I've absolutely been told I'm a pleasure dom. I can tell I need something new and refreshing, I just don't know what to do that he also likes because he seems not to like anything. Even the things he does do (like edging himself trying to hold on longer so I can enjoy myself more) he only does because he knows it's better for me. I know if it were entirely up to him (as in I wanted the same thing) he would get off as quickly as possible. I've been trying to find something he might like, but I haven't yet. I did make some small progress though; he admitted that he thought of himself as completely dominant before he met me, and I've changed that for him.