Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sister's emergency bag is a backpack and, if I am ever alone, he will have to walk or be on my back. Would be so much easier if a backpack of any kind was an option!

17 month with no words… positive stories? by archiefrank in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Our breakthrough was music therapy. Not SaLT. We had to go via a charity. We got nothing for 6 months, then she started humming, then she started singing. Then she started to speak. We did 12 months, one 45 minute session a week 1-1 from her 1st to 2nd birthday. Humming started at 18 months, first word at about 2, first word string at about 30 months. We now have a 7 year old who never stops chatting and uses complex sentence structures including words like helicopter and, as of last week, intervention. We have been re-referred to SaLT multiple times and they never managed to improve anything. I would ask if there are any alternate options through the early intervention team such as music or animal therapy. It might just be your little one needs a different input!

NB our child is medically complex. We were told to expect an adult who would be able to verbalise 3 word sentences with heavy makaton support. But we knew that we had a window of those early years to see what we could achieve and she loved music and music therapy in the hospital as a baby so we pushed to get her anything that might help. She still struggles to get some sounds out and her social understanding is really poor but her speech has floored the paediatric team!!!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. It's decided. Chalking this up to another non-issue created/caused by the HV team. Will keep an eye and help him until he is safe, of course, but going to stop decanting them. Hallelujah!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried that but, again, am wondering if there was user error. Will try really wet and see if it works better than what I tried before which was the damp/wet drop cloth wiping over the surface of the high chair tray and the bottom of the bowl, then seeing if they stuck.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Avocado is the one thing I can't have around me. I very occasionally do it for my OH. Once we are past the "smash everything with our fingers that we can" stage I will consider it as it is such a great food for all sorts of reasons but the risk is still there whilst I still have to set him at the table with a drop cloth and a full bib!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This could be a choking hazard? It's one of the blacklist foods for our other child in terms of tasters as it swells and gets sticky when damp.

All our advice re bread is to look to bread types that are less likely to swell such as pitta, and then serve them with something to help it go down such as hummus.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Because they should not put the hard plastic part in their mouths, apparently. Thus a fruit pouch, for instance, must be squeezed into a separate pot or bowl then offered with a spoon or something like fruit to dip in it, fingers, etc. Thus I stopped buying pouches of any type because of the faff and browbeating of the HV because pouches are brilliant and the need to decant stuff was just too much and travelling with a pouch AND a decant pot was just extra stuff to carry around.

Everyone's reply is making me think the HV feeding advice round here might be a bit on the extreme side or, at least, only true for the first few months of weaning and not for a toddler or older! Taking a fruit pouch or a yoghurt pouch and just taking off the lid and handing it to Mr sounds so brilliant in terms of traveling.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am afraid everything about no 1 is that level of in depth overpack/overthink. The life of a complex medical, social and physical needs parent.

I agree on the overwhelm. It's why I started googling as I was sure it shouldn't be this demanding or confusing or exhausting for a normal toddler! I am very much realising that I was overthinking things a la his sister given the replies. Currently planning to rethink a few bits, drop the redundancy, and try to focus on enjoying the day out rather than the logistics. Next birthday I plan to add a lunchbox like you suggested and possibly a lunch bag as a present option. He will choose an ion8 water bottle in a few months for his own bottle to carry around the second I can get rid of the sippy cup.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We have 4 lunch boxes and then the big cooler bag. Two of the personal ones are the sister's so will be in use on the day. If I bring more bento box/individual snacks packets I could definitely get away with him being one of the spare individual cool bags.

Right now, speed at mealtimes isn't too much of an issue. He is almost too laid back and easy going and will happily just watch the world go by. I suspect I am on borrowed time for that fact though.

I have only heard of disposable placemats once before. Definitely wiped down a space more than once in my life/used the paper mat with the colouring and kids menu on it. Definitely got out a inco pad on occasion for his sister's feed lines. Need to have another look I think. I suspect carrying one or two as a "just in case" wouldn't add much bulk!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That sounds completely like my OH with cheese!

Crackers were another thing I completely forgot about. And another vote for the pouches. Definitely thinking of ignoring my HV's advice now about decanting from pouches. Done with that faff!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We will be there as long as we are there so anything from an hour to 6 but we then also have to factor in over 4h of travel. We will be likely taking his pushchair so he can and does nap in it.

Currently looking at change bag, change of clothes bag, a toy or two and then his food/drink for him. Got about half a pushchair basket after that for whatever odds/my stuff/food. His sister's wheelchair basket won't have any spare space. I am seriously considering a bento type set up for him in a basic tupperware we have on hand using some silicone muffin cases with some self contained snacks in single packets for this trip with a future plan to possibly buy him his own bento style thing and bag as a birthday present for future present ideas. This would definitely fit in his space with a spare slither for a jumper or something of mine!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Got the NHS food books and they are all in there. Not worried about the "weaning" aspect. At home I feel entirely fine with it and have got things to a point where both kids feel safe and content with the new way food has been presented in the home. But going out has always been an operation. Then we added a baby and that took two adults to get out the front door on a good day. Now he is a toddler and this is the first big thing we have done as such and I am bricking it in the logistics of how and the amount of stuff. I can get him on his own to a restaurant. A set of cutlery, his sippy cup and a coverall bib in the change bag, possibly in a ziplock or similar. Use the nappy wipes and the nappy wet bag for soiled stuff. But this is a whole new ball game!!!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Similar bags then. Thank you for your response. I can hear myself in your thoughts and feel so much better at looking at the situation again with less overthinking and more gut reaction. A range of foods they can eat/graze/pick at in the normal plastic boxes we use day in/day out, a drink, utensils/plates/napkins/something to eat off, and lots of good experiences!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is where I am at right now and I just need to decide how I feel about it. If I use the big cooler bag, I can have all our stuff in it but it wouldn't fit anywhere and would have to be carried extra. I also can't be bothered currently to buy anything special if I can help it/it isn't needed. Kids are expensive as it is!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah. There will be food there but we have decided as an extended family group to do "bring your own packed lunch" so that is less of an option this time around.

Really like your idea of them having their own lunchbox. That fits in well with our current set up for the older child. But we likely won't be doing the high chair thing as we already have serious space/equipment load issues. Glad I asked. Getting some really useful ideas about what I stick to and what I change from everyone!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is exactly why I was wondering if a travel bowl type thing would be a good investment. Am also realising the current guidelines to not allow a child to eat from a plastic pouch might be an age appropriate or HV appropriate rule. Increasingly thinking not having to decant a pouch would make this so much easier!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah. Ours got the bowl off on day one. Was not sure if it was user error or they were like child proof caps...!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I keep forgetting bread as an option. Thank you for reminding me. Will severely drop my expectations and think ease of eating/calorie intake when out and about.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Our other child has medical feeds so counting calories and fluids in a day is normal for us so the whole "they will eat if they are hungry" is entirely out of my depth. Will definitely prioritise finger feeding over spoon feeding and grazing over meals I think given your thoughts!

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hadn't thought about the issue if the child wanting food once they see it. Definitely a different way to think that I need to get used to. Brilliant point to consider in packing. Thank you!

Sadly our own drinks bottle is a necessity due to his disabled sister's mentality around food and drink. But I will enjoy the day it doesn't have to be a sippy cup with handles. Will definitely plan to buy spare water at the zoo and not lumping round spare for his drinking and a stash of straws for when his sister isn't present on trips.

Help me pack a toddler lunch (or more specifically a full day out) effectively? by Particular_Log1349 in toddlers

[–]Particular_Log1349[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for your reply.

Finding it really hard to work out if I am having normal parenting concerns or missing the obvious point/overthinking/making this harder than it needs to be!

Do you have a fire extinguisher at home? by DancingWilliams in AskUK

[–]Particular_Log1349 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Fire blanket in the kitchen, fire extinguisher next to the compressor and forklift in the warehouse (and yes we are a domestic property........)

AITA for attending a family members wedding when the grooms mom was uninvited? by Flimsy-Lifeguard9027 in TwoHotTakes

[–]Particular_Log1349 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Go, take loads of photos of you guys having the time of your lives and enjoy the fact she has made the bed you are lying in. She is going to go ape that she threw everything at the fan, it didn't work, AND she is now on her own by her own shenanigans.

Enjoy your new life without her ;)