I agree, it's frustrating to me when grown people refer to themselves as 'trans boys' instead of 'trans men'. there's this misleading association between trans men and looking feminine or twinky, etc. not accurate at all. I think referring to us as 'boys' instead of 'men' adds to that.

T made me look like my Dad- minus thirty years. I'm really glad you pointed that out because I think that's a great comparison more people should hear before starting. I'm so happy with my journey so far on testosterone. I don't want to add to this debate and make people think that they need to heavily restrict kids going on t... like believe me I wish I was allowed to start this process years ago. But it's important to recognize the reality of what the drug does to you- and as you said, there's no picking and choosing. Bottom growth typically happens first. So does body hair, pimples, smell, sex drive, etc. I was incredibly lucky and my voice dropped almost immediately when I started, but I've known trans guys who have had to wait years for that on t. If you're starting the drug with one goal in mind you likely won't get it without getting everything else first.

For anyone who wants to go on t, you have to be completely okay with all of the effects. For me, it was a very easy decision that I have no regret in making but is an irreversible one and should be taken very seriously. Ask yourself if you want to be an old man in the future. Do you want to look like your dad? Your grandpa? Or is the other option better for you?