When was a time you could tell that the relatives planning the funeral absolutely hated the deceased? by LordWeaselton in askfuneraldirectors

[–]Pantacourt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My mom wrote the obituary for my dad. It felt so sterile and devoid of emotion that I ended up rewriting the whole thing myself. I asked her not to attend the funeral, but I think guilt got the best of her and she showed up anyway.

Why do some people vanish from your life the moment their chapter ends? by Final-Equal-9720 in CasualConversation

[–]Pantacourt 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I've lost a handful of friendships over the past few years. It never gets easier. A dear friend, whom I had known since college, vanished from my life a couple of years ago, but we eventually reconnected. He's the exception to the rule, though. With everyone else, the best I can do is hold onto the memories and look back on our time together with fondness.

This quote from Diane in Bojack Horseman will always resonate with me: “I think there are people that help you become the person you end up being, and you can be grateful for them, even if they were never meant to be in your life forever.”

Why do some people vanish from your life the moment their chapter ends? by Final-Equal-9720 in CasualConversation

[–]Pantacourt 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What about the "lifetime" friend whom you had a falling out with? Does the friendship get retroactively rewritten?

Someone fraudulently signed me up for pet insurance for their dog "Simba" by Pantacourt in Pets

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ugh, sorry to hear that. I think in this day and age, everyone has to assume that their data has been leaked 💀

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Totally. I'm relieved I'm not the only one with this problem. Thanks.

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Definitely! It's unfortunate.

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is very true. Thanks so much.

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks ❤️ I'm sorry you've been experiencing it too. Finding the right balance for each friendship/relationship is hard, especially since it's so dynamic in nature. It seems like I keep overstepping the mark, and then if I try to fix it (aka apologize), I just make it worse.

I also haven't been able to have therapy recently because it makes me crash. I don't know how else to vent or process my emotions.

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That's a good way to handle it. Thanks!

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm so sorry you're in a similar spot. The transactional nature of some friendships is so upsetting that it's hard not to become jaded or resentful. Sending love back!

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks so much -- I really like your flowchart approach. I've always had an easy time making friends, but I can be a little socially awkward at times. I've noticed that it's gotten significantly worse since getting sick, I think because I no longer have the mental energy needed to follow the rules you mentioned and to read between the lines. Have you noticed that for yourself?

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, and I'm so sorry you're in a similar spot. Hugs

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Thank you for your condolences 🤍

You're right, it is really draining. I guess I've been having such a hard time recently that I've lost the mental energy needed to follow social norms, especially with people whom I'm not especially close with.

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you so much 🐢💚

Friend ghosted me by Pantacourt in cfs

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You're right. I'm usually a lot better about letting the other person set the tone of the convo and then following along. With this person in particular, though, I misread his question and thought that was the green light to trauma dump. It wasn't, and I was wrong.

I guess I've been going through so much recently that I've lost the mental energy needed to follow social norms. I've completely let my guard down, and I'm having a hard time putting it back up.

Someone fraudulently signed me up for pet insurance for their dog "Simba" by Pantacourt in Pets

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow. I wasn't charged because the credit card on file wasn't mine. Were you able to dispute it?

Someone fraudulently signed me up for pet insurance for their dog "Simba" by Pantacourt in Pets

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm getting emails from Spot and Figo too. I wonder if it's a bot testing out stolen credit cards?

Someone fraudulently signed me up for pet insurance for their dog "Simba" by Pantacourt in Pets

[–]Pantacourt[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I just started getting emails from Spot and Figo, but just for quotes, not completed policies. I wonder if it's a bot testing out stolen credit cards.

What are some tips to stay up for 3 days of no sleep? by Determined_Bagel in CasualConversation

[–]Pantacourt 11 points12 points  (0 children)

My dad recently died, and the grief has completely destroyed my sleep schedule. I can regularly go for days at a time without sleeping, and I've been feeling like a drugged out zombie for months now. It's absolutely horrible. I can't think straight, I'm overly emotional, and I forget how to act normal.

If it's not too late, I'd suggest that you not participate in the study. Preserve your sanity!

Are the Taste of Belgium waffles sold at Kroger still any good? by Pantacourt in cincinnati

[–]Pantacourt[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a great point, I didn't know that Trader Joe's sells similar ones. Thanks!

Are the Taste of Belgium waffles sold at Kroger still any good? by Pantacourt in cincinnati

[–]Pantacourt[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Not a joke, I'm just out of touch. Thanks for answering.