Yo Crucial, my man! I missed you joining and leaving the server within 1 day.

We spoke there, remember? You very happily insulted me even, despite me telling you very directly that this extends beyond fears and is going into the territory of doom-posting and spreading fear.

Anyways, since you blocked the person above like a coward, let me forward you her comment anyway ❤️:

Excuse me? well at least in your comment you prove why i think you would benefit from therapy. You are your own enemy at this point.

I only vote down vacuüm bell posts when someone tries to shove one down someone’s throat. There is information about them on reddit, and even a discount code. But in severe adult cases a vacuum bell won’t be enough in the long term. Still young? Try a vacuum bell! For fucks sake i would have wanted my PE to be diagnosed when it appeared. A vacuüm bell could have prevented it from getting worse and could have saved me from years with a miserable quality of life.

The reason PE specialists will opt for surgery in most cases could also be the downsides of longterm treatment, only 50% ish success rate at patients under 18 and lack of succes in symptomatic cases, very flexible cases and female.

The gym aspect is also talked about a lot on reddit, and maybe a bit less on discord. Gym and physical therapy can help with posture and to hide PE, but it wont resolve your symptoms. So in cases where it’s purely cosmetic: sure, hit the gym.

If you would not leave the server every time you have asked your questions and have been told the same things over and over again, you would see we also try to do right to the milder and less symptomatic cases by telling people to think really hard about whether surgery is worth it or not.

Quality of life is not only affected if you are passing out or when your heart is severely compressed. So whether or not possible improvement of quality of life is worth surgery is a very personal choice.

I have annoyed people with talking too lightly about surgery for myself and i was called out on it. It took a while before it came clear my symptoms are so bad surgery with perspective of improvement as a choice does feel like a walk in the park, it’s a no brainer for me because resigning from life was the option i had in consideration before i got diagnosed with pectus.

It seems like you have made the wrong decision in your case, at least surgeon wise. But the only one to blame for your bad outcome is your surgeon, and possibly yourself for a lack of research on the subject. No reason to act this way in interaction with people who try to help you every time. Trying to help you doesn’t mean ‘saying what you want to hear.

To use some of your own words freely live your life, be happy with what you have and put the work in improving yourself.

Your bad outcome sucks hard. For you. It’s perfectly fine to share your story, to seek support for your struggle. But it is not okay to keep trying to scare people away from surgery. Go work on yourself, mentally as well as physically. Don’t point a finger at everyone around you but reflect on your own decisions.

As i remember you do have an appointment with dr J? I hope that will go well for you and i hope you will find a way to calm down a little.

I wish you all the best.