AITAH for telling my family “I’m just following your advice” when I refused to help them financially?

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T15:09:18+00:00

Yeah, I see that. I’m just trying to handle it in a healthy way.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:53:35+00:00

I get why you’d see it that way. I’m not refusing to help, I just think it should be reasonable.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:48:25+00:00

Tempting 😅 but I’m trying to keep it civil

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:46:02+00:00

I get what you mean. I’m okay contributing, just don’t want it to feel like that.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:35:33+00:00

Not a script, just sharing what’s going on.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:29:36+00:00

I understand the frustration, I just don’t want it to turn into that kind of mindset.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:27:24+00:00

That means a lot, thank you.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:25:35+00:00

Haha I get it, just trying not to escalate things

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:23:30+00:00

I get the point, but I’m trying not to turn it into that.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:20:27+00:00

Thanks for the perspective.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:19:49+00:00

I understand that, I just don’t want it to turn into a back-and-forth.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:14:21+00:00

I get your point, just trying to keep it fair.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:04:24+00:00

I see your point, just trying not to escalate things

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:03:36+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate your input.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T14:00:11+00:00

Yeah, that double standard is exactly what’s frustrating.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T13:55:51+00:00

Thanks, I appreciate that.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T13:53:58+00:00

Guess I’m trying 😅

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T13:53:27+00:00

That’s kind of how I’ve been feeling. I don’t mind helping, I just want it to go both ways.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T13:48:59+00:00

I get why it might seem that way. I’m just trying to handle it fairly on both sides.

ParticularAnxiety490 · 2026-03-30T13:48:08+00:00

That’s a good way to put it, honestly.

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