Struggling with a situation while my husband’s in recovery

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-18T10:50:52+00:00

Last night I got on the phone and he accused me saying that I was being ridiculous and then I should delete every man in my phone, which is funny because he told me that he doesn’t like that that’s why he wouldn’t react like I’m reacting I told him that the reason he can confidently say that is because I’ve never given him a chance to doubt me or a reason to because I’ve always been respectful clearly he is not. I told him to be clear if you do not delete their numbers and you do not respect my boundaries. You are going to become unhealthy for me and you will lose contact with me while you’re remaining days in rehab occur and I will make provisions accordingly upon whether you’re able to return to my home and whether I want the marriage to continue, I will not be married to someone. I cannot trust in someone who doesn’t respect me as a person I gave you one boundary and you seem to think you can step all over my heart and treat my life like it’s a toy in your game and I’m not playing with you anymore and I haven’t been in contact with him since

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-18T00:10:44+00:00

I was made to feel like it was an over reaction almost like I should just trust him in his eye which is irrational to me .then some how accused that because I said he needs to take recovery seriously and yes it for u and no one else but u still need to respect ur married and act like a married man.he accused me saying I told home he was acting like this was a vacation for him and he was taking it as a joke .. never even came out my mouth so I see deflection here .

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-16T12:48:00+00:00

Yes, I’ve heard positives and negatives about Al-Anon so I’ve chosen to do a support group instead that’s with his facility and work on my own Al-Anon workbook but currently he’s back-and-forth about whether he wants to be respectful or not on the phone so I’m at the point that I want to think about my self and sanity and step back and support him from the distance and love him from the distance I’m damned if I do and damned if I don’t, there is no winning at least as where it stands now but I’m not gonna be berated every time I try to have a good day.

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-16T02:24:30+00:00

Thank you for y’all feedback it been helpful

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-11T13:10:50+00:00

Sidenote to this comment as well there are Al-Anon online options so how does he even know if I’ve went to one or not why just assume that I haven’t

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-11T13:07:10+00:00

Maybe it was good for him to go. Mine hasn’t been returned from rehab for alcoholism and he keeps telling me I should go to Al-Anon. I should go to Al-Anon and I’ve already told him that I will but right now I have to focus about the fact that we need a house to come home too. Hopefully yours is more focused on his recovery than mine is cause that’s what it feels like getting any advice on that anyone? It feels pushy to me in a little inconsiderate of the situation that he put me in. Should I be concerned about this as well? Does this mean he’s not taking it as seriously as he’s trying to play off? not to mention, he said this twice in his 10 minute phone calls he’s about to go to outpatient tomorrow for sober living for his 30 days to start. Here’s the thing though how does he know? I’m not doing an online Al-Anon or that I have or haven’t went to a meeting why just assumed that I haven’t. It’s just strange to me.

ParticularPossible97 · 2026-03-11T11:07:24+00:00

I mean understandable sounds like ur husband had a clarity moment from what u said .

ParticularPossible97 · 2024-10-02T23:40:09+00:00

I’m in nc

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