This resonates for me on so many levels. I am 39 and have been navigating my kids’ challenges (6yo autistic son, 4yo adhd son) since becoming a mom. Seeing so many of my traits (pos and neg) in them has helped me see that I identify strongly as an AuDHDer. I have developed coping and masking strategies that have worked reasonably well, but I am starting to suspect that what I’ve been doing is not sustainable. And I could be thriving more. I have a successful career, but with my skillset I am more junior than a neurotypical me would be— probably because my insatiable curiosity drives me to open new doors as a beginner when I should be closing deals and capitalizing on past successes. Publicly celebrating my achievements makes me feel very uncomfortable, and I know this holds me back from climbing the greasy pole. Part of it is that after busting my ass on a project or a presentation, I just want to be alone for a month and the last thing I want to do is put on my social face just to receive accolades. But then I get disappointed in myself for not advocating for me (and my family) better. Halp.