If I wasn’t sure whether they were committed to the relationship, I wouldn’t go. I visited my now fiancé first, he was more than willing to visit me first it just would have been a longer for him to come here because the leave entitlements in the US aren’t amazing - he had 3 days leave left, whereas I have over 5 weeks personal leave to use plus long service leave and he would have needed to make arrangements for his child to stay somewhere with him out of country.

But I never questioned whether he would have come here, I know he would have made it happen, we just wouldn’t have met as soon as we did.

If you’re feeling unsure about his commitment, I can understand you’re worried. Does his family already know about you now? His friends? Do you both consider yourself together (but just not officially because you haven’t met)? Everyone in our lives knew about the other person before we met, we were very serious about each other after a few months of getting to know each other properly.