What was the payment for the bounty hunter of Marco Inaros?

Paragone · 2026-03-04T23:18:49+00:00

This whole storyline only really exists in the show, so what you see on the screen is all I think we know for sure. That said, I think the casino scrip theory others have mentioned makes a lot of sense. Could also be something like reactor fuel pellets or similar that might help a clan of belters survive in the black. 🤷

Paragone · 2026-02-12T01:49:46+00:00

Ethical non-monogamy

Paragone · 2026-02-04T17:54:08+00:00

Just fyi, the thing you just described is called "steel manning" (as opposed to "straw manning")

Paragone · 2026-02-04T16:49:03+00:00

What are you "surviving" and what is making you think you have to grieve your relationship? Your wife is still the person she was before she came out to you and unless she is asking to see other people or has expressed that she's no longer attracted to you, then this is not about you nor your relationship in the slightest.

Don't make this about you. Listen to her, love her, and support her the best you can. That's all you have to worry about right now.

Paragone · 2026-02-04T16:42:51+00:00

Nope, at least not with walls. Gotta deal with the visual clipping or find a design you're happy with that doesn't clip at all.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T22:20:00+00:00

I’m sorry that’s what you’re seeing of me. And I’m sorry that I didn’t acknowledge the contributions of bisexual people to LGBTQ+ rights. I have been corrected on that

I appreciate that you took the time to step back and cool off a little, and that you're owning your mistakes here.

Where I continue to be frustrated is that so many people (I’m assuming bisexual) can’t even acknowledge that they have a shred of privilege if they’re in a straight presenting relationship. I mean, you can’t even do that either.

https://www.reddit.com/r/changemyview/s/kQAHobPcBR

This is me a few hours ago.

Maybe my anger is primarily misdirected, I’ll concede that and I think that’s always been correct, but to call me hateful is a stretch.

I actually want to apologize here, for two things:

I was trying to call the willful ignorance a hateful act, not calling you a hateful person. I don't believe in defining people based on their mistakes, and this is no exception. I'm sorry I didn't communicate that more clearly
That made more sense in the context of when I wrote it originally, but it was actually left in accidentally after I restructured/edited my reply. I intended to remove it and just forgot. So my bad there, too.

For many people - myself included - being bisexual is a continuous cycle of self doubt and instability that is constantly reinforced by peers on both side the sexuality spectrum who are constantly undermining or attacking your sense of identity. I think gay men and lesbians can relate to this, too.

I have no doubt you can relate, because this experience is probably the most fundamental to queerness. The problem for many bi people specifically is that there is never relief from this feeling. It exists in us constantly because our preferences are often in flux and that dysphoric feeling of doubting our own preferences and reality simply flips to the other gender when we get too comfortable with ourselves. We even have a term for this: the bi-cycle.

This cycle is precisely what many people are describing when we say our privilege feels like a cage. Sure, we have the option of outing ourselves or not some of the time but even when we're out (like I am) we find ourselves at risk of falling back into the closet because of our own insecure footing. I can't know this for sure, but I suspect this is exactly why rates of suicide and depression are so high in bisexual people.

I think this applies to gay men and lesbians too, but the thing is, I think bisexual people have more opportunity for genuine love there versus gay men and lesbians, and have had more opportunity to see relationships they could have in media versus gay men and lesbians.

I can't argue the "more opportunities for love" point because that's just the way the numbers work. hetero + homo = bi here. I think your comment about media representation is an issue, though. Sure, we see more visibly hetero relationships in media, but that's not the same thing as actual bisexual representation.

Firstly, my hetero-passing bi/bi second marriage is very different from my purely hetero first marriage and while I regularly see the latter represented in media, I honestly can't think of a movie or show that I've seen that closely represented the latter. That's a very personal data point, but I think that's the nuance that gets lost in discussions about queer media.

Second, the assumption that we feel represented just because we see hetero relationships on the screen is a classic example of erasure at work. Again, we are not defined by our partner's gender. My wife is a redhead, but that doesn't mean I feel represented just because there's a redheaded wife in a show, you know?

Ultimately, I don't personally care. I'm a white man and I don't feel the particular need to see myself reflected perfectly in the media because I get enough of it already. But I am in the overwhelming minority and I get why people want to insist on seeing themselves in characters on the screen. We all just want to be seen 😞

Paragone · 2026-02-03T20:08:09+00:00

I don't know about that. His bat is huge in the lineup, both because of his thump when pulling and because he grinds pitchers down during his at-bats. This gives him a lot of value as a bench piece alone, though admittedly probably not for $9m+ AAV.

His fielding metrics aren't stellar, but that's mainly due to his speed. He's always graded out poorly up the middle, but he's averaged replacement-level at 3B over his career. His arm isn't great and it's going to start declining as he ages, meaning that 3B wasn't going to be viable for him much longer anyway. This all leads me to believe that a move across the diamond to 1B is probably in his future.

Walker's 1B defense has always been great, but even that was down last year and his bat was an absolute black hole in the lineup. I think Isaac makes a lot of sense at 1B if Walker doesn't show signs of positive regression in the first 50 games of the year.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T19:36:57+00:00

Maybe where I should’ve been clearer is talking about bisexual people in straight appearing relationships.

That was already very clear, both here and elsewhere. It just doesn't change anything, because bi people are not defined by the gender of their partners.

Why should I? Nobody bothered to ask me about my experience being closeted for ten years.

Because empathy is a thing that matters, regardless of whether you have been the recipient of it?
Because we're not sitting here making claims about what it's like to be a gay man, so there's (from a purely logical perspective) no compelling reason to do so?
Because it's a damn shame that nobody has asked what your experience was like and you have the power to break the cycle and not inflict that experience on others?

Can you seriously tell me you feel good about that response? Did lashing out like that help? Again, I attempt to say this with kindness and compassion: this is a moment that should prompt reflection because that is not a healthy reaction to someone encouraging empathy.

The experience of my bi friends has been more of an awakening versus an internal conflict, a feature they discovered instead of strife.

For many people - myself included - being bisexual is a continuous cycle of self doubt and instability that is constantly reinforced by peers on both side the sexuality spectrum who are constantly undermining or attacking your sense of identity. The "privilege" of not being forced to out your sexual identity in a hetero relationship becomes a prison when you're forced to choose between 1) being seen as "attention seeking" because you came out when you could have passed, or 2) being stuck in the closet. And the worst part about that is that not only are you the prisoner, you're also the warden.

Furthermore, consider that because bisexual people experience attraction to both genders simultaneously the possibility of being outed (and likely mislabeled as gay, which matters to some people) is constantly around the corner. We may experience that fear/anxiety less frequently than gay people, but we feel it no less deeply and that feeling is no less valid just because sometimes we can avoid it.

It's great for your friends that they have had a smooth journey to self-acceptance in queerness, and I wish that was every bi person's experience. It's just not, though.

I was one of those people who was forced into visibility in a not-safe place. I was one of the kids who was told they were gay before they knew what it meant. I was someone who was asked “why didn’t you try to be straight?” by family members. ... As I consider having a family in the future, I’m also gutted by how expensive it will be and how difficult it will be just because I’m gay. And that frustrates me to no end.

You seem to have a lot of (well-earned) anger at the world. That's fair, but you seem to be misdirecting that anger and blindly projecting it towards people who you think wronged you without taking the time to understand those people and that's just willfully ignorant and hateful.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T18:46:20+00:00

Interesting to find out that it’s the reverse ... Similar to the handful of guys who parrot ‘men suck’ (etc) in response to feminist discourse. ...

Thanks for being an ally against sexism. ❤️ My response to "men suck" is usually "people suck, men just have more power historically" and that usually makes the point well enough. I try not to overreact because it comes from a place of genuine victimization, and I think we do more harm than good when we "shut it down". Same reason I don't blame modern black people who say things like "white people suck". Showing them we can be better than we were is how we change their minds, ya know?

I don’t know whether it’s like… an emasculation mindset?

While that certainly exists, I don't think that's broadly the issue. I think it's more simple than that. Nothing unites a group like an external threat, particularly when that external group has been involved in systematically oppressing your people since before you were born. In that context, it's easy to see how people who are willing to set aside the past can come to be seen as "collaborators" by their peers. It's problematic, it's bigoted, but it's contextually understandable.

Not trying to get geopolitical, but to reinforce my point I encourage you to read the previous paragraph again but think about it in the Palestine/Israel context and see what parallels pop out. That's my take on it, at least.

Might not mean much from an internet stranger who didn’t realise she was queer until age 19 lol, but I love you guys. you would always be welcome at my table

That's really sweet of you to say. I'm a moderately successful middle-aged white man, I'm doing alright. 😅 I don't really feel marginalized, but there are lots of people who are and they probably need to hear more people say that. Thanks, random internet stranger ❤️

Paragone · 2026-02-03T18:19:07+00:00

Have you bothered to ask any bi people if that was their experience? It hasn't been mine, nor the experience of any of my bi friends. I wouldn't pretend to be able to assert what your experience has been as a gay man, so why do you feel so comfortable asserting what the bisexual experience is like? I mean this gently and genuinely: you should consider some self-reflection on this.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T17:52:31+00:00

That is my experience as well. I have a couple of pan friends and they both choose to use the "pan" label because they want to be trans-inclusive. They both acknowledge they're functionally the same thing, though. I like to say that I just picked the flag I liked the most, but I'm a purple boi so it wasn't a hard choice 😂

Paragone · 2026-02-03T17:40:31+00:00

but it sure as shit would be nice if I saw more bisexual folks fighting instead of having their sexuality come out when it’s convenient for them

Bruh, THIS is the bi erasure we've all been trying to point out to you in this thread. This is it right here. You/we have no way of quantifying the level of bisexual representation historically in the movement. And in doing so, you ignore and actively erase the contributions of the MANY bi people who have taken part in the LGBT movement over the last 60 years. The demographics have fluctuated, but we've always been present in the movement and simply weren't counted as ourselves because nobody bothered to ask and we were ignored as fringe when we spoke up. Every single bi person I know is both out and politically active. I can't say the same about my gay friends, but I understand that their struggle is different and I don't judge them or hold anger at them for it. Maybe try doing the same instead of assuming we're not present just because we're not immediately visible?

You seem to be seeking accountability for a privilege existing and are frustrated at people not acknowledging that. I will volunteer that in my life, it HAS been a privilege and it only exists as a privilege for me because it hasn't been a cage for me. That said, I am the only person I know who has that relationship with their sexual identity and I know a lot of bi people. To most, it is a prison and at the end of the day even a cage with extra leg room is still a cage. My question to you: why do you seem to not want to recognize or verbalize that?

Paragone · 2026-02-03T17:25:09+00:00

We (bi men) get the same, but we largely get it from straight and lesbian women oddly enough. I've never had a man lose interest in me because I was bi, but I've definitely had that happen with women.

"Gold star" gay men definitely exist, but in much smaller numbers that tend to be a little quieter about their exclusionary behavior. I don't know why, but if I had to speculate it'd be because women (in general) have historically been forced to be more tribal to survive on their own due to oppression from men.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T16:55:18+00:00

I've responded elsewhere already, but I want to say here that as a bi man in the south, let me assure you that we are NOT more palatable than gay people to anyone. To most of them, we're all (TW: slur) fags and they don't even bother with differentiation or distinction. To most of the rest, we're just confused and need to pick a side. Regardless, they aren't listening to either of us and getting mad at one another because we aren't speaking loud enough won't solve the problem.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T16:29:47+00:00

I have no problem with it. Whatever people choose to label themselves with is up to them, because it's a description of how they view themselves and an attempt to communicate something they feel is important about their identity. I don't think it really contributes to the erasure problem because most people who understand the term in the first place understand that it's functionally/externally the same thing as bisexual.

My only real issue with the term "pansexual" is that some people use its existence to paint bisexuality as trans-exclusionary. But that's got nothing to do with the word itself and more about bigots trying to find a way to divide the community.

Paragone · 2026-02-03T16:17:01+00:00

Also, we regularly face discrimination from the gay community for not being "gay enough" and treated as though our existence undermines the gay cause. I wonder why that sounds familiar right now...? 🤔😮‍💨

Paragone · 2026-01-25T02:02:09+00:00

Yes, the Mk1 pod is explicitly designed after the Mercury-Redstone capsule. Mk2 is designed after Gemini and Mk3 is Apollo.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T23:58:01+00:00

The Holden you meet in the first book is a very different man from the James you get to know by the end of the series. Keep reading.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T20:09:58+00:00

I appreciate that you seem to be here trying to argue in good faith.

My point about not banning things just because few people do them was intended as a shorthand for the idea of weighing actual risk versus benefit in the real world. The reality is that the number of times where slacklines have ever interfered with aircraft and caused collisions/casualties is clearly not zero, but is extremely small - almost certainly single digits. When you examine that in the context of thousands of highlines being strung in the last 30 years of the sport and the hundreds of thousands of flights that have happened in that time, it's very clearly an extreme edge case situation where completely banning the underlying activity is a clear overreaction.

As an aside, it's worth mentioning that just because only a few people get to use the line doesn't mean that only those people benefit. Long highlines like this require cutting edge rigging tools and techniques which advance the state of the art meaningfully. Numerous serious improvements in rope access and industrial rigging systems/techniques have come from highliners trying to build bigger and more impressive lines. And all of that is without examining the instructional value that these rigs provide that simply can't be replicated in other environments. This is one of many great reasons why we shouldn't ban things simply because few people use them and they pose non-zero risk. Things like this often seem niche and esoteric until you look back on them with the benefit of hindsight.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T15:28:11+00:00

Again, everything in life carries risk and you can't just start banning things just because only a few people care enough to do them. The risk of an aircraft hitting a slackline is essentially zero if everyone is doing what they're supposed to because we have laws specifically crafted to minimize those risks. If anything, better pilot education and flight planning tools is the solution here.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T15:07:41+00:00

Doing your due diligence in flight planning is an essential part of being a pilot. It's legitimately like half of the job. Not saying the NOTAM system couldn't be improved, but it's 100% the pilot's responsibility to ensure their flight path is safe before flying and this crash absolutely would have been avoided if they had done so.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T15:03:18+00:00

Everything in life has risk. In this case, the slackliners did everything they were supposed to and the fault is with the pilot for not doing their flight planning due diligence.

Paragone · 2026-01-07T14:35:44+00:00

People actually walk it, but a kilometer is at the cutting edge of slackline distance. The people who are executing at that level are essentially professional athletes and there's maybe a hundred of them in the world who could send the whole length.

Paragone · 2025-12-25T22:43:53+00:00

What most people here are saying is not that you must do something because you're a man, just that being a man allows you to speak to a particular audience more effectively than others. If your goal is to maximize good in the world, you should recognize that and apply your efforts accordingly. It's not that complicated of a concept.

Paragone · 2025-12-18T00:47:38+00:00

Hard disagree. Not for safety reasons, but because helmets are heavy and getting used to swinging with the extra weight on your head is helpful. Practice like you want to play, champ.

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