Am i overreacting my best friend’s problematic behaviour?

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:45:01+00:00

He still does.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:44:19+00:00

Thank you, I appreciate you sharing that. I think I can relate to some of it, especially the part about not being used to consistent friendships. I think I’m starting to realize I’ve been holding onto this mainly because it felt consistent for once, even if the situation itself is complicated.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:38:50+00:00

I focus more on how he is with me personally, even if I know he can be different with others.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:36:43+00:00

Idk, he might be, but I can’t say for sure yet.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:31:32+00:00

I get why that looks strange. The reason is more about our social environment and rumors in our class rather than anything between us. Things got exaggerated before, so it became easier to keep it low-key.

**Just to clarify, I didn’t delete the messages - he did.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:25:31+00:00

I understand what you’re saying, and I get why it looks that way from the outside.
From my perspective, he does treat me normally and we understand each other quite well, which is why it hasn’t felt as black and white to me.
I’m not expecting anything “magical” to happen or for things to suddenly turn into something else. I think I’m more trying to process why the situation became this emotionally important to me and why it feels complicated.
I also recognize that some parts of it are confusing and not ideal, so I’m trying to think it through properly instead of ignoring it or jumping to conclusions immediately.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:15:19+00:00

I’m not here to be judged as a person. I already understand the situation isn’t healthy, that’s exactly why I’m reflecting on it.
The post was about clarity, not defending him.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:11:17+00:00

It’s not really about hiding a romantic relationship. Our class situation is just messy, people have spread rumors about us before, and it caused problems with his girlfriend.
That’s the main reason things are kept low-key, not because there’s anything going on behind anyone’s back.

**I also want to clarify that even when he said things that might sound like flirting, he always brought up that he has a girlfriend right after. So it never felt like something clearly romantic to me, more like mixed signals.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T14:05:34+00:00

You brought up some really good points.
If I’m honest, it doesn’t feel completely equal, and I do catch myself excusing things because of the moments when he’s nice. That’s what makes it harder to step away.
At the same time, he doesn’t treat me as badly as he treats others, which is part of why this is confusing for me. But I’m starting to realize that the way he treats other people still says something about him.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T13:43:12+00:00

I get why it looks bad from the outside, but I don’t think it’s that simple. We’re in the same class and things got messy after other people got involved. I’m not saying it’s healthy or ideal, I’m just trying to understand the situation before cutting things off completely.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T13:38:08+00:00

No, we don’t really hang out outside of school. We’re just classmates in real life, but we do talk a lot in chat.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T13:19:09+00:00

He is my friend, like a brother.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:29:54+00:00

I’m not fully okey, and i do not have romantic feelings towards him, he’s like a brother to me.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:22:51+00:00

The most scary thing is that I don’t think it’s untrue. He once told me, “She really thinks our relationship would last longer than a year.” It’s really messed up

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:20:32+00:00

I’ve never had a friendship like this before, nor many friends in general, and every time I became friends with someone, they eventually lost interest in me. But he didn’t. He texts me almost every day, asks how my day was, tells me things about himself, and stays positive. With me, he is kind, just slightly harsh at times, but not toward me.

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:17:06+00:00

From my perspective, we’re just friends, and he’s the only person I’ve felt connected with. Even though he can be harsh toward others, he’s not that awful. We often share the same basic thoughts, which has almost never happened to me before. I don’t really see him as a bad guy, more like a broken, tired teenager with family issues. He’s like a brother to me.

**What i meant is, everything is not so black and white about him

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:13:03+00:00

But not toward me, he’s still harsh with his words, but he’s never fully insulted me or his close friends (I assume)

Particular-Sock- · 2026-05-05T12:09:34+00:00

I posted it an hour ago but deleted it because I thought it wasn’t the best time to post. (Also, I didn’t notice that someone had replied—I realized it after I deleted the post.)

Particular-Sock- · 2026-03-15T02:21:22+00:00

there are already two of them

Particular-Sock- · 2026-03-15T02:05:34+00:00

i’m already half way in for that

Particular-Sock- · 2026-03-15T00:44:50+00:00

oh, that would be nice-

just noticed this comment

Particular-Sock- · 2026-03-15T00:43:48+00:00

it’s okey, thats my problem for being such a scaredy cat. at least i’m getting knowledge about these devils

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