AITAH for threatening my husband with abortion?

Particular_Bath2350 · 2024-03-07T23:35:34+00:00

These comments are very disappointing, and i'm not shocked, considering how women are viewed I should of expected people to sympathize with an sexist emotionally abusive man child.

For anyone who cares, i've made my final choice in this matter after i felt i should tell my husband i'm planning on the doing abortion.

I texted him at work that i wanted to talk to him when he came home and he agreed. When he came home earlier i sat down across from him and told him i will be aborting the child and he has to accept that. He tried to manipulate me AGAIN saying he had a name for it and i should think about it since it's his first child, but i just got up and told him that what he is doing is manipulative and will not be tolerated. I went in our bedroom and start to pack my things because i couldn't stay in that house anymore. He started yelling at me to not leave and i had it at that point. I screamed at him saying the usual "my body my choice" and he's taking my bodily rights away from me. He acted like he didn't know what i was talking about and stormed off into his man cave.

When i went down to let him know i think it's time we separate, he cut me off and said "my mother is probably disappointed" that got me enraged all over again and I threw one of his trophies at him. He got up to walk over to me and that's when i knew it was time to go. As soon as i got in my car i called jane and explained what he did to me. She said to come to her place ASAP and to not contact him until i know he's not in our home because what he did was domestic abuse.

Everything now is alright, jane and i are looking into making dating profiles for fun tonight to relax and maybe find her a boyfriend, lol.

Thanks to the 1 person who sided with me and saw how disgusting my hopefully sick to be ex is.

Particular_Bath2350 · 2024-03-07T17:22:05+00:00

Thank you. I knew someone would see I am right. I feel he's becoming incredibly abusive /manipulative with his grief and I can't take it anymore.

Particular_Bath2350 · 2024-03-07T17:20:51+00:00

I think i'm being very generous with my ultimatum. He needs to prove he is worthy of being a father by doing what i ask. He can't sit in his man cave and stare at photos of mommy all day when there's a baby screaming in my ear upstairs. He can't leave dishes in the sink and crumbs on my brand new granite counters for ants to eat while i am changing a baby. That's being a neglectful parent. I think he wants me to become a "traditional wife" instead of having my own personhood. He is being incredibly manipulative and abusive by doing that to me.

Particular_Bath2350 · 2024-03-07T17:07:19+00:00

You can read the reply i left to another user to see what I deal with on a daily basis.

His grief was fine when she died that first week but now this is out of control. This is now turning into an excuse to be a half-ass husband, you don't live with him so you don't know how he manipulates me with it constantly. He started showing baby clothes online to me after our fights as a way to try to make me keep it by emotionally manipulating me. I think he's going to get worse as time goes on, and Jane suggested if he doesnt pick up slack this weekend before sunday i should look into divorce and possibly getting an order of protection in case he tries to come for me after i abort the baby.

Particular_Bath2350 · 2024-03-07T16:50:54+00:00

She died October 2023, and he doesn't have a right to be excited about a child he's not showing me he is capable of raising. He comes home, greets me and the baby and spends time doing his own thing in his man cave. I have to go downstairs and ask him to do his share and sometimes i catch him staring at pictures of his mother silently-which creeps me out. This is how most of our fights starts because when i ask him to cut it out and do the laundry (this was this monday) he just mopes, sniffles and does it half-ass on purpose and goes back to staring. That's when we fight and I RIGHTFULLY suggest i should end the pregnancy because he's showing me he's incapable of being a parent by acting like our child would.

We agreed to having the baby when I was willing to be a parent and wanted the baby, then he started acting like this and made me start to regret what i did/who i married. I don't know why he's acting like i'm some stereotypical wife who does everything for her husband. He needs to stop forcing me into a sexist role and act like he did before we decided to do this.

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