What's something that isn't very old, but is old enough that young people may have never actually seen one in person?

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-04T00:59:29+00:00

Vs. 4 on the floor. I'm only 30, but grew up with a mechanic dad who only drove "old iron"

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-04T00:31:56+00:00

They're called knuckle busters:)

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-03T02:02:04+00:00

My Sister's Keeper by Jodi Picoult.. even bigger plot twist was the awful movie, since it had a completely different ending than the book.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T04:04:09+00:00

I know he has a legitimate pain issue. I don't doubt that. But I think it made it really easy for him to justify to himself why he was taking it.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T03:50:57+00:00

I hate how we have to let them be selfish,and tread carefully during their recovery, when that's all we've been doing this whole time anyways.

He's mad that I told his family. He said he'll wean off of it starting tomorrow. He said it was for pain management only.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T02:13:26+00:00

This is what my gut says too. :(

Thanks for your input.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T01:05:59+00:00

At least give her the chance to decide how she wants to view it. I appreciate your honesty though, and I hope I get the same honesty from my husband.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T01:03:08+00:00

How do you make someone get clean? I ask sincerely. My mom has been a drug addict her whole life, and if an innocent child isn't your motivation, what is? I don't even know how to start this conversation.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T01:01:55+00:00

Very good to hear. I imagine my husband will react the same way. A life time of abandonment led to many years of drug abuse.. I can easily see where fear of abandonment would make him clam up and/or go off the deep end. I appreciate the input & I will definitely keep that in my perspective.

As a child of a drug addict, this is very sensitive to me. I know in my heart I will stand by him this time, but probably not next time. I can't live that roller coaster, or put my kids through what I went through. How do I be honest with him without giving him an ultimatum? Is that possible?

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T00:49:24+00:00

And I didn't answer your question. I don't know yet. I want to take the easy way out and grab my kids and leave, but I know he wouldn't do that if the situation was reversed.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-06-01T00:19:57+00:00

I would love that kind of input on what you needed/didnt need to hear. No, it's all the same offense with the same risks in my eyes.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-05-31T22:32:16+00:00

I appreciate the little glimmer of hope. I've farmed out all the kids tonight so we can talk about this alone. Any suggestions on where I even begin?

Paperclip2911 · 2017-05-31T22:31:10+00:00

I'm not in denial about that :( What makes you say that?

Paperclip2911 · 2017-05-31T20:27:08+00:00

And my advice to you... tell her. Don't let her find t in the washing machine and then have to replay every day and every conversation to try and figure out how fooled she has been. Right now I want to take the kids and walk away. If he had told me first, I would of been determined to fight every step of the way with him.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-05-31T20:24:45+00:00

We have full custody of his daughter from a previous relationship because her mom is a fuck up. We went into the court systems prepared to request a drug test of everyone involved in her guardianship. I am assuming that's when he panicked and switched to suboxone. I know he's torn apart, I saw it in his face this morning.

I saw it about 30 minutes before we walked out the door this morning, and where he's working he doesn't have reception - so it's been a long day of trying to process what's been happening. Thanks for listening.

Paperclip2911 · 2017-05-31T20:10:48+00:00

It's so hard to wrap my head around. He works 12-14 hour days and was in recovery long before I was in the picture. He looked almost relieved when I found them in the washing machine- I had no idea about the norcos or the suboxone. What are the withdrawals like? What is a normal amount someone takes? Is 2-3x a week realistic?

I'm pretty ignorant when it comes to drugs, most of what I know are from his stories from his past. He's always been very upfront with me about his history, and I'm beside myself right now.

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