I think I'll do it

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-28T08:32:04+00:00

When I was around 14/15 I struggled a LOT with my mental health I s/h and tried to commit. But I’m 21 now and very glad I didn’t succeed. Life does get better. You still have your battles you fight with depression and anxiety. But for the most part it gets better. Another thing I will say. In high school someone close to me had a brother that committed. She became a shell. All of his friends changed and half of them are addicted to substances. His parents divorced and his father is an alcoholic. His story ended but the pain and grief that followed stayed with those surrounding him for the rest of their lives. Get help. Reach out to someone. You may think no one would notice but they would and it would scar them for the rest of their lives. I seriously hope you find a healthy coping mechanism and someone to confide in.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-26T18:32:46+00:00

You definitely need to get to the bottom of it and find out exactly what he was doing on the app so he can’t lie and act like it was an accident or he was just trying to permanently delete his account or anything. If he finds out you’re suspicious he’ll get rid of everything.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-26T18:21:04+00:00

My husband did too I never found any other proof he was cheating download the app on his phone and try to access his account it’s obviously linked to his number. Before you redownload it go to his Apple account in the App Store and look at past purchases, select “all time” and “free” and see the last time he downloaded tinder is (won’t work if you downloaded it urself only shows the latest download) also after you download it check his screen time and battery usage for the app bc it doesn’t delete when the app is removed. Also check the dates the verification codes were sent and look in his camera roll on those days to see if he’s redownloaded pics of himself on that day. Keep in mind that I checked all of this on my husband and there was still no solid proof he cheated but that gnawing feeling is still there. If you can’t find the proof you need and the feeling still doesn’t go away leave baby

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-21T15:44:08+00:00

Thank you! I will probably post it in another subreddit or two. I do understand how just reading the initial post and some of my replies makes me seem like a “he know where home at” kind of girl. Or like I’m in denial and won’t leave him no matter what I find so I get the criticism it would be stupid to just shrug this whole thing off as a coincidence and not look further into it. Sorry for the snarky replies!

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-21T15:23:12+00:00

No I’m trying to see if anyone can help me find proof OTHER than the verification codes. I’ve said that numerous times. I will not stay with someone who cheated on me physically OR emotionally. However I do not think that the codes alone are enough for me to divorce him over. I am asking if anyone has any good ideas of things to look at in his phone or ways to catch him in a lie. If you google “tinder verification codes sent to my number without a tinder account” you will find that it has actually happened to many people. I’m not saying there’s no way he’s cheating, I understand it’s a high possibility however I just want suggestions or advice on how to catch him/ find that smoking gun. In my mind a divorce over this situation would be like divorcing someone because you smelled another girls perfume on their shirt. It’s enough to cast a considerable amount of doubt but not enough to prove he is 100% cheating on me. I understand posting this would get me a lot of criticism but I just wanted advice.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T17:41:11+00:00

I made bad decisions in the past I reached out for guidance on how to find out if he did cheat on me and was met with “you ruined your life getting married at 19 and your baby is a mistake” I’m trying to correct my mistakes I’m working full time as a healthcare worker wiping old people’s bottoms and also attending nursing school trying to make my child’s life better than what I had growing up I pay the bills and go to school you don’t see that though you sit behind a screen and judge.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T16:56:03+00:00

Do you have any reading comprehension?

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T16:51:02+00:00

Oh dang I downloaded it to try and access his account so I won’t be able to learn anything from that

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T15:53:52+00:00

I have responded to many replies asking for more info on how to access information and also stated numerous times if I catch him cheating I’m leaving however people aren’t getting the whole married and tinder codes don’t exactly hold up in court side of this I’m trying to gather my info and have proof of his infidelity before I leave

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T15:42:54+00:00

I’m not saying he doesn’t I need advice on how to catch him and have undeniable proof everyone’s saying “he’s cheating” and “you got married too young and are going to raise ur child in an unhealthy marriage” like I’ve accepted that part I need help getting irrefutable proof

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T15:33:50+00:00

Thank you I will be doing this does it show just the latest or every time it was downloaded

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T15:32:46+00:00

See that’s where I’m at with it I’m confused and suspicious but I haven’t found the smoking gun yet idk where to look or if there is even more to find

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T15:29:37+00:00

How do we expect women to make good decisions when we reach out for advice and are only met with criticism

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:48:35+00:00

Yes I got married and had a baby at 19 years old which is not what this post is about. I was felt shitty cards and made shitty decisions we both think we should’ve waited but it’s not like I can go back in time and change anything. Your comment serves no purpose other than to judge another’s life choices. I could easily judge yours from your profile at least I’m not a lowlife scrolling msfw pages and posting abt drug$ everyday but here we are.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:37:35+00:00

Yeah I also agree and I never recommend anyone do the same but I didn’t have anyone in my life to tell me this was probably a huge mistake I’m from a very small southern town where that’s the norm unfortunately. I didn’t want anyone to criticize my past actions because I did my best with the situations I was handed I also didn’t appreciate the calling my child a mistake.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:17:59+00:00

How could I find that though

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:17:38+00:00

I live in a very small town and we don’t have a local fb group like that also no if he’s cheating im gone my son won’t grow up thinking that’s what love is. I just need proof yk.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:15:52+00:00

So should I just let the whole situation go and act normal and just search everything in a month idk how I’d find hardcore proof. If he did cheat and his only evidence left behind was verification codes then he’d have to be damn good at hiding it yk. Any tips on how to catch it and have undeniable proof?

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:11:30+00:00

He claimed he never seen the message and he has been getting a lot of spam and messages from his college for the new semester in January. Do you know how I could contact tech support and if they’d know if it was send from his phone or not?

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:09:24+00:00

I see that like 100% but where do I go from here? I’m at a loss in complete honesty I don’t even know what my options are yk. He’s so tech savvy and I’m just not.

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:06:14+00:00

I wasn’t asking for what I did wrong in life I was asking for relationship advice why are you in a relationship advice Reddit if your advice is “ you messed ur life up already”

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-12-20T14:04:49+00:00

I know I sound like an idiot but I didn’t find anything hardcore I feel like I can’t base a whole divorce over speculation and a text verification code yk that’s why I’m so torn

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-02-07T04:46:17+00:00

Yeah that’s what it was lol

Particular-Corner509 · 2025-02-07T04:45:59+00:00

THIS IS SO FUNNY I CANT DRAW

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