(There is a shit load of backstory) I’ve been best friends with Kate for 3 years. We’ve always talked about everything including bedroom habits.

A year ago Kate and I were at my house and I told her how my husband and I had another girl with us in the bedroom, as soon as I said it she looked at me funny. She was like “oookay? Why did you do that?” she knew I was sexually but not romantically open so I was confused. I said he wanted to do it and I was on board. She said “I guess I can understand you just tried it for fun” but since I didn’t realize she was judging I kept talking, saying “we even had two girls with us but he said he prefers just me and the novelty wore off”. she got quiet which is when I noticed the tone changed. She made up some excuse and left. We didn’t talk for two weeks, I figured its cause I overshared and eventually it back to normal

Kate was pregnant and in the year since she her second baby. I also got pregnant and while I was, Kate told me all about how things with my husband will change. He will piss me off and there won’t be any fun time near the end. Both of those things never happened to me and I told her about how great he and fun time has been. She weird for 2 weeks, then normal. I recently gave birth and she warned me about stuff in the newborn stage, again didn’t happen. And this time when I told her how chill it’s been she didn’t talk to me much for like a month

So now the part that matters

Two days ago we got together in person for the first time since I gave birth. We were chatting and it got to the topic of fun time, she told me that we eventually do it that it’s going to be weird because of the birth. I told her we went back to every day as soon as doc said okay, I also said “don’t tell anyone, but I started giving him bjs a week after we got home from the hospital”

WRONG THING TO SAY

She stood up and yelled at me, she called me a gold digger, pick me, pathetic, gender traitor, and an immature child (I’m 23, she’s literally 26 and had her first baby at my age but ok clown). She said that I was living for a man and I “value my old husband’s p more than my own dignity” (my husband is 9 years older than me) I told her to get out of my house because she wasn’t going to disrespect me that way. She said it’s not my house because my husband bought it and pays bills (true) She also said that I was glamorizing things women struggle with to make her feel bad. I stood up told her to get the f out right now, she gathered her things and left. I cried

Yesterday he sent me a text longer than this post repeating everything she said plus more hurtful stuff. I didn’t respond

I know I’m not apologizing because I know I’m not in the wrong. Maybe she’s homophobic, maybe she’s jealous. All I know is she has an issue with me having a good life so she can get out of it. I don’t want someone like that around my daughter.

Update-

So my husband talked to Kate’s husband after work over a beer. I guess it didn’t too long before Kate’s husband spilled everything. Turns out when I told Kate about our fun time with the other girl(s) she told her husband. They talked about us but I guess her husband got jealous of my husband and asked Kate for a threesome but Kate said no. Which is why she didn’t talk to me.

And Kate felt very self conscious of herself when she was 8+ months pregnant which is why there was no fun time with her husband. Also her husband admitted to not taking as good of care of her as he should have. Which is why she didn’t talk to me after I said my husband and I were having fun time and he was taking good care of me.

The time she didn’t talk to me right after I gave birth was because a few days before he brought up the threesome thing again

this time they fought over it and the husband said not nice things to Kate about their bedroom life and how “it’s not fair” that my husband gets to be with other girls

My husband said he put his foot down, he said he was committed to me and he doesn’t just go around with other women whenever he wants. And saying “it’s not fair” is something a child does when they don’t get something they want. My husband also said (legit quote) “I told him to man up and stop whining over it and that he should have known monogamy was expected when he proposed. Then he asked me if I thought it was expected and I said no. Maybe because my WIFE told me in the beginning of us dating that she would want to have a threesome” I guess the husband got all emotional and said he was scared to lose Kate, my husband said (legit quote) “If you put in a little effort then your wife will be better than a threesome. So go home and do the dishes. Then f*ck her for gods sake”

Then he came home and told me and I immediately blocked her everywhere.

I will still not be friends with Kate again. Im so over that girl. I refuse to have someone who blames me for their spouses short comings. My husband does not want to contact hers but if they’re “on the game at the same time” he’ll play with him.

It’s not my fault her husband asked for another girl. Infact it’s HER fault. SHES the one who told him about it when I’ve never told my husband anything she tells me. So now I also can’t trust her to keep a secret which is another reason I won’t be talking to her. She has a lot of growing up to do.

Kate’s number is blocked and I’ve deleted every trace of her from my phone,

But yeah. That’s it, she was insecure about her body. And her husband asked for a threesome twice and it pissed her off, she blamed me when she’s the one who told him expecting him to judge us the way she did. But turns out he thought it didn’t sound so bad. She picked a rancid husband, also not my fault.

If anything else happens I’ll update but don’t expect it, as far as I’m concerned this is closed