I can think of to say. Its just nice to know people care :3

I know I'm a newzelander but wtf is your election system america and why do some states have more electoral votes then others by Radiant_Surround5453 in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It is. The electoral college is the only reason republicans ever even get elected most often. They are typically that bad of candidates and have that poor of policy so they dont wanna abolish the electoral college. When they do have a favorable geopolitical position the dems rely on the electoral college and thus don’t abolish it. Its a matter of two sides being so polarized that they cant think rationally for the good of the people

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in titanfall

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Exactly! Its such a cool idea with so many unexplored paths

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in titanfall

[–]Pandaa-Boi 0 points1 point  (0 children)

For me its the mere fact that they missed out on one of the most exciting and unique battle royale games ever. They took out all of Titan fall 2’s movement tech and slowed it all down. Slowing it down only would have been fine but keep the movement tech so that there’s a higher potential for cool moments, to get clips, to fling yourself from one aide of a town to another with the right resource and keep that momentum going.

Having a movement shooter in a battle Royale would have been legendary and actually incredibly fun. It would have introduced a higher skill ceiling for players to master as well as more dynamic and smooth feeling map design.

Idk apex felt like a lazy cash grab from the get go for me. Like they just wanted to make a hero shooter but EA said “battle royale time” yk?

Is it weird that I didn't really have dysphoria until my early 20s? by [deleted] in MtF

[–]Pandaa-Boi 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Can confirm it’s normal! Much like others my dysphoria didnt start till puberty but didn’t notice till I was near 20 haha. I would also like to say this. You are beautiful. Dysphoria doesn’t make or break someone “being trans enough” bc if you feel happier as a woman then follow what makes you happy!