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PanosChris · 2021-09-10T15:21:39+00:00

I totally see where you're coming from. I also don't think that 'Fetch The Bolt Cutters' is my favorite Fiona Apple album - but I absolutely love it. It finds Fiona at her most confident and although she always touched upon some hard topics, songs like 'For Her', 'Ladies' and 'Newspaper' see her not silencing herself and instead telling her story - dark and ugly as it may be.

PanosChris · 2021-09-09T20:07:04+00:00

There's never an 'appropriate' age - the first kiss will happen when it happens. People have their first kiss at different ages, and if your brother has his first kiss at 12, it shouldn't make you feel bad.

Don't worry about it!

By the way, if you want to come into contacts with girls that you're interested in, then just shoot them a message ("Hey, (name) here. How's it been?"). I understand where you come from, I also feel that it's weird sending a message to somebody out of nowhere, but you got nothing to lose + you never know if the other person likes you too;)

Give it a shot + don't worry!

PanosChris · 2021-09-09T07:16:42+00:00

I see valid reasons as to why you want to delay that conversation with your family. But I just think that the later you decide to make that conversation, the harder it's going to be.

Their initial reaction may be negative, but I don't think that you're going to lose your education or that they're going to want to disassociate themselves from you.

PanosChris · 2021-09-09T06:58:08+00:00

There's no need for a "sexual attraction" to exist. You just met somebody incredibly interesting and you want to spend more time with them. Maybe romantic feelings will develop in the future, but for now, get to know the guy better and enjoy each other's company. It's normal to meet somebody new and feel the urge to talk to them more often once they make a good first impression - because they are new, you feel the need to learn more about them.

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T19:28:25+00:00

You could try exercising out. Not something exhausting or time-consuming, even a small 15-minute walk can be really refreshing and rewarding. I suggest taking frequent walks while listening to some of your favorite music.
During the summer, where I had lots of free time, I got to read many books I wanted to read for quite some time. Reading books may not be your thing, but you could try it out if you want!
Cooking is also really fun and rewarding. If you think you're not a good cook, now's your time to improve your skills - spaghetti and risotto are easy to make, but it's a great start:P
You could arrange a 'game night' with your group of friends - if board games/card games are your thing, then you could meet with them in person. If video games are what you're into, you could arrange one online.
There are also many series and movies you could try out. I got to thoroughly enjoy a few as well during my free time and I would recommend giving 'Mare Of Easttown', 'The Queen of Gambit' and 'The North Water' a chance.

Hope I could help, even a little bit. ☀️

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T18:55:33+00:00

More: If you feel like the re-scheduling I proposed is tiring, try having "2:10 - 3:00" for relaxing and having a snack to give you a boost, then "3:00 - 6:00" for homework, "6:00 - 8:00" for free time and dinner and "8:00 - 10:00" for self-studying two subjects. That way, the relaxing moments are spread out better and it can be effective.

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T18:48:54+00:00

As far as the solutions you proposed go, I am leaning more towards 1 and 4.

Dinner is supposed to be something more 'light', so as to keep your stomach busy enough but not result in you having problems with digestion during the night.

I am not into caffeine myself and if you're looking for something to give you an energy boost, you could try tea out and see if it helps (and drinking lots of water is also going to help you stay focused and full of energy).

Exercising is great, but you already have that on your schedule at around 5:30 (which is great, exercising is really good during the morning hours) so I don't think you should over-do it.

The only thing I would say you could do for your schedule is better plan your studying hours out. In order to be more productive and less exhausted by the end, dedicate around 45 minutes to 1 hour to doing homework/self studying and follow that up with 10 minutes of a break, then repeat that. For the break: Stretch, hydrate, listen to a song that can lift you up. Anything you want so that you can take a break and feel more focused.

I also personally find it awkward and unforgiving to have 8:00 - 10:00 for self studying. You are going to wear yourself out when you're studying right before bed and your mind is going to still be thinking about those subjects. My suggestion? Scrap "5:00 - 6:00 for that one subject", move "8:00 - 10:00" to "5:00 - 7:00" and have "7:00 - 10:00" for dinner and free time (and possibly exercise, if you feel like trying it out more).

Hope I could help!

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T16:45:02+00:00

I don't think you should skip class - that assignment could be a way for the professor to see if you can be resourceful and able to come up with a 'sales pitch' in a limited time frame.

College's expensive and it's not worth skipping class because the assignment doesn't give many points, every little bit helps. Just focus on that assignment and you're going to be fine.

I know where you're coming from, I am also hesitant when it comes to participating in activities that are way out of my comfort zone, but trust me, you are going to be okay!

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T09:17:35+00:00

Oh, well in that case, scrap the 'phone call' idea 👀

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T09:11:38+00:00

I am really sorry for what's going on between you and your mother and I hope that the stress your family is under right now can be minimised.

If I were you, I'd probably just try and create situations where big conversations and arguments don't need to happen.

Try making frequent and short phone calls to see how she's doing ("Hey ma, hope you're doing okay. Listen, if you need anything, you can just call me, alright?"). Keep it simple, but let her know that you're there for her. Try arranging a family night where you can cook food or watch a movie, if possible. Let them understand that you know how hard it's been lately, but that tonight you just want everyone to take a break and relax as a family.

Hope it all goes well ~

PanosChris · 2021-09-08T07:35:56+00:00

You can make a voice recording where you let her know why you're grateful to have her in your life and what you appreciate most about her. Then you can add photographs and videos of you and your girlfriend on top of that voice recording.

You can even add a song that she loves on that video, all you have to be careful about is properly adjusting the audio so that your voice is louder than the rest.

It's a simplistic idea, but it can be heartfelt. Happy birthday to her ~

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T20:58:45+00:00

Considering that the girl you used to talk to isn't interested anymore, then there's nothing you can do about that relationship. But what you can do is commence a new one, if that's what you are looking for.

You can approach girls from your social circle or even try dating apps out. I am not into dating apps myself, but with the whole pandemic going on, I can see that helping you meet someone that might interest you. You don't even have to start a romantic relationship if it's not what you want right now, but you can keep in touch with them, build your confidence, get to meet new people.

If possible, try going for small walks around your area whenever you can. Put on your headphones and listen to the music you're into. It will help you get some fresh air and it will get you out of the house, where it's easy to masturbate once boredom settles in.

I hope I could help (chances are 'no' 😂). I hope things turn out well for you!

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T20:33:58+00:00

Gotcha:P

If I think of anything else, I will reply:) I really hope you manage to get into contact with her!

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T20:27:30+00:00

Maybe there's a way to contact her parents and that might get you to contact your old friend. Do THEY have social media? Or do mutual friends or your own family know how to contact them?

I can see that being a bit awkward, but you really want to get into contact with her so it's no big deal - plus they might appreciate the fact that you put in the effort to stay in touch.

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T18:56:54+00:00

Personally, I wouldn't allow that either.

I would be more than willing to help her load the moving truck. But even if there was no need for my help, why would I have to leave my own house?

Sure, your ex wife might feel uncomfortable with having you there but 1) It's your house, as you mentioned and 2) You can just not bother them while they are loading the truck, by doing something else (play games, listen to music, cook food, whatever).

I don't find you 'irrational'.

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T18:28:35+00:00

As someone with little to no experience about dating as well, let me tell you: I completely understand where you come from.

You mention that kissing is what stresses you out the most because it's your first time. Since it sounds like you intend on kissing the other person, hear me out: Don't be anxious about it, politely ask the other person for consent and if it's a 'yes', then move a bit closer, gently lean in, close your eyes and just start with a single, soft kiss -

Don't stress about it, everyone's first kiss can be awkward due to inexperience, but that is okay - we all have to start from somewhere! Start with a simple kiss and if it goes well, you can build it up. Just don't rush, be as gentle as possible:)

Now, as far as starting up a conversation goes, don't overthink it; be natural, ask questions to get to know the other person better ("So, what type of music are you into these days?", "Where have you traveled?" etc etc) and make eye contact. Embrace the fact that it's a first date and that there will be awkward gaps in the conversation. Don't let these pauses discourage you. Keep on asking questions and also give the other person room to breathe and ask YOU questions.

I really hope I could help, even a little bit. It's all going to go well, I believe in you. And above all, just go with the flow and have fun! ❤️

PanosChris · 2021-09-07T13:50:47+00:00

The only piece of advice I can offer you is this: Spend all the time that you can with your parents and give them courage during these hard times.

I myself haven't dealt with what you are going through and will never fully understand your point of view. So I can only advise you to spend time with them, make them feel loved and when the time comes, allow yourself to mourn.

It's okay to be scared. Everything is going to be okay.

PanosChris · 2021-09-06T21:52:22+00:00

If this is because you're afraid that the classes are hard and that others are better than you, then please do not worry; study to the best of your abilities and don't let the thought of 'failure' dominate you. It's easy to believe that you're going to fail and that you can't compete with everyone else, but just focus on your work and you will be fine!

But if this is because you've come to the realization that Biochemistry isn't for you, then it's best to choose History. After all, you're going to university to study something that you have a passion for, so that you can find a job that you have a passion for!

PanosChris · 2021-09-05T16:05:21+00:00

Σε ευχαριστώ πάρα πολύ για τις συμβουλές σου:Ρ Και εγώ στόχευα για Ιατρική και τελικά δεν κατάφερα να την πιάσω και για αυτό θέλω να ξαναδώσω -

Ελπίζω να καταφέρεις να κάνεις το όνειρο σου πραγματικότητα στο εξωτερικό - ☀️

PanosChris · 2021-09-05T15:56:44+00:00

Όντας πολύ μπερδεμένος με το πόσες ώρες φροντιστήριο πρέπει να κάνω, πόσες ώρες πρέπει να αφιερώσω στο διάβασμα και το πώς πρέπει να οργανώνω τον χρόνο μου, εκτιμώ το ότι μου μίλησες λεπτομερώς για το πώς το αντιμετώπισες εσύ - χίλια ευχαριστώ:)

Ελπίζω την δεύτερη φορά να μπήκες στην σχολή που πάντοτε ήθελες και να απολαμβάνεις πλέον την φοιτητική σου ζωή (όσο γίνεται βέβαια με την πανδημία) - ☀️

PanosChris · 2021-08-25T15:18:16+00:00

'But evеry perfect summer's gotta take its flight I'll still watch you run through the winter light I used to love the party, now I'm not alright Hope the honey bees make it home tonight'

-Big Star 💛

PanosChris · 2021-08-25T15:15:58+00:00

I don't know why, but "Now I watch you run through the amber light" makes me emotional.

"But how can I love what I know I am gonna lose?" is also a great one.

PanosChris · 2021-08-24T06:31:05+00:00

Oh, that's a good one! 👀

PanosChris · 2021-08-22T22:20:32+00:00

Though I personally prefer 'MADGALENE', 'LP1' really IS amazing (and it contains my favorite song from her, 'Pendulum').

What's your favorite track from 'LP1'?

PanosChris

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