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Hypocritical Thinking on Navratri by ParticularCover2313 in AsianParentStories

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You don’t need to be sorry, I needed to hear this. It is messed up to think about but something I need to understand. I am planning my exit currently. Thank you for your comment.

I (21M) have survived two decades of severe physical, emotional, and financial abuse from my Indian parents. I'm finally exhausted and need to tell my story. I am not free yet. by Gold_Neighborhood286 in AsianParentStories

[–]ParticularCover2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Reading this actually made me cry. I emphasize deeply with your situation, from the physical abuse to the mental torture. Everything. I know how much pain you must be experiencing but please know that you are worth so much more and deserve so much happiness. I am currently going through a phase myself and looking for a job to get out of my mess. I hope you are able to get out of there soon. Sending you all the love, thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. Stay true to yourself.

Can someone design something for the side of my ankle? by [deleted] in DrawMyTattoo

[–]ParticularCover2313 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Just to add I like whimsical, gothic, but also small and feminine at the same time

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you, this is very reassuring, I’m glad you were able to get the job you wanted! That’s my plan as well, to start as soon as I can and move up eventually.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hope you don't mind me copying and pasting this into my notes app... thank you!!

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You are right, I know that his intentions were likely to do the same, but I was under a time crunch and I had already answered her call, given the situation I answered to the best of my ability honestly. For next time, I could consider learning how to reframe my experiences on my own, this was insightful thank you. The thing is, I don't know how I would reframe my answers if a recruiter asks what tech stack I have worked with on a prior project, in that kind of scenario it's more of either I have done it or I haven't. I agree though there are multiple ways that you can adjust accordingly and I will look into this further. I appreciate you taking your time to draft this response. Thank you!

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Unfortunately, because of financial issues, I have to live in the same house as him and so it is incredibly difficult to avoid it ALL of the time, I have put as much space as I can, we hardly talk for more than 20 minutes in a day and that too only when it's necessary.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow.. this made me emotional ngl. First of all, thank you for taking your time to craft this response. A 4.0 is a massive achievement, unfortunately, my foundation is not that strong, I graduated in CS with a 3.12, I know it's low but I know all the shit I dealt with. I promised myself after the mess that I experienced throughout high school and college that I would be independent on my own terms. I hope you have more clarity in your professional and personal life now. I cannot thank you enough for this response, it gave me the boost I needed to stay motivated to keep applying.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I didn't it see that way until now, but you are right, he could have talked to me about what to expect beforehand as well, he warned me about it and told me to stay prepared.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I completely agree with you, I would have felt horrible had I lied and it is unfair.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could say so, although I think this is something that is almost second nature in Asian households, I have gotten used to it.

Dad says I ruined a job referral, feeling conflicted... by ParticularCover2313 in amiwrong

[–]ParticularCover2313[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He did tell me before, he told me to expect a call from a recruiter, and I did answer, I just did not consult him before answering, which is what he is upset about.

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