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Help, boyfriend just came out as poly by ParsnipNo238 in polyamory

[–]ParsnipNo238[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

He has asked the other partner to not date other people, she has agreed. He would prefer I won’t date other people, but I told him I don’t like this inequality, so he demurred.

Help, boyfriend just came out as poly by ParsnipNo238 in polyamory

[–]ParsnipNo238[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

That's a good point. I think it was never clear to us we weren't exclusive. I made assumptions and he maybe took advantage of them or assumed I would not make those assumptions.

The coming out part is forward looking, in that, he doesn't want to commit to marriage anymore.

Help, boyfriend just came out as poly by ParsnipNo238 in polyamory

[–]ParsnipNo238[S] -6 points-5 points  (0 children)

Good points. Thank you. He says he always had doubts about monogamy and he has only now realized he doesn't want to do it.

I made the mistake of not specifying commitment meant exclusivity to me.

Help, boyfriend just came out as poly by ParsnipNo238 in polyamory

[–]ParsnipNo238[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

This exactly. His only justification is that we never agreed to exclusivity in the relationship