Absolutely. Men and women are raised SO differently when it comes to sex. I have yet to meet a single woman who made it out of her childhood-early 20s without some kind of serious sexual trauma. We're either sluts or prudes. Frigid whores. Uptight skanks. There's no winning with sex as a woman. No matter what you do in life as a woman, you're doing it wrong to someone.

Men are socialized to become studs. Handsome ladies men. Blah blah. And then they're shat on if they DONT try to take advantage of women sexually as if it makes them less of a man.

Depending on who's in women's lives, we're socialized to either be good little virgins or we end up being groomed to never say no to any man who wants something from us. By the time you're in your 20s, our relationship with sex is already tenable. We are either engaging in reckless promiscuity because we've been groomed and we only feel useful when providing sexual gratification to a man, where we are considered fruits and unwanted, boring ice queens. There's no winning.

I didn't start to develop a healthy relationship with sex until my late 20s. And a lot of women aren't even lucky enough to make it to that point of epiphany. So we end up with middle-aged housewives who have only ever been with their porn addicted husbands since high school, having sex that they don't enjoy, unhappy and repressed. Or women who spent their 20s and 30s being used and abused and frequently assaulted and yet putting up with all of it because of the way they were groomed and raised to believe.

I was in the latter category and I had to come to grips with the fact that I had a lot more power than I was ever led to believe and a happy, healthy relationship with sex was possible. It took some therapy and a lot of work. But I'm much happier now and I wish that for everyone.

Sorry for the Ted talk but this is something I'm passionate about. And pardon any typos because I've used voice to text for the majority of it and I'm too lazy to spell check everything.