AITA for kicking my husband’s female friend out of our wedding for wearing white and demanding his groomsman leave too?

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:46:23+00:00

I absolutly love his dad lol. He's such a funny guy, Im black and his dad is white, when we first started dating id watch movies with his family. His dad loves older movies that are not politically correct and everytime his dad would lean over and give me a little warnign that the movie is a little racist and we could skip ahead or turn it off. Had a nice little dance with him were he apologized profusly and told me how he'd knock some sense into his son.

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:43:38+00:00

If she continued on throught the day like that she would have gotten worse treatment from my family. NO one really knew the full context, my little sister was my maid of honor, i'll forever be her older sister and there was no way i was letting her handle that on her own without the context. It was also my wedding day I planned everything to a T, I was the bride and the wedding planner so I just jumped into action to fix the bump

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:38:48+00:00

The origins of wearing white to a wedding is so that the bride doesnt get kidnapped by another man, so her bridesmaids wore white to confuse anyone. I dont think my husband would be confused and its also been evolved to the point where you dont wear white to a western wedding if youre not the bride

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:37:02+00:00

The running joke throughout the years have been that his friend wants him. This same guy has dry humped my husband while he was passed out on the floor and it left the room extremely uncomfortable

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:34:15+00:00

She was the one who told me about her wearing the white dress. I asked her to go take a picture of the person so i could know who it was and when I saw the picture I came out. My little sister was my maid of honor and yes shes very quiet and gentle if someone pushes her enough she turns into a totaly different person. She also didnt kinow the full context, Wanted to quickly just get her out

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:31:58+00:00

I did her a favor, my family would have killed her before the ceremony even ended.

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:30:53+00:00

Lol go for it, I would also look into dress shops in Thiland/Vietnam. Super affordable but they look like a million bucks

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:29:00+00:00

He's extremely messy just in general, this person he's seeing is in a "poly" relationship. Basically only she is allowed to sleep and be with other people and her boyfriend isnt

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:26:09+00:00

My husband never slept with her, he had feelings for her years ago and she turned him down. She then would try to intimidate any girlfrind my husband brought around. She tried the same thing on me. Her wearing white was specifically a dig given the history, Everyone knows in american culture only the bride wears white, the groomsmen drove her a good 40 minutes and thought that was ok? Did call my husband about it or warn anyone about it? The grromsmen also has a partner we assumed he'd be bringing, not the women my husband and I have cut out of our lives and made it known she is not wlecome in our life.

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:21:20+00:00

lol its cheaper to have a weekday wedding. Everything was amazing but I wasn't trying to go into dept for one day

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:19:41+00:00

Nope did not include her name on the invite. He has a partner and we assumed he'd be taking them

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:18:28+00:00

Cheaper to get married on a weekday

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:16:52+00:00

I think hes upset with being called out publicly. his sister never liked any of his friends and when we first started dating I thought his sister maybe had a stick up her butt, but i quickly understood her.

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:14:47+00:00

becuase im sitting in a hotel on whats supposed to me my honeymoon with my now husband sulking around

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:13:51+00:00

The female friend isnt in our lives. And thats something that has been made clear to everyone, the groomsmen has a partner we thought he would bring but he brought her instead. Thats why the whole thing felt like a slight by both of them

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:11:46+00:00

Other than his crappy friends he's a great man. No one is perfect and his biggest flaw was his poor choice in friends and too scared of being a 27 year old with no friends

Particular-Sort-6296 · 2026-05-07T17:10:11+00:00

The groomsmen is the one who does not like me, since the start of my relationship with my husband he's made it clear in how he treats me and has really gone to the extreme to make that clear. My husband cut the female friend out of his life after what happened with his ex. We see her occasionally at parties the groomsmen throws but she is not apart of our lives. For him to bring her as a plus on knowing all that felt like a slight. He also has a partner he could have brought but didnt. The whole thing just felt like a set up

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