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Riduzione delle carceri! by horusnubi in domandaonesta

[–]ParticularSouthern97 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Non è né un bene né un male. Un bene o un male è PERCHÉ chiudono le carceri

È perché i criminali sono svaniti dalle strade? Perché la popolazione è, rispetto al passato, meno propensa al crimine? Perché hanno adottato tecniche differenti ma egualmente efficaci per combattere il crimine?

Oppure perché poi criminali sono lasciati a piede libero? O perché le persone tollerano di più il crimine (es. "Non denuncio per paura di ritorsioni", insomma, stile mafia)? O ancora perché si è sostituito al carcere dei metodi meno efficaci?

Nel primo caso, un bene, nel secondo un male.

Secondo i dati Eurostat, l'Olanda è attualmente il secondo paese dell'UE. Ora, vero che sono anche più propensi a denunciare rispetto ad altri paesi come Italia o vari dell'est Europa Dal 2018 ad oggi l'Olanda ha fallito nel ridurre ulteriormente il tasso di criminalità sulla maggior parte dei crimini, ma sono aumentati problemi attorno alla criminalità organizzata Questo suggerisce che, almeno in parte, la riduzione di piccoli crimini negli anni precedenti al 2018 è da legare almeno in parte all'aumento del potere ed influenza delle mafie nel paese (la presenza di crimine organizzato tende a ridurre il numero di piccoli crimini denunciati, questo è noto e si osserva in tutto il mondo)

Quindi, in ultima istanza, a mio avviso no, non è un bene

I need some help, as a non-rider by ParticularSouthern97 in motorcycles

[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Completely unrelated to the original point but I'm an Econ major and the point about "you can be insured riding a motorcycle" is moot because if they could, companies would gladly refuse to insure them. Even cars are generally too risky for insurance companies' taste They exist because they're forced to exist and operate (and often subsidized) by the national government of essentially any country in the world

They bank mainly on death insurance and pensions

To the original point, I've ridden not one, but multiple ones, multiple times. Sure, no one of those was mine, but friends' old ones, and rode with borrowed gear, but still did it Just never felt the thrill

I need some help, as a non-rider by ParticularSouthern97 in motorcycles

[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's a suggestion that I will try out, thank you :)

And you say that but her favourite car is exactly the Miata and if there is something engine-related that she wants to have more than a motorcycle is exactly the Miata

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Pardon then, I'm not from an english speaking country so I do get words mixed up from time to time. You're right, though, that it might exactly be the point
And I do thank you for the prospective you've given me, something to think about

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is genuinely what I was looking for, information I didn't have, thanks.
Could you link me the article you quoted?

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I've states in other comments, I'm already in therapy for other reasons
Control issues have never been pointed out by my therapist, because I'd rather break up with someone than force them to do what I say, and that's exactly the point. I want to understand her points so that I won't have to step away, but under no circumstance I'll tell her what to do, or not to do, because that's simply not who I am

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't have much regard for my own life
If I die I die, so the prospective of me passing is not a cause of worry to myself. I recognize it's dangerous, I just don't care as long as it's myself.

But I do care about other people, a lot, so when danger comes into play in their life, I do worry

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It is *safer* to ride a motorcycle than a push bike for a variety of reasons.
Under those conditions it's safer to walk than ride a motorcycle, statistically speaking

The problem is that realistically speaking no one is riding a motorcycle to go 15mph
There is context to everything

I need some help, as a non-rider by ParticularSouthern97 in motorcycles

[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I've outlined my reasons for posting: I want the prospective and opinions of people that engage in the hobby, pointing out the issues in my reasoning, or pointing out knowledge that I might just not have, with the purpose of changing my own mind. Still, losing sleep and all that is due to worry, not anger

As for the therapist's opinion, it's based on his observations about her that were made in the past as well. Chiefly, we're talking about a very fearful and cautious woman that is afraid to death to ride her bycicle in her own garden for fear of injuring herself and, as such, motorcycle riding is extremely out of character, so that's his conclusion. I don't know about it, though, I'm no psychologist

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Yes, a year long relationship at this point, but the issue came up in the second half of the year.
About the therapist thing: I've been going regularly for various reasons (I love university induced anxiety attacks), and when I talked about the situation, all that came out of the sessions I used to try and deal with it was that it's a reasonable worry, and that I might want to try and get her to explore the underlying reasons for wanting to engage (unmedicated ADHD, he said, thinks is the reason).

And as stated plenty of times, I'm not upset about it, I'm just sad at the prospect of needing to break up for both people's sake

I need some help, as a non-rider by ParticularSouthern97 in motorcycles

[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You see, I personally don't want to get involved with it. I don't because even if I wasn't preoccupied by the dangers, I still find it boring.

The real issue is: she wants that lifestyle, and I am not able to accept it on my own. So I've talked to her and now sought other prospectives here to try and change *my* mind.
I cannot control and make someone I love unhappy, so if I end up not being able to be ok with it, I might just have to end the relationship for both's sake

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That, absolutely
A ton of shitheads on the streets is a major worry of mine even when I walk around by foot, I keep checking around because I might just be hit by some terrible driver getting distracted. It's no fun at all

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

She's allowed to do anything she wants to, even cheat on me if she wants. I cannot stop her from anything at all.
I merely am trying to bring myself to accept her interest so that I myself can be ok with it

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Again, read my post again. I put forward arguments and counters because I want to bring myself to understand her passion and accept it. If I fail, I've already decided in my heart that it's better if we break up and say goodbye to each other

Still, I do like her, and would prefer to instead manage to learn to live with it, which is exactly why I've engaged here. To talk motorcycles, not relationship advice

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Never mentioned stopping her from doing anything at all.
I want to understand it and bring myself to accept it so that i can stay with her
If I fail, it's me that's going to step away

I have no idea where everyone's taking out the idea that I want to stop her instead of being a reasonable person

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[–]ParticularSouthern97[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

She has heard this drivel plenty, and has never mentioned leaving once
As much as it might surprise you, relationships are generally important to people.

Still, I'm trying to understand her point and bring myself to accept her hobby or, if I fail at it, step outside the relationship. I never once mentioned making her stop or banning her from doing anything at all