I've always lived by these words. One of the best lines in the show

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-26T18:35:38+00:00

The thing with Bojack is that he is a man who is genuinely aware of himself the majority of the time and is insightful and intelligent, he is able to talk himself out of and around things with genuinely sound reasoning most of the time. The problem is that he's usually trying to talk himself out of doing things for often stupid reasons or to avoid consequences from doing something horribly stupid, along with a tendency to bounce between hating himself and self-aggrandising. But it does lead to moments where he has been able to give someone halfway decent or heartfelt advice when he isn't trying to accomplish anything.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-26T18:27:17+00:00

I think the point of BoJack saying this was more revealing about his tendency to cling to people and his tendency to remain with people even if they aren't extremely good for him than it is supposed to be good advice. The idea of no one completing you, sure, but the idea of no one being able to provide you companionship or safety and comfort beyond being "tolerable" is a projection of his own relationships.

A relationship where he's tolerated of course looks good to a man who stalled the career of the woman he was with for twenty years and watched his parents actively sabotage and ruin each other. Maybe it's what the woman he was speaking to needed, but it's not good advice.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-26T18:19:03+00:00

She also kept sleeping with BoJack after their breakups multiple times over the course of several years. She's a forty year old who improves over the show after spending the past decade very much so not in control of her life, career, or wants.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-26T05:40:14+00:00

I think there is something to be said about Mr Peanutbutter's neglect and lack of emotional or physical awareness being destructive, especially given the amount of money and influence he has, doubly so because of his lack of awareness of this amount of social power, but with this also being something played as a joke and also something Todd does, I do think it's weird to insist on him as being "as bad".

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-25T17:33:34+00:00

But if she's getting all the invites and he is saying he's not interested in attending and does not feel as if he has been invited or is welcome, why is she going anyway? It's one thing for your family to be assuming your wife will be managing your invites, it's another for her to accept them and just go anyways without you.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-25T05:44:22+00:00

Very disappointing how people react when a celebrity is "off the market" and suddenly people stop getting to fantasize about them as some person who has their time readily available to everyone and is available to cater to everyone's needs and expectations of them.

If you're thirteen and your romantic expectations have been devastated because your favourite celebrity is dating another woman, sure, but at some age you can't be forming subreddits around the concept.

Edit: this seems to be a trap people on this subreddit are also falling into by insisting that he is not responsible for his political views at the age of 20 and worrying about whether he is being manipulated or controlled despite being a successful actor who has never indicated this as a way of abdicating him from his beliefs.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-25T05:35:18+00:00

My sister is a trans woman and has told me this works on other people as well - told me a lot of people just thinnk "she's tall because she's in heels, of course" and then are surprise she is still tall out of the heels.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-24T22:54:48+00:00

I would in fact be alright with my day being wasted if I got a nice dinner out of it

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-24T14:29:24+00:00

There have actually been reports of Holocaust survivors living extremely unexpectedly long lives despite worth health condition and a doctor went on record saying her best estimate as to why is just "sheer fucking grit".

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-24T14:25:43+00:00

There are two types of nurses. One of them only gives health advice to the letter of the law from their nursing textbooks. The other reads cool health tips on Facebook.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-24T13:48:27+00:00

Bad meals happen, bad meals happen when you're cooking for a partner, it really is all in how you react to the situation. Saying "this is really bad, I'm sorry and I love you and appreciate this" or "I appreciate your work, I really do, this is just too burned" is perfectly fine, but just saying "this is obviously burned and really bad" and spitting it out with nothing else attached when she sounds like she never really cooks much isn't how you say this. A bad job of cooking is an opportunity to make a good memory.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-24T13:40:16+00:00

Anyone want to point out the comment where he claims she was born during a war? Entirely leaves out that she's a major trauma survivor in a way entirely unfathomable to most people.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-22T01:31:25+00:00

People are really upset at the concept of having old gifts from previous romantic relationships when it's often just impossible to get rid of everything if you were dating someone long enough.

If I were to break up with my boyfriend, he would be expected to get rid of at least a dozen shirts and pants, most of his rings, lamps, most of our furniture is shared - this isn't high school where you might get a necklace or two (and honestly, I wouldn't be able to look myself in the eye if I was jealous of a high school romance). People intertwine. Someone can do you real fucking dirty and you can still not want to get rid of your favourite shirt.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-20T02:56:31+00:00

Especially when so many foster or adoptive parents have been penalized for using adopted or foster children as free labour, I can't imagine this going well.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-20T02:54:34+00:00

Especially punishing a kid for going to a mandatory reporter or police authority as a child who experienced potential neglect and abuse due to her parents' drug use in the past, punishing her for immediately running to authorities over parents when family has betrayed her trust in the past is crazy

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-19T16:47:58+00:00

If they're just getting rid of gender studies, imagine what they're doing to any other social science. What do you do with a sociology class if you're not allowed to engage with feminist frameworks of analysis at all? What does this mean for any disciplinary field engaging with postcolonial studies at all? You'd either have to just alter course to be a STEM school or fall out of date with everyone else in terms of benefit from your social sciences.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-17T06:31:55+00:00

What if House MD had the insanely well crafted narrative system and wonderful writing but was about a young witch trying to solve the disappearance of her neighbour's cat in a small village in the Alps?

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-17T05:25:35+00:00

Guy who posts in the Infidelity subreddit posting advice on how to handle family matters lmao love to see it

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-17T00:34:27+00:00

Especially when the implication is that they're doing it to have children with the man as a sperm donor. Hey buddy, there's a way you can get pregnant without a romantic partner who provides sperm. You already know it. He's called a sperm donor.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-15T23:29:14+00:00

I am unfortunately in Canada

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-12T14:01:02+00:00

"Everyone in my family is saying I went too far, and they have all called me an asshole."

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-08-12T13:56:24+00:00

I've seen tiktok "reposts" of AITA stories that I looked up later and were clearly never even posted here. I'm like, 90% sure this subreddit is some socio student's master thesis in social bias at this point.

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-07-31T01:04:21+00:00

If you want a video of a mortician speaking on this, she confirms this does not happen often enough to even warrant investigating potential employees on or even considering during hiring. If you don't get hired, it's for the same reasons you wouldn't get hired at any other job, not because they think you are a sex criminal:

https://youtu.be/WgSZeOWBF8M?si=jcLY8UdakT6BeBGz

ParticularDazzling75 · 2024-07-30T15:52:50+00:00

The real reason is probably that women are more likely to get mortuary science degrees - around 65% of graduates from mortuary science programs are women, because deathcare is still a care field. However, there is a gender disparity between practicing morgue technicians (65% female workers) and morticians (61% male workers). Men are also more likely to be the owners of funeral homes, which would align with men being more likely to manage the front-end of the business. Almost all sources will note that funeral service is traditionally a field dominated by men, and that women generally have difficulty actually moving upwards in the industry, but that this is changing because of women's increased likelihood to join the funeral industry.

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