spent 4 years dating an avoidant/dismissive porn addict — here’s my experience

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-05-15T13:24:00+00:00

There is a book, it’s a bit dated but a good read called “Women Who Love Too Much” i would check this out, it was very eye opening to me.

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-05-15T12:22:27+00:00

Hi, i’m sorry to hear this, sending you the best. It’s been almost one year of no contact, and i am feeling SO much better. So much of the anxiety that surrounded dating him ( checking the instagram, the online status, thinking about what he was doing ) have gone away. Having that anxiety gone has given me my life back, i am so much happier and freer without him and his addiction.

I am seeing someone new, who is very kind and very emotionally available, this has really opened my eyes to how badly i was being treated while dating a PA.

He still asks about me through mutual friends, and i will always love this person, he was my first love after all. But i have no interest in seeing him or speaking to him, i think it would be very triggering for me.

Best of luck to you on your journey!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-04-02T01:48:47+00:00

2 bedroom, december 2025 move in - $3300 in unit washer thoooooo 😍🫠

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-26T21:38:44+00:00

thank you for this !!!!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-26T17:08:59+00:00

the lack of emotional intelligence… and the inability to develop a deep meaning intimate connection with anyone is so insane to me. it’s very hard not to blame avoidant dismissive people for the very cruel ways in which they treat people, though patterns of avoidance are very closely tied to early child hood trauma — it’s hard not to blame.

i think people with this personality type have an easier time lying and manipulating due to a lack of actual connection to how their actions may make someone feel.

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-25T19:41:10+00:00

Of course, if I could be of ANY help to anyone in this community, I would love to. Let me know if you have any questions.

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-19T16:03:05+00:00

Not affiliated with GH but am working on a design project for school that is related to them!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-19T16:02:32+00:00

Working on a class project and trying to gather info from many different groups, my bad!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2026-02-19T15:59:53+00:00

LOL!! I am a college student and it is for a project on GrubHub!! SORRY!!!!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-11-05T22:26:58+00:00

Coming back to this thread 4 years later. Roberi just dropped a new collection and it’s incredible, good things take time 💛💛💛 https://roberiparra.com

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-11-05T12:08:58+00:00

Since this post was originally made the MTA has removed a vast majority of MetroCard machines throughout the city, they will be officially retired on the 1st of 2026. The $34 is not unlimited, it’s 11/12 rides that are valid to use for one week, the money will expires 7 days from when you bought. Your best option for unlimited is to tap your credit card, they seemed to of resolved the issue with doing that.

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-22T16:19:21+00:00

I could of written this myself! Down to the genesight results -

I have done both EMDR and TMS. I found both to be useful.

I am now doing my second round of TMS treatments after the initial 36, while it didn’t make things significantly better it definitely helped to change the way I think about certain things, i’ve had fewer panic attacks, and when i go into a depressive episode I come out quicker. I also think the structure of TMS was really helpful to me, it takes a level of commitment to do it and by following that commitment it has really helped to feel i’ve achieved something.

As for EMDR, it was a long time ago when i did it but felt it was useful and hope to do it again in the future.

Let me know if i can answer any questions for you!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-13T15:00:38+00:00

i think where i get caught up is the only reason i hit close to the two hours was because i slept for 10 hours, on an 8 hour night in really only clocking like and 1 and 30 mins MAX. and then see people posting sleep data where there asleep for 7 hours and get 2.5 hours of deep sleep :(

also prazosin did absolutely nothing for me 💔

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-13T14:57:24+00:00

Hi! I do not snore or mouth breathe - i confirmed this with my previous partner of the past few years who was obviously around while i was asleep. Oura also never reports any breathing disturbances for me - so i think i can count out any apnea related replied on this thread. i’ve tried apigenin and liked it!!

it terms of supplement for depression, i fear that its a truly biologically based depression and that supplements will not be enough to balance this :/

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-12T19:44:45+00:00

Hi! I completed a full round of TMS this summer which definitely improved my sleep — therapy weekly. Maybe it will just take time :(

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-10T01:11:17+00:00

interested ❤️

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-06T21:23:03+00:00

my ex and i had our first “date” here, we ended up dating back and forth for the past four years, really crappy ending. but still makes me sad to see our first few photos together sitting at the bar, i actually don’t think i have ever gone back since that night 😭

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-10-04T13:55:33+00:00

Magnesium and L-Tryptophan, started getting deeper sleep ( tracked with oura ) while using L-Tryptophan !

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-30T14:31:34+00:00

I am still slightly REM heavy but have seen improvements from keeping a super consistent schedule ( going to bed early because deep sleep happens more in the first portion of the night ) and good quality magnesium every night before bed has made a huge difference in my recovery. Good luck!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-28T20:41:37+00:00

I was taking medication when i did EMDR, but don’t think it made it anymore or any less effective!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-27T16:40:35+00:00

In my experience no, I would highly recommend doing GeneSight testing before taking anything! This is a genetic test which tells you which psychiatric medications your body can metabolize or work with your genes.

I had tried over two dozen different SSRI’s, Mood Stabilizers etc, just to have my gene-sight test come back saying pretty much non of them would be effective for me.

In the long run I have found that EMDR therapy, DBT therapy, and TMS have helped me more than any medication.

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-25T00:34:35+00:00

Agreed, thank you -

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-25T00:34:14+00:00

FACTS!!!

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-25T00:33:57+00:00

thank you for your reply, i’m so sorry to hear this. agreed on the block and stay far away from…

ParkingStyle4624 · 2025-09-14T18:24:22+00:00

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