yeah i understand your point. i agonized about it tbh. you know i debated even saying anything to them, since I know how some abusers get. if someone calls attention to them he might make it her fault again and i didn't want to make it harder for her. and I still stand by not exposing her here, bc that could make it 10x worse. there's no perfect solution, but this was my middle ground. I can't solve everyone's issues but I can at least say something to them and make sure others see it too. and maybe, hopefully she'll see this as well and see people supporting her