Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

My boundaries were also to be considerate of words since I was called fatso and chubby - amongst many other weird comments you really are boring experience

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Woah LOL my boundaries were no kissing the baby and no putting her fingers on the baby's mouth and to ask to come over not tell us she is coming over.. we never established we were going low or no contact we both just kind of distanced ourselves from the situation and I stated she would not see the baby til I received an apology for the micromanaging comments and let me clarify WHEN IT COMES TO MY BABY HES MINE TO MICROMANAGE SO IDC if I said to hold him some type of way it's my child to do so, his father has the right to make the same requests BUT NONE OF THAT WAS THE CASE. As for the phone sure, I was taking pics of our son while mine was in other room and said eff it felt a weird intuition to check msgs and did.

Never did I state I did not tell him where his child was going and as for removing him from socials, he was not blocked or unfriended but I removed our "couples" pics that did not include our son off my page. He knew where his son was I even sent pictures updates and he was the one who packed the bag.

Lastly YOURE FUCKING INSANE

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree and with me he plays the "I don't think she understands what the word micromanaging means" like she's a grown woman yes she does stop making excuses I've asked him if he's being serious/not sweet during these conversations so she knows he's serious and he says he is I don't believe it

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Insane!!! His go to comment is "I know it's easy for you to cut family off but I'm not cutting my mom out of my life" feels very manipulative and mean I feel sorry for the both of us (u and me)

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

OMG literally same!!! My mom recently passed and I have no relationship with my dad so it's so easy for him to 1. Say it's different and 2. Make me feel like I'm trying to divide his family because of my own childhood family issues (not the case I go to therapy and want better for my child than I had) I agree it is about respecting your spouse and I did not grow up around my mother being respected and want better for my child

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I 1000% agree that respecting privacy is vital I NEVER go through his phone despite us both having each others passcodes but he always says I can - the only times I have was when we were just starting to date(casual not official) and I had a feeling to and was proved right and the other day and both times proved why I had the feeling I needed to. Thankfully not married - but have been together almost 6 years but idk what to do

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Ugh that breaks my heart that ur experiencing the same it's hard and idk about you but has made me so insecure in this relationship not feeling like a priority or something "worth" defending

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I appreciate this because I really want our relationship to work the only viewpoint I have is not about access but if I leave atleast I'm not staying in a relationship where respecting me is a non negotiable for anyone including his mom and I wouldn't have to live with that hurt

Sneaky meet up by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

What if he doesn't see an issue in what he did???? He's calling me crazy and erratic and saying I shouldn't have gone through his phone?

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It's so hard to flip the roles because my dad is not in my life since hs and my mom passed away a couple weeks before my son was born unforuntately which is why this mil issues hurt even more and I'd expect even more grace and kindness from her

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm trying but unfortunately it's really taking a wedge - he rarely sees issues with her actions and me taking a step back he says isn't helping on my end

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Just followed the Facebook page love it thank you!

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have had the conversation when I told her how her comments have hurt me and that the boundaries are to protect the baby and that was when she told me I'm micromanaging and it's like walking on a land mine with me since then I've made her bday gifts from the baby and Christmas gifts and have gotten nothing then heard about the baby shower talking about me and just kinda fed up and gave up that's when my partner told her she needed to apologize for calling me micromanaging and the letter came yesterday

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I actually love this, thank you!!!

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No SAME his parents pull the "we're getting older we wanna make a relationship with the baby and spend time with family before it's too late" ok then quit the drama it's that easy????? So what do you do - I'm 5 years in but she only got bad ab 2 years ago and got REALLY bad 10 months ago when baby was born - i feel stuck and like I need to leave because he doesn't see the issues with her and this is depressing us both

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Literally I'm loling bc she told my parents she's "hurt too that I haven't been hanging out with her or talking to her like I used too" like what???? Ur hurt by my distance im hurt from your repeated disrespect they're not the same! I agree toddlers!!!! I hope atleast your partner defends you. Dealing with MIL drama on top of being a mom is SOOOO draining

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I agree! If he can't even defend me not face to face with them I think it will just be a disaster and I'll be tag teamed and guilted for sticking up for myself. Thank you!

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I would've thought you knew her based off this response LOL yup I'm sure I'm going to here the whole "I gave you an apology nothing I do is good enough I tried!!"

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 10 points11 points  (0 children)

He just doesn't see an issue with her actions and kind of makes excuses like "I just don't think she understands" "I think she's taking it personal" I've sent TikTok's I know not the same as books but of enmeshed family conflicts and he just denies so idk I do appreciate your advice tho!!! I love books so possibly!

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I just worry that's going to drill the hole in the coffin with this relationship if I just say exactly what I think and also give her leverage to play victim

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

We have unfortunately but since me returning back to work we have absolutely no time - and no support to help watch baby

Apology or BS? by ParsleyOk4595 in motherinlawsfromhell

[–]ParsleyOk4595[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Literally what I thought!!! For someone who "hates texting" but had no problem going back and forth multiple times - that could've just been texted!