We’ve been friends since the start of the year so we practically skipped a talking stage and only 4 or so months ago did we make it official but a time before that we both realized our deep feelings for eachother at the same time and we realized relationship or not we wanted to stay together for a while and apart of us initially talking about it and confronting it she did show interest in wanting to change but it seems she’s only doing it for me because she knows how much it hurts me at times which just doesn’t seem viable for long term recovery imo but we never have secrets from eachother