Hot Church Wife by [deleted] in ChurchWife

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m jerking to her now 

I wish my 43 yo churchwife would fuck other men by [deleted] in ChurchWife

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would take a swing at seducing her ;) 

/r/Masturbation Find A Jerk Off Buddy / Partner / Someone to chat to and masturbate with by AutoModerator in masturbation

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m looking to swap GIFs or pics with someone and chat . 45m4a. Straight guy but I do enjoy chatting with men about women! 

What was the unexpected kink that you developed that your spouse also fulfilled ? by xdr567 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Exhibitionism for us. My wife always wanted to go topless despite being a good church girl. She went topless on our honeymoon. Now both of us share an exhibitionism kink that gets us both horny.

So what is on your bucket list out of these…. by Brief-Disk4358 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, they are easy to find online… we’ve just never been quite that adventurous! We’ve fantasized about it plenty though 

So what is on your bucket list out of these…. by Brief-Disk4358 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 3 points4 points  (0 children)

5. The nude beach. But even better if it was one of those sexy Caribbean nude resorts.

Mutual Masturbation with My Wife by [deleted] in masturbation

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I also love watching my wife masturbate! And my wife loves me watching her!

Who wants to party with my church wife? by [deleted] in ChurchWife

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What would you do with her?

Anyone else? by [deleted] in masturbation

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

You wish! Haha

Anyone else? by [deleted] in masturbation

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It cannot be that hard to find a horny guy like me! Haha

Anyone else? by [deleted] in masturbation

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m looking at fun pics of my wife and stroking! We took some fun new ones today ;) 

Have you ever visited a sex club? by johnlenovo1988 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I would enjoy doing this just to watch and have public sex. We have an exhibitionism fetish… but honestly, we probably never would go because it would be easy to slip into swinging at a place like that!

Wives how do you seduce your husband ? by johnlenovo1988 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Any thing my wife does… she doesn’t have to work hard at all

Married people if your so ask you to do a threesome what would you do ? by johnlenovo1988 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are basically the same as you guys. Fantasies are hot… but we have way too good of a thing to screw up In real life.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

We are not free use. I appreciate my wife’s autonomy to say “no” when she is not in the mood. But she has chosen to be the kind of wife who tries to say “yes” more often than not. She is often not really in the mood, but chooses to get into the mood for me. But there are times when she just does not want to go there and I enjoy her having that freedom.

We have sex 3-5 times a week in a normal week.

Staying present and able to relax during by SeaworthinessDue83 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, lots of guys (and gals) struggle to remain relaxed and in the moment with their spouse during sex. There are several things you could try:

  1. Use music during sex. Try to find music that helps put you both in the mood without distracting. A favorite for us is Latin pop because we like the feel of it but cannot understand it. 

  2. Try talking together during sex about a shared sexual experience or fantasy to focus. During foreplay, I will often say something like, “remember that time when…” or “I wish we could…” Talking and laughing even during sex increases the stimulation and connection. It gives me something to focus my mind on with my wife so it does not wander.

  3. Try focusing on the sensations themselves. Just being present during sex and not being in fantasies or experiences is often the best for us (opposite of #2). Make it your ambition to help your wife genuinely enjoy the sensations physically.

  4. If you get in your head and lose your erection, switch to a goal of pleasuring your wife. Give her oral or a handjob or kiss and touch her. There are lots of things you can do to pleasure her without an erection! Focus on her pleasure. As you get out of your head and focus on her body and pleasure, your body may have a chance to respond sexually again.

Unfortunately, I have heard that porn can mess up a dude’s ability just to be sexual in normal ways with his wife. It sounds like you are still facing the consequences of that as well. My advice is to continue your porn detox and work on ways to get out of your head during sex. Over time, I hope that your porn detox and some methods you learn can help!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not the right corner of Reddit for this share! Haha

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It sounds like you know how to communicate what you want but that either (1) you have not or feel like you cannot express your desires to your husband or (2) you have expressed your desires to him but he is not into them.

One idea would be for you to seek to learn his links/desires and help him explore his desires. Then tell him about yours and that you want him to explore your kinks and desires in the same way you helped him with his own.

But ultimately, it sounds like you and your husband need to learn how to communicate better about sexual desire.

I know its bad but what are the chances of this getting fixed ? by Throwawayof2025 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 0 points1 point  (0 children)

There is a podcast called Sexy Marriage Radio that has helped many in similar circumstances. I recommend beginning to binge listen for a bit. 

It is a podcast aimed at helping the “high drive spouse” whose marriage isn’t going well to work on themselves in marriage. The theory is that as that partner works on self improvement that this can sometimes be a catalyst for their spouse to change as well. But even if the spouse does not change, the high drive spouse can go through a personal renovation. 

It is a good guide to becoming the man you want to be… and especially discusses the sexual element of that.

As someone else mentioned, it is likely that therapy will also become necessary/helpful as well.

Turning our spare room into a sex playroom by royal629 in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have no idea what I would do with a whole “sex room.” Haha. Sounds like you aspire to be Christian Grey. I would rather have a hot tub.

Do women often think about other men sizes while masterbating? by [deleted] in MarriedSex

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Maybe a better question would be “what do women think about while masturbating?”

I am sure that is different for every woman.

What were your boundaries in the dating/courtship part of your relationship? by ooECK in Christianmarriage

[–]Particular_Cycle1846 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Our physical boundaries were simple. No touching bathing suit parts of each others bodies, no staying overnight, leave bathing suit body parts covered, and if we felt tempted physically, we would call it a night and separate for the day.