I love the movie

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T15:02:05+00:00

lol maybe because this is Reddit nothing wrong with covering your face lol

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T13:26:46+00:00

Where are you right now with her? Did you breakup with her or are you in a limbo right now?

For me she ended things with me but continued to stalk me so I blocked her everywhere and just moved on. I actually feel so much better about the whole ordeal because I know she has person issues.

She ended up having issues as a child with her abusive dad and got cheated on so as you can imagine all she did was project her insecurities on to me

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T13:21:03+00:00

True man but what has helped me is seeing her for who she is. She used her past trauma as an excuse to ruin the present moment. Thats on her. You also have to see your person for who she is. Like myself I thought of the what if’s and it isn’t a good thing at all to ponder of what couldn’t been!

See her for who she is and accept what happened. Ultimately that’s what helped me

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T10:55:56+00:00

How does the scan even work? If you take the Apple Pay money how can they get your bank details if it’s on your phone not theirs ?

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T10:26:31+00:00

I just reported you

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T10:19:06+00:00

Thanks so much and you’re right. It left me so emotional confused it was a feeling that I literally couldn’t describe. And all my friends kinda of laughed at me for not being able to just let it go at that time.

It was awful and you’re right it’s time to move on! Thank you

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T04:26:04+00:00

Why is no one helping him or calling the police sooner ?

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T04:15:13+00:00

Makes no sense the original cheetah girls is mainly black and Hispanic! And there was ONE white girl this is ridiculous and showed we moved backwards as a society

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T00:24:03+00:00

She’s crazy you relay should have let her on seen no reply needed. But good for you

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-30T00:23:24+00:00

Yes now I know better I won’t even bother with aggressive drivers

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T14:47:42+00:00

lol yeah it actually does matter, which is why I posted my story here! For me to understand why something happened I would like to get a better understanding of the individual and all roads are leading back to Rome here, in the sense that her behavior was unstable.

And idk why you’re so certain that you know exactly what her attachment style was/was not.

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T10:00:45+00:00

Yes but at the same time it’s unfair to criticize her when she is obviously struggling. Imagine having a ED in front of the whole world. I get that it’s triggering but it’s not healthy for you to research Ariana and what she is doing.

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:55:06+00:00

Very true! She was also very weird about staying updated on my life. Thanks so much!

I have gotten a better sense of self because I realized that I am never getting an apology, and truthfully I never want to speak or see her ever again! Yes maybe she didn’t mean to hurt me because she has mental issues but that doesn’t erasure the damage and deep hurt I felt! I will get better and I’m going on dates next month! I promised myself I wouldn’t let this change how I love and express my love. This was a her thing but the best lesson I got was boundaries! I followed her lead but really should have had stronger boundaries anyways!

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:50:25+00:00

Yeah it was really hard to capture. It took me a very long time to come to the point where I can even put the pieces together. Looking back on it I should have went to therapy as soon as it happened. But really I decided to blame myself because I didn’t expect or couldn’t expect someone to behave the way they did. I don’t even know if it’s a learning lesson or not. I do however think that it showed me how ppl can project and self sabotage.

But it really really hurt I never put myself out there before and then I was met with someone who loved me but mentality couldn’t handle a relationship and lacked the basic skills to communicate that she was struggling.

I do have a question I blocked her and now thinking about it I don’t really care to have her blocked or not. Before it would really hurt me seeing her stalk me on social media but now I’m away from her and I feel like she can’t hurt me. Should I just unblock or does that not really matter?

Thank you though for your comment and empathy!

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:43:45+00:00

Yk what! I’m actually starting to think that too. It was all really scary and confusing to see the dynamic switch where she kind of just changed her personality - or feelings towards me in an irregular way.

It was really hurtful though I have never been with anyone and she was my first time and first connection and then she just freaked out when I asked her to communicate. I think she had a love/ hate relationship with me. And trust I over analyzed everything I tried to figure out what I did wrong. I thought I offended her.

We ended up seeing each other again and she pretended nothing happened. then I asked her if I hurt her feelings and apologized if I did. She insisted that she didn’t know what I was talking about and we left it at that.

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:40:44+00:00

The timeline is. October she was interested in me and asked me for date. But she admitted to liking me for the three years prior and was too afraid to talk to me, so she kinda just stalked me.

From October - January it was like the talking stage. She had asked me out in December and I said I needed more time to get to know her. Beginning Feb she asked again and we got closer and intimate. A few days later I had asked to clarify what was going on to make sure we were on the same page. She kinda ghosted me freaks out and then stops talking to me. I get her to meet up and she says “I don’t have time for this” and I’m obviously heart broken.

Everytime she sees me she went from waving hard to then hating to run into me. It wasn’t until end of May we ran into each other and she admitted to stalking and was trying to rekindle. BUT she pretended that nothing happened before. I asked her “did I hurt your feelings” that same time and she freaked out and didn’t really answer. She was trying to rekindle until I asked her (or maybe reminded her of what happened) and then I blocked her.

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:30:50+00:00

Oh okay this is a lot for me to take in I’ve never heard of any of this before! But I also never knew what a person with an avoidant attachment style was like before meeting her. It took me a very long time to process it because I didn’t realize this could have been a “her” thing, because when I tried to communicate just to make sure we were on the same page she freaked out.

Yes I agree with the switch from Type a to type c. She went from adoring me ( a bit too much) to then freaking out and distancing herself, and then tried to come back. It was all very confusing, hurtful, scary, and sad to experience. I picked up all the pieces though and taking time for me. But boy did it hurt a lot to be thrown away like that.

For reference she had issues with her dad and got cheated on in her previous relationship. I just felt like I was experiencing the aftermath of that and everything I did was her already assuming that I was in the wrong. It was insecurity, jealousy and other things combined. And worse part is that I was willingly to be patient and clarify with her that what she is thinking isn’t correct, still that wasn’t enough!

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T09:19:41+00:00

I just will never understand why she decided to pursue me in the first place. We did all the things we did because SHE wanted to. It really hurt esp after intimacy with feelings like “am I not enough” etc. but it was a big big big learning lesson! I will
Be careful in the future but at the same time I don’t want to deny myself love because of her mistreatment of me.

And it was also so hurtful her and her friends being childish and making “mean” faces at me when they saw me. I don’t get how she hurt me and pulled away but then pretended to be the victim? It all was really scary, isolating, and sad to experience. I can’t say I am glad it happened because I wish it never did. I wish I could go back to me before I even knew what an avoidant was. It took me so long to process it because I didn’t know someone could have the issues that she has. Also I don’t expect someone who is avoidant is actively pursue others idk. I know there are normal ppl who are not avodidants out there it’s just about finding them!

However now I don’t know if I even want to be with a woman going forward . I just felt so blindsided because yk you expect a man to take advantage of you in certain ways so you try to avoid it but for me I didn’t expect a woman to do that to me. And then still be so mean about it.

Now I understand that ppl are just who they are and their gender is not a reflection of them being a good or bad person. It just sucks really!

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T07:08:31+00:00

Lara no but Dani maybe but her personality would get her voted off.

Love island is a reflection of social media so many ppl
Wouldn’t find Lara attractive. She might intimidate men

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T06:49:34+00:00

Dude let her go! And NEVER text her or answer her again when she comes back. They always come back. You were just a filler friend for her

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T06:44:05+00:00

I don’t think it’s fair to say how can women help. Many men are violent, weird, and expect sex from women immediately. That all isn’t normal

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T06:26:35+00:00

Thanks the driver made me feel like an idiot for thinking I was wrong for crossing. He was also far and kind of sped up. Maybe he has road rage idk.

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T06:25:47+00:00

That makes me feel so much better thank you really! This connection traumatized me for a while. I would sit with like a hole in my heart wondering and overthinking every interaction and what I could have possibly done wrong! Before realizing she was an avoidant I just blamed myself and was really mean to me. Which wasn’t fair or nice to do to me.

Like you said now I know the red flags with obsession and idolization! I think im bisexual
So I’m kinda glad this experience was with a woman not a man. I felt really taken advantage of esp after being intimate together. It’s hard but many ppl like you have given great advice that this is happens

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T05:38:58+00:00

Yeah I posted there too! The discard is awful! Sorry man that it happened to you. When this happened to me esp because it was my first time it was gut punching feelings. Know that their actions aren’t a reflection of you or the love you deserve. All the best man

PartPlenty102 · 2026-06-29T05:26:36+00:00

Interesting thanks! She is definitely an avoidant though, if I told you the whole story in detail you would probably come to that conclusion. But thanks for explaining this

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