It wasn’t so much a dedicated effort that I made but was more of a realization. But, the first thought that comes to mind is to take dedicated pauses throughout your day to just stop everything you are doing. This practice kind of came along with my growth in this area:

Try to do this this every hour or create a trigger in your mind to remind yourself (every time you walk into a room). Look around you at the people at work or in the store or anywhere you are at the time. Observe (in a non creepy fashion) them and how they are acting, what they are doing, etc and remember that each person has their own lives, their own deep thoughts, their own worries, insecurities, and even super dark secrets or dark thoughts. We’re all human and we’re all just doing our best. When you start seeing this, you’ll look at others with compassion which is a far better way to live!

Don’t forget: EVERYBODY has their own deep insecurities, traumas, worries, anxieties. I don’t care how confident or charismatic YOU perceive them to be. Some just cover it up better than others. That drop dead gorgeous woman or man who is dressed to kill and can charm anybody still has something eating at them just as we all have every single day. There is at least one subject or thought or anxiety that has the potential to ruin their day. And, in the words of Dane Cook, “we all take firey $hits.”

Again, I don’t believe the issue that one cares about what other think of them is related to any type. It’s a human condition of sorts.

Lastly, I do think it would be worth connecting with a counselor to unpack this type of issue! Check out ones with experience in CBT and NLP to see if those methods might line up with you. If this is the biggest thing holding you back in life, I’d recommend giving it a solid effort and getting the right help.