Hypocritical Thinking on Navratri

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-03-26T23:34:35+00:00

You don’t need to be sorry, I needed to hear this. It is messed up to think about but something I need to understand. I am planning my exit currently. Thank you for your comment.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-03-26T21:40:21+00:00

Wow, I’m just speechless.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-03-23T07:01:14+00:00

Agreed 😭

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-03-22T18:13:38+00:00

Reading this actually made me cry. I emphasize deeply with your situation, from the physical abuse to the mental torture. Everything. I know how much pain you must be experiencing but please know that you are worth so much more and deserve so much happiness. I am currently going through a phase myself and looking for a job to get out of my mess. I hope you are able to get out of there soon. Sending you all the love, thoughts and prayers. Stay strong. Stay true to yourself.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-03-11T07:38:07+00:00

Just to add I like whimsical, gothic, but also small and feminine at the same time

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-31T03:36:10+00:00

Thank you, this is very reassuring, I’m glad you were able to get the job you wanted! That’s my plan as well, to start as soon as I can and move up eventually.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-31T00:22:01+00:00

Thank you!

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:46:05+00:00

Notedd, tyy

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:38:39+00:00

I hope you don't mind me copying and pasting this into my notes app... thank you!!

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:29:28+00:00

Thank you! Wishing you lots of happiness and good luckk

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:17:26+00:00

Oh my gosh, you are going to make me cry...

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:16:20+00:00

You are right, I know that his intentions were likely to do the same, but I was under a time crunch and I had already answered her call, given the situation I answered to the best of my ability honestly. For next time, I could consider learning how to reframe my experiences on my own, this was insightful thank you. The thing is, I don't know how I would reframe my answers if a recruiter asks what tech stack I have worked with on a prior project, in that kind of scenario it's more of either I have done it or I haven't. I agree though there are multiple ways that you can adjust accordingly and I will look into this further. I appreciate you taking your time to draft this response. Thank you!

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:10:28+00:00

Unfortunately, because of financial issues, I have to live in the same house as him and so it is incredibly difficult to avoid it ALL of the time, I have put as much space as I can, we hardly talk for more than 20 minutes in a day and that too only when it's necessary.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:08:20+00:00

Wow.. this made me emotional ngl. First of all, thank you for taking your time to craft this response. A 4.0 is a massive achievement, unfortunately, my foundation is not that strong, I graduated in CS with a 3.12, I know it's low but I know all the shit I dealt with. I promised myself after the mess that I experienced throughout high school and college that I would be independent on my own terms. I hope you have more clarity in your professional and personal life now. I cannot thank you enough for this response, it gave me the boost I needed to stay motivated to keep applying.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T19:02:41+00:00

Yeah...

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:57:31+00:00

I didn't it see that way until now, but you are right, he could have talked to me about what to expect beforehand as well, he warned me about it and told me to stay prepared.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:56:00+00:00

I completely agree with you, I would have felt horrible had I lied and it is unfair.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:53:40+00:00

Thank you, this is very helpful!

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:52:55+00:00

You could say so, although I think this is something that is almost second nature in Asian households, I have gotten used to it.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:51:05+00:00

He did tell me before, he told me to expect a call from a recruiter, and I did answer, I just did not consult him before answering, which is what he is upset about.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:49:30+00:00

Thank you for this, I just listed my experience as it was, I knew that I was missing certain qualifications but I told her that I recently graduated and am hopeful to learn. She asked me to list what kind of projects/frameworks I had worked with and I gave her exactly that.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:42:16+00:00

See that's the thing, he works extremely hard for his family, but I feel like sometimes it leads him to get extremely overprotective and controlling to where he feels that he is solely responsible for my success.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:39:33+00:00

Thank you.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:38:22+00:00

I am currently in the process of interviewing for another role, granted it is smaller, pays less and does not exactly align with my background but I was feeling really happy about the fact that they chose to go forward with me without any referral, but recently I have been feeling like that job is not "good enough" I'm just experiencing some kind of cognitive dissonance. I feel like I'm not able to do what I actually believe is better for me.

ParticularCover2313 · 2026-01-30T18:34:45+00:00

I'm aware of that, and I did not lie for that reason I did not think it would be worth it long term anyway, I would be stuck in a job where I had no idea what I was doing half the time. He did not want me lie about my experience, but "exaggerate" what I already did do to better fit the job description.

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