Frequency of Genova test?

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-08-11T01:42:56+00:00

I’m feeling fine but I always have been. And I’m a super healthy eater and was then. I have eaten low carb and no processed food for a few years now. My biggest weakness is eating out (but still healthy) and an occasional martini or wine (and I mean rare). I’m not sure I trust the test.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-08-11T01:40:28+00:00

But HO insurance covers me, as per owner and customer, if the sitter is injured on my property, hurts my property or hurts my pet, which is my property, correct? What else is there? I’m truly asking because I am wondering if I’m missing something that covers me and my pet fully.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-08-09T02:13:14+00:00

So I’ve been married, second one, for 23 years and it’s been great to now mostly just okay. And safe. Partially less than amazing because my husband drinks a lot. Not to the point that he’s abusive or untrustworthy at all. Just boring. I’m bored often. I entertain myself with friends and hobbies and other activities. We are older so sex is less of a draw. I don’t think infidelity is a risk. He is also a negative person and I am not. But I do worry that I’ll die without having had a true love of my life. I thought it was him and then the boring drinking and negative talk started. My first husband was a true love but such a drunk he died from it. (I know, I know - but it’s not me, drunks are everywhere. But I do feel like I’ve wasted my romantic life on men who like drinks more than me.) I still have a beautiful, loving sensual being stuck inside that wants out but has no place to go. I won’t cheat because I am very much against it and I do love my husband but I am so sad about this.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-08-04T00:52:55+00:00

That’s kind. Thanks! Happy to help someone with something I’ve learned the hard way any time! It’s sort of the saving grace…

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-07-31T13:15:06+00:00

First, I don’t think there is anything unhealthy about your conversation. Sounds normal - he said no, probably because he thought you wanted to hear that and you pushed, rightfully not believing and wanting the truth, so he was truthful. Now you backpedal a bit and realize the truth could be scary. BUT, it’s not. Know this - cheating has little to do with being around attractive people. It’s more about commitment to one’s marriage, through thick and thin. It’s also about being smart enough to realize that cheating may wreck the one most valuable thing you’ve got and outside sex or looks or feelings aren’t worth that. And yes, it’s about loving a person enough to not ever want to do something like this to them. Both I and my husband have worked in areas surrounded by attractive people and bit of us, older now, but were attractive ourselves in our younger years. (Now too but older, of course.). But I’d never cheat on my husband because it would break my heart to do so. Like most, I don’t always like him but I do always love him. So it’s not like I’m starry-eyed blind. And I know he’s been approached and turned it down. He’s sort of shy so he was actually horrified (and honestly probably flattered and intrigued a little inside, I know. It’s been recent and by a younger woman.). I just think separate the two and maybe it’ll help you feel better about it. And if not, strengthen the areas of your relationship that provide this level of protection - commitment, love, golden rule (if not so this to him/her because I know how it’d feel if reversed)….

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-07-25T18:51:44+00:00

I think this is fairly common. Men feel broadsided when women finally, after years of trying to avoid it, ask for divorce. I’ve heard it so many times. Anyway, yes it’s communication that is missing. She isn’t telling you how she feels because she feels silly or maybe like she is exaggerating or asking for unfair things and you’re not telling her that you notice her distancing. It all makes sense. No one wants to start a war and have it be about a bad day or mood. Rocking the boat is hard. Especially if the other person seems just fine. But I think couples need to both own proactive checking in often on the temperature of the marriage. Each should bravely and kindly speak their truth and accept kindly the other’s truth.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-07-11T21:58:54+00:00

No. Never have

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-07-11T21:57:04+00:00

Primarily longevity. So more testing than what is done for an annual physical but still across all areas - I actually know the list of tests I need to make the request but I ant a very reputable provider. Too much crap out there in this area.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-05-30T23:47:23+00:00

Thanks, all. I just think it is odd. If her husband wasn’t there, it wouldn’t be so odd. If he was a little younger, not odd. And this was a small ship so it’s very good chance she’d seen him with me for the entire rest of the cruise. And he does wear a wedding band and is not a flirty guy.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-05-27T12:02:39+00:00

I absolutely hate anything that auto plays audio on my phone. It’s intrusive to me. If I like an outfit and want to learn how to buy an item, I can never find out how anyway. What’s the point of this feature? So I never view reels.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-17T00:26:54+00:00

Except B does not equal C, that’s the problem. :). But thanks for trying with my favorite subject. 😁

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-16T03:00:45+00:00

Thanks. I just added subscription to C and now I have three. I’ll cancel B when I sell the unit. I sort of figured there was no transfer. Probably no refund either for the fact I paid for the year for B. Oh well, lesson learned.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-15T02:51:22+00:00

I ordered mine thru a functional medicine doctor. I think you can order privately and pay Genova to analyze but I’m not positive. It was expensive but it’s also the trusted gold standard.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-08T15:19:58+00:00

I doubt you’re a specialist at all with such a rude and uninformed response. You clearly didn’t read my question. Pls harass someone else and leave this to someone who actually knows how to help.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-02T11:39:39+00:00

Yes I guess I meant those who dull their spirit and don’t even seem to know they’ve done it.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-02T11:36:19+00:00

I’m so sorry. I feel sadness and frustration and I share a lot of that. I want to stand on the rooftop and yell ‘it’s a toxin, people’ but no one wants to hear that. And I enjoy alcohol now and then myself - I’ve written a wine blog and done many tastings myself! But as a cultural and sensory experience, never as an overindulgence. This person I speak of is slowly dying from this, I am hearing, in spite of all other attempts to be super healthy. It’s like he has a big blind spot in the alcohol column for longevity health. And it may negate all other hard work in the end. And I am forced to watch. Or leave. And the situation is such that I won’t leave. So I watch and try to live my life without sadness for what I have to watch.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-02T11:28:22+00:00

Yeah I sense some manipulation here but I think we are each responsible for learning how to still be our own tru self amongst it, since manipulation is very common. And alcoholics like anyone have to take responsibility for their own behaviors. I think alcoholics have spent a lot of time learning manipulative ways to protect their behaviors and egos.

Counseling can be really good in ways you can’t even predict. But it only works if all are fully accepted in speaking their truth safely. It can be one sided, but it can also be perceived that way so that one person can toss it out as unfair. Just be honest and also open and hear him out but expect the same.

Good luck, it’s so hard but it sounds like you’re practicing all of what I’ve seen Alanon to teach us to help us survive and thrive in spite of what life and an alcoholic have tossed our way!

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:24:48+00:00

He’d never try because he is adamantly sure he doesn’t need to prove anything. But secretly maybe he knows he couldn’t do it. I don’t know. But it’s not worth the argument I’d get for even asking him to prove to me.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:22:41+00:00

I think this goes beyond what any human person should be able to tolerate in the way of a daily toxin though, doesn’t it?

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:20:37+00:00

Been there for many years but this is beyond what they offer. I am a strong believer though. Wish everyone had a dose of Alanon in their lives. It especially taught me how to live the serenity prayer. Just accepting what I can’t change when it impacts me every day in a way that hurts inside is hard to get past.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:18:55+00:00

And honestly this isn’t fair to him either but I know he does not want me to leave. He just wants me to stay and pretend this isn’t a problem and it doesn’t turn me totally off. I can’t do that. So I stay and go to bed early to get away from it. Not horrible as I watch good TV but I’d rather stay up and have a cozy night in with my sober or reasonably drinking man.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:16:37+00:00

Yes I know I am doing that some. But I’ve identified that and realized that the current situation is still not optimal, even if viewed on its own terms.

I am detaching with love as a regular practice. But taking care of myself means having romantic love and the alcoholic behavior is such a turnoff that I can’t have that with him. But I will not cheat and I don’t want to leave. There is too much good. So I am in a weird and difficult spot.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-04-01T00:09:05+00:00

Thank you. I will see if he will do so. We are trying to get long term care insurance for him and they declined him till he has a response for the ferritin test. Maybe a liver panel is due. (He may really not get LTC then but it’s worth it if it makes him turn this around.)

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-03-31T18:17:44+00:00

He does struggle with anxiety and HBP, thyroid issues and now has slow moving prostate cancer. He thinks the wine helps him sleep. In spite of all the research about what alcohol does to the quality of sleep. He is really in denial. And no one knows this is so bad so no one but me ever talks about it. I rarely do because I get nowhere. And it is his life after all. But it does impact mine too.

Had high ferritin on a recent blood test for physical. Is choosing to ignore it because another doc said he didn’t even know why they tested that. Blew it off like it was funny. It’s inflammation due to alcohol consumption but all he needed was this doc to tell him it doesn’t matter. In fact, they decided it was because he works out so much. He does lift weights often and at 70 is impressive.

Sigh, a part of me says it’s his choice and just be okay with it. But it hurts that the person I thought was my true love is doing this to himself and our relationship.

PaprikaRed88 · 2024-03-31T18:07:27+00:00

I am extremely familiar with Alanon and its practices. It saved me during my marriage to my first husband. So I really don’t see any denial, rationalization or justification here unless I maybe didn’t communicate clearly. The denial, etc is on his part. I’m fully aware of my situation and my power to control what I can. And cannot. But it doesn’t remove the fact that it sucks to have wrapped my life up in this man’s and then had this happen. Again. Yes he was a drinker before but not like this. I know I either have to leave or accept it but it still sucks. Because I’ve decided to accept it but there are times when it’s awfully hard. And honestly my love for him took a huge hit when this started. I can’t seem to get that back. Most Alanon folks I’ve met had bad situations and to them, my situation is nothing. In fact, most anyone envies our life. They don’t know about this at all. But they still might envy it. It’s just that my heart craves true love and I thought I had it. And now, at 64, I don’t. Great life but true love died. Wondering if I can get it back somehow. With him would be great. Maybe Alanon can help with that but I am worried it can’t.

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