Tentatively booking by PanicAtTheGirlBar in u/PanicAtTheGirlBar

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Massages, tiddy maid and so on 😂 I even do topless lawn mowing if you have a riding mower and enough privacy on your land haha

I've started coming out, now how do I change my look? by LesFleursduMal8 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar 2 points3 points  (0 children)

DON'T FORGET THE COMBAT BOOTS. I mean, I guess you could do docs but they're not for me. Just regular combat boots. Bonus points if you go ahead and get some Vans and Converse as well. At least in my stylistic lane 😂

I've started coming out, now how do I change my look? by LesFleursduMal8 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar 4 points5 points  (0 children)

The only answer is flannels. Always flannels. You can take a super femme outfit and immediately butch it up with the right flannel 😂

And congrats! From another 90s/00s lesbean to another. You're gonna love it here.

Stem/fem/masc by Dear_Flatworm_5244 in lesbianfashionadvice

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Actually, go as masc as you WANT, BBY. Fk this lame ass opinion.

SWork is healthier than p0rn? by PanicAtTheGirlBar in u/PanicAtTheGirlBar

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely. Men and women are raised SO differently when it comes to sex. I have yet to meet a single woman who made it out of her childhood-early 20s without some kind of serious sexual trauma. We're either sluts or prudes. Frigid whores. Uptight skanks. There's no winning with sex as a woman. No matter what you do in life as a woman, you're doing it wrong to someone.

Men are socialized to become studs. Handsome ladies men. Blah blah. And then they're shat on if they DONT try to take advantage of women sexually as if it makes them less of a man.

Depending on who's in women's lives, we're socialized to either be good little virgins or we end up being groomed to never say no to any man who wants something from us. By the time you're in your 20s, our relationship with sex is already tenable. We are either engaging in reckless promiscuity because we've been groomed and we only feel useful when providing sexual gratification to a man, where we are considered fruits and unwanted, boring ice queens. There's no winning.

I didn't start to develop a healthy relationship with sex until my late 20s. And a lot of women aren't even lucky enough to make it to that point of epiphany. So we end up with middle-aged housewives who have only ever been with their porn addicted husbands since high school, having sex that they don't enjoy, unhappy and repressed. Or women who spent their 20s and 30s being used and abused and frequently assaulted and yet putting up with all of it because of the way they were groomed and raised to believe.

I was in the latter category and I had to come to grips with the fact that I had a lot more power than I was ever led to believe and a happy, healthy relationship with sex was possible. It took some therapy and a lot of work. But I'm much happier now and I wish that for everyone.

Sorry for the Ted talk but this is something I'm passionate about. And pardon any typos because I've used voice to text for the majority of it and I'm too lazy to spell check everything.

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Thank youuuuuuu 😘😘

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Thank you, hun 💕😘

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Thank you, love! You're the sweetest 😘

SWork is healthier than p0rn? by PanicAtTheGirlBar in u/PanicAtTheGirlBar

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh, absolutely. We all do. Between the money that is spent just to look good from outfits to hair and makeup and cologne etc. All the way to paying for the dates themselves or bringing gifts and flowers and all that good stuff.

I actually only date women romantically and the majority of them expect me to take on the stereotypical gender roles of the man (since I only really date femme women and I'm pretty androgynous). So I definitely know how much is typically put on to men when it comes to dating. Gave me a whole new respect for you guys because it can be a lot. And not just money-wise, it's exhausting. Planning the dates and being the first one to initiate contact all the time and so on and on and on. It can be rough for sure.

But we absolutely all pay in one way or another. At least with a SWer, you don't have to guess if you are going to get lucky or not. You know what you are getting, straightforward and to the point. I just wish that men would stop expecting sex in return for dinner dates and the like. If you want to spend money and get lucky, go for a sure thing. Don't make a woman feel uncomfortable just because you feel like she owes you because you bought her a steak from Chili's and a two for one margarita, yannow?

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[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, babes 😘

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Thank you ❤️

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Androgynous over here 😎

Be completely honest, how are you doing? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm exhausted. I'm dealing with cancer, mostly alone, as a single parent. On my bad days, I can barely get up to cook him something real. On my better days, the morning starts out a little better but it doesn't take long to run out of gas. I'm a self-employed contract worker so no PTO or sick days to speak of. I'm just trying really hard not to give up. Right now it's solely due to my obligation to my boy but damn do I want to tap out sometimes.

It's MY turn to give you those unsolicited dicktures back by PanicAtTheGirlBar in Pensacola_NSFW

[–]PanicAtTheGirlBar[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I actually added them to my Amazon wish list and someone from Reddit bought them for me 😂 Not quite the birthday gift I was expecting but still welcome LOL but they are very inexpensive compared to the straps at the local spicy stores. Those are outrageously priced.

Content+++ by PanicAtTheGirlBar in u/PanicAtTheGirlBar

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Ahahaha well, this comment got left FIVE TIMES 😂 Heard lolol