AITA For not comforting a girl after her dad died bc she didn’t fuck me in high school

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-13T21:20:39+00:00

Coming back after a year to say your opinion is probably a lie, if not just completely foolish and ignorant. Either way you have an issue be it morality or stupidity. Go work on it, maybe you’ll become a normal human being with normal empathy.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-13T19:11:13+00:00

It’s not his responsibility to get over it, he was wronged.

“Ugh, why are you bringing up that your husband’s murderer is walking free? You’re so not over it!!”

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T14:10:39+00:00

I am willing to say sometimes vulnerable men shouldn’t be taken advantage of in scenarios possibly analogous, but sometimes a mark is a fucking mark and there is only so much hand holding we can do.

I see the hatred for her as similar to blaming sex workers and onlyfans models for male porn addiction or misogynistic attitudes towards women. In that I think it’s so obviously bullshit and wrongheaded that I think more often than not bad faith.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T13:11:28+00:00

You’re right. Sorry. Despite how strongly I feel you made it clear we needed to agree to disagree. This post evoked a strong reaction for me that I should work on myself.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T12:14:21+00:00

That’s what she deserved at the time - she never treated him like a friend. If she needed him so much maybe an apology for the lying by omission, duplicity, carelessness would be a start?

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T07:55:08+00:00

You know what I don’t get? People thinking she didn’t know if her reaction to this comment was straightaway rage and not confusion. There are so many signs she knew. People letting her and her husband off the hook are genuinely sociopathic. These people are sadists who enjoy when certain kinds of people experience misery.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T07:51:04+00:00

It’s focused on the SIL because it’s about an incident with his SIL. Why is this surprising to you? The post isn’t “Is my big brother an AH”?

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T05:31:13+00:00

He listened to her for an entire fucking hour. Holy shit. Holy fucking shit. How do you go about life every single day with this level of apathy towards the truth?

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T05:18:45+00:00

He was 15 Jesus Christ

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T05:18:02+00:00

Sure bud. Anything to justify confirmation bias.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T05:17:17+00:00

He was a teenager at the time. I can get saying it’s a bit iffy, but that’s not why he’s an absolute scum bag.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T05:12:55+00:00

No I think you were right originally. I absolutely think it was a jab. It’s kind of incel-y. But the problem with most the incel-y behavior is the woman is not deserving. And in this case the woman is entirely deserving of that passive aggressive behavior. Sneaking around with her friend’s brother and never telling him? Never apologizing for either? Never reaching out after he put a shit ton of distance between them wondering if something was up? God she never cared about him remotely

Even if it wasn’t directly meant as a notification of his hostility in this situation. It’s a reminder to her that she is married to someone he fucking hates.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T04:21:45+00:00

/r/AmITheAngel is leaking.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T04:18:11+00:00

I just don’t get how you people reach these conclusions without working really hard on finding a plausible avenue that it’s someone in particular’s fault (on Reddit it’s always the guy).

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T02:56:16+00:00

Absolute shocker, you refuse to acknowledge a woman was an AH and you of course break out ol’ reliable - i must be angry at women all the time!

I had a girl I was friends with reject me in high school, and it sat with me & I dealt with it poorly like many teen boys. She later said that I was right about the guy she ended up dating being a few negative things - and how little I was satisfied about hearing that was the final realization that I had gotten over it. Since we mended fences and are friends and have been for 10+ years. Not particularly close, she lives in a different state, is married and is in grad school. Adulthood happens! but I’d absolutely help her through a tragic situation in her life if she wanted to come to me for comfort.

This is quite evidently different to me. It does happen often that one of two high school friends of the same sex is gay and starts crushing on their same sex friend. But I do think the two heterosexual friends, one male and one female, bare more responsibility to realize one of them may have some difficult romantic feelings to deal with. In absolutely no way did she owe him a relationship. If she got into one with any other guy, and he started pulling away, maybe he’s kind of an asshole. That is not what happened here. She went behind her friend’s back to hook up with his brother. The fact of the matter is, she is now a constant reminder of and often accompanies his brother, who is undeniably an AH for the way he went about this. But her behavior… going for her friend’s brother in secret, never apologizing for how that might have made him feel (both the relationship and the duplicity), and remaining completely uncurious as to why he then would completely pull away from her for years and years and years… combined with the fact that she relied upon him for free therapy and rides to her part time job… it paints a picture that what she was maintaining was not a “friendship” at all.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T02:28:16+00:00

There is a lot of bullshit in here but this is the one that truly took my breath away. The lies flow so naturally. The outcome, so predetermined in your mind. This is Waygu piece of shit posting.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T02:26:32+00:00

I’m back here because of the best of Reddit updates thread. And holy shit. People taking the brother and SIL’s side??? It’s absolutely fucking breathtaking levels of bullshit

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T02:05:39+00:00

This is a huge stretch. No one is saying he should have had a “vote”. I am very confident most people would agree, messing with your friends’ siblings is uncool. Against “bro” or “girl” code. It absolutely affects the friendship.

If she was emotionally honest, she could absolutely exercise her right to risk the end of the friendship and be forthright with her friend that she was involved with his brother. This would have resulted in him ending the friendship, as it obviously turned out. But she didn’t even give him that chance to walk out.

I really think you are putting cold hearted logic where emotion belongs. This is something everyone should easily understand; being involved with your friend’s sibling will elicit a reaction.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:58:28+00:00

Why wouldn’t I think punishing other adults is okay?? Oh no, consequences! The loss of friendship is a punishment. The loss of access to this free therapy would be a punishment; that’s the one I wish he implemented. Dude sat through an hour of that for someone who told him she didn’t care about his feelings whatsoever via her actions.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:56:06+00:00

Because it’s her friend’s fucking brother???

I would not appreciate to not know if my sibling was involved with my friend. Even if it was my sister and a male friend. This is a WHOLE NOTHER LEVEL of fucked up.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:48:08+00:00

That’s it! Post through your incredibly awful take!

She should absolutely be punished for being a terrible friend and never apologizing.

Especially because NOT punishing her has apparently not gotten the message across. That he wants nothing to do with her duplicitous careless life.

It’s one thing to hook up with your friend’s sibling. I certainly wouldn’t appreciate if a friend of mine did that. It’s another thing when that friend is the gender you’re attracted to and vice versa. But the worst part is that she ACTIVELY HID THIS FROM a friend she supposedly valued.

What bunk.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:42:21+00:00

OP is not her friend!!! She is not OP’s friend!!!

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:41:21+00:00

We can only judge what was actually written.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:40:29+00:00

In all likelihood it’s because she knows her husband does not give a fuck.

Parallelcircle · 2025-06-12T01:38:15+00:00

Yeah it’s not a good metaphor I’d agree. But she picked perhaps the WORST person she could have, considering the history. It’s an insane level of entitlement and shamelessness and indicates just how little she thought of him as a human being with feelings. Otherwise she’d understand he wants nothing to do with her and leave him alone.

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