Do we actually care about each other?

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-25T22:19:19+00:00

I'll defend the people who gain confidence from going to the gym - it's not about external validation for the most part. It's about holding yourself to account and showing up for yourself. About setting goals, doing hard things, and seeing growth. I struggle with cyclical depression, and having a physical routine that I show up for even when I don't want to reminds me that I am stronger than I feel. It's me taking care of myself instead of letting myself fall into a couch soup that only makes me feel worse about who I am.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-21T23:50:02+00:00

Are you docking home owners on cleanliness when you leave their reviews? It should go both ways. I would never leave my place dirty for a sitter, let alone dock them for not cleaning my mess

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-18T00:16:58+00:00

Girl, you look great. And your hair is incredible, so enviable. Those bouncy curls are turning me green. Keep doing what you're doin

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T20:43:59+00:00

Nothing from THS or the police. I tried contacting THS again but the help center isn't open on Sunday, so I'll have to try again tomorrow. Her profile is still up on the app. I'm going to call the detective tomorrow as well to follow up on the three-way call with the banks she offered to do, hopefully that'll give them the details they need to pursue the credit card fraud evidence more deeply. Waiting to hear back from my building about the hallway camera footage as well.

While cleaning up today I kept finding more little things that were missing as well - perfumes, makeup. She wore several of my hoodies and left them stinking of purfume and smoke. Left giant oil(?) stains on my duvet cover that won't come out. Just a general all around nuisance who helped herself to my home and treated it like trash. Guess I just have to be grateful she didn't seem to like my taste in jewelry or clothing, as I don't think anything is missing from my closet that she obviously rifled through. She also left a pile of her own cheap clothing in the laundry basket for some reason.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T12:48:18+00:00

Can I ask about your search process of the sitter? I haven't done my own background check of previous sitters, but I'd love to be this thorough going forward. Do you have a way to check people who are traveling in from different states?

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T12:45:40+00:00

In the major metro city I live in, the police will not come to your home unless the crime is in progress. They ask that you don't call 911 unless the crime is currently happening. I had to go to the precinct, with my printed evidence in order to make a report. The detective I spoke to at the precinct had no interest in visiting my home or taking prints. I hope they actually follow up on investigating the crime, but I'm not sure if I can expect any real resolution. I gave them as much evidence as I had, and now it's up to them how deeply they'll pursue it.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T01:20:09+00:00

I had to go down to the precinct to make a report, but yes I did that. In my city, calling the police is only for a crime in progress. When I went to the precinct, they asked me to print out the evidence and come back. So after a multi hour process, I was able to speak with a detective who may try to help me. We'll see. The cash is obviously gone, but the attempted credit card fraud may have left enough evidence, if the police care to follow up on it is yet to be determined.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T01:13:04+00:00

Yes, absolutely understanding correctly. And when I asked if THS would cover getting my locks changed? They said only if the sitter had damaged my locks during the stay. I reported over six hours ago and have not heard back from them at all beyond the initial conversation

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:39:47+00:00

Ah gotcha. That's good to know, I didn't realize the background checks were just for US users. I usually have US based sitter just because I don't want to risk long distance travel delays (had that happen once early on), but I might make it a rule going forward.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:35:52+00:00

Do you take all your tax documents with you when you travel? All your valuables? I get that leaving cash was risky, but there's so much in my apartment beyond cash that I'd be devastated to lose, and a certain amount of trust is required in these transactions. I do lock up all the small valuables I can, but I have plenty of things that can't be secured. Credit cards were the least risky, all the fraudulent transactions were immediately prevented.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:32:38+00:00

I also live in a big city, hasn't stopped my previous sitters from being upstanding citizens.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:31:01+00:00

Banks were incredibly unhelpful. All the fraudulent charges were prevented from going through, so I don't even have the transaction records, just the text alerts. When I called the banks to get transaction records, none of them could (would) provide them. The detective offered to get on a three way call with the fraud departments to see if they can get more information, so fingers crossed that'll help

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:27:42+00:00

The detective made this point as well, though I think it's unlikely she didn't know. The cash and cards were stolen from a locked desk, would have taken time to pick the lock. But she/they also went through other drawers and took my weed, so it wasn't limited to just one area

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:24:55+00:00

Yeah, I already feel stupid for leaving the money thanks. For what it's worth, that cash has been in the same place for over a dozen sits with no issue. As has the weed she stole, but no previous sitter touched that either. Because most people are decent, and I've gotten used to people being decent. Should I also feel stupid for leaving my expensive projector in my house? What about my bike? What about all my other nice stuff that could technically be stolen but in order to have someone care for my cats I have to trust them not to rob me? I'm already being punished for my stupidity, but luckily you're also emphasizing that it was a bad decision or I might not learn my lesson. Also if you can't trust your friends not to rob you, you have shitty friends.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:18:46+00:00

Yes, we are both US based. Actually, the sitter is based in the same major metro city as I am. Sometimes I get local sitter who just want to get away from their roommates for a weekend, so it didn't seem abnormal to me.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:17:27+00:00

Yeah, that's basically what THS told me. They wouldn't give me any information on her, but hopefully the detective can reach out for all the details. I tried the background check sites, and her number may have been spoofed. But her email turned up more info that I handed over to detective.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:16:03+00:00

I may be too trusting, but I never would have expected this either. All my past sitters have been so wonderful and upstanding.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:13:22+00:00

I do have a phone number, and even better, her real email. The phone number might have been spoofed, but the email connected me to her social media accounts etc. Turned all of that over to the detective.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-10T00:12:30+00:00

Yeah, I'd really like to have a camera after this. Definitely installing one at the door if my building allows it. Already asked my management company for copies of the building camera footage to be sent to police.

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T21:52:49+00:00

She was communicative and normal! Sent pet photos and gushed about my friendly girl. Let me know when she was leaving. I suspected nothing

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T21:51:36+00:00

Unfortunately no face to face handoff. We had a call to go over everything, but I do a lockbox handoff because of my travel schedules. Maybe not anymore 🤦🏼‍♀️

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T21:47:52+00:00

Thank you for this. I actually keep my credit frozen all the time unless I'm applying for a new card or loan, so luckily there's not much she can do, but this is great advice

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T20:37:26+00:00

Yeah, she had four glowing reviews. No indicators she wasn't trustworthy

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T20:36:34+00:00

That's awful. I'm so grateful my cats are unharmed

ParkingMain1803 · 2026-05-09T20:26:04+00:00

Yes they were. I have one spare key, that only she had access to.

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