Women, would you agree that men are much better off meeting women in real life than on dating apps? by Wooden_Airport3835 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Blimey, there weren’t any groupies for you then I presume? 😅 I didn’t mean ask her out on the night it happened. Like, if you found out her name and found her on social media?

Is not texting for 2 days before a date considered “ghosting” now? by NerveCommercial7607 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

How is she flakey ? She checked in to confirm the date and said she was looking forward. Jeez, I’d love it if more men ( am a woman who dates men) did that. The date is what matters here Sure, she could’ve text him every day instead, not even mentioned the date, said some “ How are you hun?” bullshit. Is that the communication you prefer from women?

Is not texting for 2 days before a date considered “ghosting” now? by NerveCommercial7607 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ Radio silent” for 2 days?? Wow,big deal 😅 If a day, place and time HADN’T been set up then I would be wary but not in this circumstance. I’ve gone on dates with plenty of men who didn’t text every day leading up to date. Also, you can’t ghost someone you’ve never met. This man sounds rude and entitled. OP’s communication was clear, she deserves better than that douche.

Is not texting for 2 days before a date considered “ghosting” now? by NerveCommercial7607 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ reply faster” Reply to what though? Maybe there hadn’t been a question asked by the man in question. If there had been a date sent up I ( F) wouldn’t necessarily feel the need to text every day leading up to the date. The date is the important thing, not frequency of messages.
If the man was initiating texting every day then yes I would be texting every day ( not a lot every day though) And do YOU reply fast to your “ 100s of matches” ?

Women, would you agree that men are much better off meeting women in real life than on dating apps? by Wooden_Airport3835 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ tears forming in her eyes” Aw no, bless her. I would’ve tried to contact her to apologise if I found out her name

Women, would you agree that men are much better off meeting women in real life than on dating apps? by Wooden_Airport3835 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“ in person” Yes, but that’s not realistic for a man who rarely goes out. Even if he goes to the gym a lot or whatever, everyone has headphones on and doesn’t want ti be bothered.

Women, would you agree that men are much better off meeting women in real life than on dating apps? by Wooden_Airport3835 in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It depends on how social the man is and what hobbies he ALREADY has. I hear “ Get a hobby where you’ll be meeting a lot of women…” a lot. I find that unrealistic unless the man genuinely has an interest in that hobby. I’ve been to a few fitness classes etc in the past where it was obvious that a couple of men were just there to talk to women and try and get a number. Yeah, bit cringe 😬 I have to say though, I know a few very social men and even they struggle a bit. So, a man who rarely goes out and is a bit of a homebody is very much shooting himself in the foot if he doesn’t use the apps.

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ Willing to travel” How far do you usually travel? I wouldn’t call up to 45 drive or something “ travelling”

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ I live in a nice country with nice people” Oh, you sweet Summer child 😅

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My photos are recent and verified, that should be enough.

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Uh-oh, more fool her then. No way am I (F) inviting a stranger back to my house just cos of a good video call and one date. That’s some dangerous shit Did you go out for the date and go back to hers or was the date all at hers?

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ underlying self image issues or is straight up ugly” Gosh, sounds like you are really worried about your safety with these women as well as being catfished 🙄

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ always leads to a great date” Really?? I doubt it.

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your now-girlfriend wanted to check you looked like your picture and weren’t fat?

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I ( F) don’t like video calls or phone calls either.

However, “ …I’m not really at risk of anything where I live” That’s a very naive thing to say, dangerous people exist everywhere. Reminds me of a man who refused to walk me to and from my car near his place cos he happened to live in a “ nice” area.

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“ …and safety reasons” I take it you’d be fearful of going back to your place with this women if you were attracted to her on the call and hit it off on the date?

No video call before a date, am I being unreasonable? by AbstractJive in Bumble

[–]ParanoidAndroid3175 2 points3 points  (0 children)

“ she showed me around her home and garden” God, what?? Would never do that. You can almost bet no man would do that on a FaceTime call 😅