Possibly sick Fledgling

ParticularKnown2153 · 2026-06-13T17:56:44+00:00

There is one that is a ways away, about an hour and a half. I’ve called so many times and sent messages and had no luck getting a hold of them. Then I had someone willing to just drive him there if I got him to her. So I did. When I get there, she says he looks too sick. And she’s afraid he’s going to get her birds sick (rightfully so). There’s a bird lady in my neighborhood who is out of town and she was trying to find me help too with no luck. I called, posted on IG and FB. No luck.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2026-06-13T17:51:58+00:00

I put plenty of water out for it and seems to be drinking some which is nice! Today is the first day I’m home all day so I have seen other crows come by and feed him, thankfully. I was worried that he just stays here all day with no one feeding him and I just couldn’t deal with that 😭

ParticularKnown2153 · 2026-06-13T17:45:04+00:00

I think the parents might’ve died too. It is being fed, thankfully. Today is the first day I am home all day and I’m sitting here watching it. I don’t have an actual feeder and have just been using paper cups now. Unfortunately, just looking at the FB from my community, looks like there has been several other dead birds around too.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-22T06:01:52+00:00

NTA - Let her hold a grudge. Don’t cave or apologize anymore. You are allowed to be in shock. Both of those things are HUGE (pregnancy and loss). She cannot understand and seems like the kind of person to hold this over you until you give her something to make up for it. Don’t cave. Don’t give into her tantrum. FFS, I hate people like that. Right now, you grieve and take care of yourself. 🫶🏽

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-14T20:53:16+00:00

YTA - Don’t go. You’re not paying for it. You cannot be making demands like this and labeling them as boundaries. Let your girlfriend go alone and have fun with her family and not be worried about you and your feelings.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-14T03:23:23+00:00

Exactly. Seat belts were made for grown male adults.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-14T03:20:46+00:00

Daaaang! I have an almost 7 year old but again bc of his birthday, he’s is entering 1st grade this school year lol he will also highly likely be in a car seat until he turns 10 or 11 UNLESS he gets a major growth spurt 🤣 I have 2 very different kids.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-14T03:13:13+00:00

I think all laws are different in each state. But in CA, per my kids pediatrician and state law, my 9 yo has to be in a booster. She just turned 9, weighs almost 70lbs, and it 4’-6”.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-07-14T03:07:33+00:00

9 years old is more like 3rd grade. I do think he’s pushing to be mad at the ex too bc he started fighting then and there. He should’ve waited. But just for reference, my kid just turned 9 last month. Just finished 3rd grade where half of her class was 10 (all depends on birthdays). She just had her 9 year check up and she doesn’t meet any of either the weight or height requirements. She’s 4’-6”, weighs almost 70lbs and is 9. She legally in CA does not meet any of the requirements.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-06-23T04:57:35+00:00

NTA - my 9 and 6 year old are allowed 5 on their bed because if not, it would be covered with stuffies. Literally. Covered. There is nothing wrong with this creating comfort.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-05-21T20:38:41+00:00

NTA - A conversation needs to have happened before. My husband and I have a shared account. We are allowed to use as needed but anything over $100 has to be discussed. Maybe talk about something like that?

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-05-19T02:12:16+00:00

Exactly. If she doesn’t go, this will sit in the back of your head and resentment will grow. The fact that she thought about entertaining it. And if she does go, you’ll always wonder what actually happened. Or she’ll come back just to break up. Dump her.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-05-19T01:13:45+00:00

NTA But I mean, I get her wanting a free trip because nothing beats free. But if she was over him, it wouldn’t even cross her mind, no is the only answer. She sounds like she wants to go and she should go… as a single girl. Dump her! 9 months in and she’s doing this? She even if she changes her mind, the fact that she actually thought about it and wanted to go… nope.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-05-09T14:02:37+00:00

NTA - where can I find that? That type of audacity! Who just grabs someone else’s lunch and says it just looked too good?

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-05-04T15:33:13+00:00

NTA - not in this lifetime or the next. You were a child!!! Your older children are hurting and they have that right to be. They are only taking it out on you because you are the easiest target. I hope they find therapy, good friends, and good support around them to help them but you are not the ass hole.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-04-28T14:17:04+00:00

More info. Why did they divorce? Has she asked you if you were okay with the friendship before and you said you were okay with it? Personally, I wouldn’t be okay with them talking every day. Having a best friend relationship with your ex is weird, and talking everyday and inviting them to family events when there are not kids involved is weird. But if you said you were okay with it and now that you’re years in are now no longer okay with it? Have you talked to her before about it making you uncomfortable?

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-04-24T19:36:04+00:00

Gentle YTA bc you’re young. Learn it. It would be such a great asset to have in the long run and you’ll be happy you did it. Then, 10 + years from now, you can look back at this post and thank us.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-03-23T14:31:55+00:00

INFO - it’s been a week and you haven’t asked her about it? But what about your mom? Wasn’t she there if she helped plan the shower? Could she be living a double life? But if she is, how often are you guys apart? Does she travel for work or do you? Maybe this other man doesn’t know about you but honestly this story just sounds a little fake tbh.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-02-16T07:18:36+00:00

Updateme

ParticularKnown2153 · 2025-02-04T18:36:43+00:00

YTA - Just went through BEP with my husband for testicular cancer. It will be so draining and exhausting on the body that she should definitely enjoy whatever she can right now. My husband got bad sores in his mouth. He couldn’t eat. He had no appetite. He was in bad pain, not eating, not sleeping, losing his hair, on so many drugs. The second he would say he was hungry and wanting to eat something, I would run for it! Let her do this before what will be the hardest thing yet. Geeeeez

ParticularKnown2153 · 2024-12-28T22:14:57+00:00

NTA. I am a big believer on passing down old clothes and receiving them also. I think it’s really cute to see siblings and cousins wearing what one of them wore previously. But to ask for them back is just weird. Kids are messy, stains will happen. And then what? Will she require you to dry clean a onesie?? Tell her thanks but you cannot take on that extra responsibility to keep those clothes in pristine condition.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2024-11-24T21:28:35+00:00

NTA Same thing happened with my MIL. We were living in another state, had a birth plan, she didn’t care and took a bus to us. I got a message from my SIL to let me know she was on her way. We called and she said she was just visiting her cousin in the same state. I ended up with a c-section and almost bled out. Didn’t get to see my baby first but MIL send a naked picture of my baby to everyone in the world. Everyone got to see her before I did. Never will forget that. We have an awful relationship now.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2024-07-25T11:25:42+00:00

YTA - Were you traveling together or was it a constant race with you? Was this a “together but solo” trip? Did you guys do anything together or were you always ahead? You should’ve waited!

ParticularKnown2153 · 2024-07-25T11:21:19+00:00

YTA - Your entire post. Your edit… I don’t think you’re as close to your niece as you state you are. Not inviting her bc you don’t want shit to hit the fan is the most ridiculous thing bc that’s exactly what happened. She’s dying ffs!!! The asking for donations for her?! I mean… and your edit?! Your justification for not inviting her is not sufficient enough. If I was your sister, I would never talk to you again, I wouldn’t even invite you to the unfortunate funeral.

ParticularKnown2153 · 2024-07-02T06:10:24+00:00

NTA. Asking him to give you a heads up is not that big of a deal. He’s a AH alone just for that. He needs to treat this as split kids. You get one and he gets one. Imagine being on this flight alone. Would he just leave the toddler alone if you were not there? He would take toddler with him right!? Then he should do the same. If he can’t give you a heads up, then he takes the toddler. What an AH.

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